Neighbour asked us not to do fireworks?

[lockdownqueen]

I'm in a group chat with girls on our new build estate I've sent out a pre warning as hubby has gone and bought some. Everyone was fine and said they will be in there gardens to watch then one of the girls asked us not too as her dog has severe panic attacks.

don't know what to do? Kids have been looking forward to them.

aibu to go ahead and do them?

My dog brings me joy everyday.

Fireworks?

JayAlfredPrufrock

And of course, it’s only what brings you joy that matters. And what brings you joy should matter more to others than what brings them joy...

@Bocadilla

Hopefully fireworks for home sale will be banned shortly

Yes! It has been on the cards for years and nearly happened with many small shops refusing to sell them. Then it gradually crept back.

I suppose the lack of organised firework displays this year will account for more people buying them for the back garden.

my kids are 7 and 5, we usually go to organised events so not anti fireworks but I do refuse to have them in the garden as they do scare and injure animals and I don't want to be responsible for that. told kids we wouldn't be having any because of this and they understood, there were lots going off so they watched them. I wouldn't begrudge neighbours for having them though I don't expect everyone to think the same as myself about it.

people are prioritising the right to use of fireworks over living life. Wtf

@NetflixWatcher

Its bonfire night. They are going off here and my 2 dogs are sleep they're not bothered atall. Apparently my baby nephew is hating them though. Go for it OP it is 1 night a year.

But it's not ONE night a year is it? It's not even ONE week a year. It's weeks of fucking fireworks that sound like bombs going off and make windows rattle.

Yes for for it and sod all the terrified pets, the terrified wildlife, the terrified children, the terrified old people and the terrified who suffer ptsd.

Also don't worry your selfish little minds thinking about fireworks being thrown at emergency workers, at animals, through letterboxes etc.

As long as you have your pathetic fun it's all fine

Fairly obviously’ - loud noises? Music? Running past someone in the street? What else? How much of people’s day-to-day freedom to do ordinary things do you want them to give up, on the grounds that it is ‘obviously’ going to cause distress or fright? Some people are frightened of some fairly innocuous stuff.

This isn’t about what I want. 😆 I don’t WANT people to give up things they enjoy. I just expect people to be considerate. If you can’t work out which things are likely to be annoying or distressing to others and which things aren’t then I don’t really know what to say.

There are responsible dog owners and irresponsible dog owners - the reason that rescue dogs exist are largely to do with irresponsible dog owners. Dogs maul, injure people every year and sometimes kill. Would you expect to be told you couldn’t have a dog because someone else chose to mistreat an animal?. Likewise there are people who are responsible with fireworks and those who are not. They are currently legal to buy and use and until such time as they are not people can use them. We normally have 2 or 3 very big displays at the schools in our locality and this year have only had a couple which did not go on for long. Canvas for them to be illegal if you wish but this night has a long tradition and isn’t going away any time soon.

When I was a child I watched my dog die from a heart attack on bonfire night. It was very traumatic.

I really wish fireworks would be banned. The enjoyment people get from them in no way outweighs the negatives. They scare pets and wildlife. They are bad for the environment. They are so dangerous.

I don’t think people who use them are selfish but I do think they are lacking in empathy of other people’s situations.

I can't believe you went ahead with that. Neighbourly relations will suffer as a result, and you lost the opportunity to teach your children a valuable lesson about empathy. Animals, veterans and disabled people suffer for weeks every year, and people prioritise their desire to see colourful explosives.

@stillsomewhatsheldonesque

Oh, you know. For company after my ex kicked twenty colours out of me. To replace the void that was left after my babies didn’t make it. So that I wouldn’t be totally alone.

Don’t worry though. I’m sat here, unselfish again because she died. And I’m very unselfishly dealing with ptsd on my own.

@picklemewalnuts

Thing is being out in the car with fireworks is Terrifying too.

My dog leapt from the boot of the car across the seats and on to my lap while I was driving.

Many of the fireworks sold in supermarkets are not suitable for the majority of houses. I bought a few, read the small print at home and discovered that you needed to be 25m away from any structure. I only knew one person with a suitable garden, bordered by fields. Ridiculous to sell them in city supermarkets.

So your dog was inadequately restrained? Do you know what can happen if you have an accident with something unrestrained like that? Never mind your dog may cause an accident by distracting the driver. I think you need to look at your dog/car situation before you pick on others enjoying bonfire night

Well . . . . it's quarter to 11, and there are still fireworks being set off runs here. Started before 4, so 7 and 1/2 hours of noise and flashing lights driving my animals daft with fear.

But hey - it's only for a few minutes once a year, isn't it?

Tossers.

For me the wording would be what made it reasonable/ unreasonable. We are having a few fireworks at this time, will be less than ten minutes juts to give you a heads up- you're being reasonable. Would you mind if we set off a few fireworks- then u reasonable as you've asked for permission as opposed to informed. That gives people the perceived option of saying please don't.

So your dog was inadequately restrained? Do you know what can happen if you have an accident with something unrestrained like that?

Not necessarily - a panic-stricken animal can achieve things it couldn't normally do.

The same way that tiny women can lift a car off their child in an accident - the adrenaline rush is surprising.

Hopefully you had time to tell your husband to get low noise ones. We had ours earlier. Our garden shredder is louder than our fireworks were.

An outright ban would just mean people get illegal ones anyway, which means any hope of reasonable regulation is lost. Happens in many parts of the world.

I just wish people wouldn't have fireworks at home. Relative got killed by one. Dog used to be so terrified. Law should change. We cant buy guns, explosives fone?????

Fine not fone

I think people who have fireworks in their own gardens are selfish arseholes. I have a traumatised rescue dog who was shot at and an 80 year-old grandmother with dementia and PTSD from the Warrington Bombing but as long as your kidywinks enjoy themselves that's fine.

Personally, I wouldn't have asked if I was just going to set them off anyway despite what people said. I get it was courteous of you to ask but you was probably not expecting anyone to say no to you letting them off. So, now that they have, you're just going to do what you had planned anyway. In that sense I would probably not set them off.

I mean it's 11pm now, so you've probably already done it.

I have absolutely no problem with bonfire NIGHT, what bugs me is people letting them off days before the night and days after. It does get a bit annoying.

I have an 8 month old baby. Luckily, it doesn't disturb her but if it did or I had pets that it affected, I'd probably feel slightly differently.

I love fireworks, always have done, I just wish people were a little more responsible with them.

@stillsomewhatsheldonesque

Oh, you know. For company after my ex kicked twenty colours out of me. To replace the void that was left after my babies didn’t make it. So that I wouldn’t be totally alone.

Don’t worry though. I’m sat here, unselfish again because she died. And I’m very unselfishly dealing with ptsd on my own.

Huge hugs from me too, @stillsomewhatsheldonesque.

Animals. Babies. Elderly

Hate them!

Should be banned

They should be fucking banned too many idiots get their hands on them. A horrible news article appeared on my Facebook today, some wankers strapped a rocket to an innocent little rabbit. Disgusting.