Neighbour asked us not to do fireworks?

[lockdownqueen]

I'm in a group chat with girls on our new build estate I've sent out a pre warning as hubby has gone and bought some. Everyone was fine and said they will be in there gardens to watch then one of the girls asked us not too as her dog has severe panic attacks.

don't know what to do? Kids have been looking forward to them.

aibu to go ahead and do them?

I would like to see home displays banned, I absolutely love fireworks but displays in people's gardens tend to be antisocial and dangerous (plus they're generally a bit shit because fireworks are expensive and not many people can afford to put on a very impressive display).

The NHS dealt with 2000 firework/bonfire related incidents last year- I'm sure they could do without that this year.

YABU. Animals (and some people) are really traumatised by fireworks.

@saraclara

I how you went ahead, OP. Because everyone else is. You not having them in your garden will make no difference to the dog, because other people are letting them off.

Also, sorry, but kids trump dogs right now. They've missed out on pretty much everything since March. 15 minutes of excitement and joy is reasonable.

Yup. Because kids seeing shiny bangy lights trumps combat PTSD sufferers and every other person with similar difficulties like sirzy poor DS everytime coz covid.

Typical empty-headed wankery. Utterly dim.

Go for sparklers and a bonfire, but nothing that makes a loud noise. Too many animals are terrified by them.

@Shitonthebloodything

I never understand this. If people know their pets are going to be frightened at this time of year, every year then isn't there something they can do about it? Maybe I'm just being heartless because I'm not a dog person and my cats have never been bothered by them but surely it's to be expected each year.

Not that easy. I have friends with sensitive dogs and they are heartbroken and helpless watching this.

For what it's worth I don't think OP should not do fireworks for a dog but I don't think that flippant attitude helps either.

Er, did anyone not get the bit about not doing fireworks at home, for fairly obvious reasons?

Two dogs have now gone missing in our village, run away terrified of the horrible things. I have 2 kids and we wouldn’t even consider setting off fireworks in our garden. You have to teach your kids basic human empathy!
Lots of selfish selfish people here who justify their actions even though they know they are in the wrong.

It is not inconsiderate for someone to run up behind me while jogging
We’ll have to disagree there!
I also hate it and I think it is extremely rude.

I used to jog and must get back into it and would never jog/run up right behind people because they don’t expect it and it startles them, myself included.

Agree that jogging up behind people unexpectedly is definitely bad manners and I would hope most decent people would avoid doing it.

It is unlikely to be dangerous to humans and wildlife though, nor will it cause excessive waste.

I also hate it and I think it is extremely rude.

So you actually expect someone out for a run to stop running because you are there, in case they see you? What if they are timing their run? What if they are in training for the Olympics? People have lives, and they don’t have to organise their lives around me and my preferences. If I am jumpy, it’s my job to be more aware of what is happening around me, not their job to interrupt their normal daily activities to pander to me.

Agree that jogging up behind people unexpectedly is definitely bad manners and I would hope most decent people would avoid doing it.

Complete rubbish. I hate it but I accept they have every right to run from A to B without catering for that fact.

My mistake. I thought this was about fireworks, not jogging and dog shit.

Its bonfire night. They are going off here and my 2 dogs are sleep they're not bothered atall. Apparently my baby nephew is hating them though. Go for it OP it is 1 night a year.

Animals regularly die from fright from fireworks so it is very selfish. I had a cat with a heart condition who died on bonfire night of a heart attack despite sedatives a a blanket lined box under the stairs.
A cousin of mine had half his nose blown off by a rogue firework too, he used to be handsome but thanks to the ugly scar across his face and his burnt hands he no longer is.
Fireworks should be banned except in public displays in wide open spaces.

My mistake. I thought this was about fireworks, not jogging and dog shit.hmm

So you actually expect someone out for a run to stop running because you are there, in case they see you? What if they are timing their run? What if they are in training for the Olympics? People have lives, and they don’t have to organise their lives around me and my preferences. If I am jumpy, it’s my job to be more aware of what is happening around me, not their job to interrupt their normal daily activities to pander to me
As I said, I just absolutely despair at how utterly, utterly self absorbed and selfish people are.
With fireworks, dogs, kids, Brexit, corona, you name it.
Just no consideration whatsoever for anyone else.
What a time to be alive!

MrsJunglelow

Is that a yes? You are jumpy, so you expect to be able to wander round minding your own business, and to have other people going for a run minding their own business pandering to your nervousness in the street by interrupting their exercise? But they are self-absorbed? Ha!

Apparently my baby nephew is hating them though. Go for it OP it is 1 night a year.

Tell her to give the dog a sedative or take it out. And if she knows the dog does this, and knows someone, somewhere, every year will be letting off fireworks at some point, then why hasn't she planned to deal with the dog?

I don't think people should be allowed to buy fireworks fir personal use but that's a different argument.

I would not be considering the needs of a neighbours dog in how I love my life. Especially when she can attend to its needs through meds or bugger off for a couple of hours down a quiet back lane.

Every year we hear the same stuff.

hahahaha.It's turning into a cat fight! See what I did there?

I’d still do it. Everyone else will be doing and even if they succeed in stopping the public from buying fireworks there will still be public displays so pet owners will just have to deal with it and take precautions, just like I do with my DC who dosnt like the bangs. She’s fast asleep with an iPad on her bedside cabinet drowning out the bangs. I alternate between the white noise and lullaby’s.

It's turning I meant. Must be all the wine......

@Franklyfrost

I clean shit off the kids shoes, bike tyres and our front garden. I’ve been kept awake for nights on end by barking. My children have been frightened, I’ve been bitten twice as have various friends and family. I smile politely when I’m jumped on and licked. And I’m not asking anyone not to have dogs. So maybe a couple of nights a year there could be a brief noise?

Yeah this. Fucking hell the dogs and dog shit EVERYWHERE. And now we have to live our lives based around what peoples bloody dogs want? Ha no thanks.

Selfish owner expecting loads of children to give up their bonfire night when there's been very little for them this year already.