Neighbour asked us not to do fireworks?

[lockdownqueen]

I'm in a group chat with girls on our new build estate I've sent out a pre warning as hubby has gone and bought some. Everyone was fine and said they will be in there gardens to watch then one of the girls asked us not too as her dog has severe panic attacks.

don't know what to do? Kids have been looking forward to them.

aibu to go ahead and do them?

@namechangefail2020

Her dog isn't more important than your kids. She can take him for a walk for a bit. It's once and kids need their fun right now and as much normality as poss.

My dogs are more important to me than other people's kids, including yours believe it or not. So I can only presume the neighbour's dog is, in her opinion, more important than the OP's kids.

Bonfire night is a part of life. If her dog is that.stresed she should have made plans to take him out , perhaps in the car to a quiet place for a few hours or keep him at home and manage as best she can.

@justicedanceson

I’ve had animals all my life and never known one frightened if kept indoors and given a calm stroke. I do find it a bit strange. It’s not bonfire night, you’re allowed to have fireworks and enjoy them. She was unreasonable to try to stop you when it’s a normal thing to do on this night.

I'm glad your animals are fine, I'm not sure what you find strange though. My sister has a gorgeous rescue Staffy, it's awful to see her when fireworks go off, she has a thunder jacket, calming tablets and a diffuser thing. NOTHING helps, she's a shivering, whimpering, heart pounding pile of terror.

@lockdownqueen

I'm in a group chat with girls on our new build estate I've sent out a pre warning as hubby has gone and bought some. Everyone was fine and said they will be in there gardens to watch then one of the girls asked us not too as her dog has severe panic attacks.

don't know what to do? Kids have been looking forward to them.

aibu to go ahead and do them?

Tell them what time you plan to set them off and she can take the dog out.

So if you have a sensitive dog, maybe go for a motorway drive at the worst time on Bonfire Night.

So you want the motorways filled with cars full of panicking dogs for hours during lockdown? sounds safe.

Oh please what a load of shit. You have decided it’s more important to you that your kids aren’t mildly disappointed than the health and well-being of your neighbours pet. You could have used this to teach your kids about empathy and respect towards others but instead you have been a selfish twat. Let’s hope you never need a favour in return from that neighbour

Oh FFS, this is one neighbour out of several who has a problem with fireworks. Luckily OP has mainly normal people on her estate who enjoy watching fireworks so she'll have plenty of people to ask favours from if needed.

I remember I had an ex-Military PTSD patient who was in absolute terror at this time of the year.

And a PP has posted how her son with PTSD is in an awful state due to fireworks.

Think of the HUGE number of ex-service personnel who live rough - the vast majority of them with MH problems caused by what they have experienced.

Nobody thinks of them when they are setting off fireworks . . .

. . . but in a few days the country will be remembering their sacrifice.

What hypocrisy!

So you want the motorways filled with cars full of panicking dogs for hours during lockdown?

Obviously not if it isn’t helpful. If it is helpful the dog won’t be panicking.

you're fine, the heads up is so that she can take steps to make her dog happy not so you can not do what you want in your own garden.
very considerate of you
she can shut the curtains and put on some white noise for the dog to drown out the fireworks.

if you don't do it, others will and the dog will still need comforting regardless

Do you often have difficulty following a thread? Posters were telling OP she is selfish for letting off fireworks and I find this funny given how many selfish dog owners let their dogs shit everywhere and approach people. It’s pretty simple

And I was telling you that both those things were unreasonable and everyone would agree. Not sure it’s me having trouble with reading

My dog barks and gets anxious a little but isn't too bad with fireworks and when its one night it's fine but round here its weeks
My old dog was petrified and we had to sedate him for couple weeks and once came home to a very scared dog who had scratched a door to pieces because of fireworks, it was several weeks after so we didn't expect them yet apparently a neighbour had them so we would of been grateful for a heads up like you are giving , and im sure you won't be only one.
Although i am in the camp who thinks fireworks should be display only as seen too many idiots messing around with them around here , some letting off at 2 am

You've warned her, that's all you can be expected to do! Fireworks are going off all around here tonight. If you're not doing the, someone else is.

We had someone on the local Facebook page saying "are there going to be fireworks tonight and if so what time", she was answered with a chorus of yes loads and expect them all night.

As someone said, you're giving a heads up, not asking anyone's permission and nor do you need anyone's permission.

Hope you enjoyed them.

These threads are so pointless.

For some bizarre reason it’s entirely legal to buy fireworks and people are so utterly selfish, like the OP, it doesnt matter what anybody on a thread says, they don’t actually care that some animals are so petrified they actually end up dying, and I’m not just referring to dogs but rabbits, guinea pigs, cats, livestock like horses and sheep and others.

Not to mention the human sufferers, the refugees with PTSD reminded of the shells, the war veterans, the noise sensitive autism sufferers etc etc.
But hey, as long as you and your kids get to see the pretty patterns and ooh and ahh at the bangs who gives a shit for anyone else eh?
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Wow the selfish twats are out in force for this one.

YABU and cruel. Dreadful bloody things fireworks.

There are currently three local dogs missing where I am, all got scared and ran off because of fireworks tonight. Dread to think how some horses and ponies are coping too.

So I posted earlier. I guess we have new neighbours because we’ve never had fireworks like this. They’re coming from either over the road or the next street I can’t quite tell. I take precautions like walking to dog earlier, loud tv / music etc. But how do I take precautions against fireworks so loud they’re shaking my windows and flaming debris is falling over the street?

I have a 3 month old being woken up at the moment and it's driving me mad. However I know that it would be unreasonable for me to ask them to stop !! Its only one night of the year. In Wouldn't want to comment on how ot effects dogs as I have never owned one .

My Dogs love fireworks !! However, I have seen videos of poor little creatures that are traumatised by them. So are old people, autistic people, people that live alone. etc . They are pointless. Something celebrating from 1605 ??? . Waste of time and money and making so many people/animals unhappy... Hate them.. environmentally bad also

I have three dogs but I would and do have fireworks.

And I absolutely agree about antisocial dog owners all year round. The amount of dog shit I Wade through on my walks is unbelievable.

I think that evens it up.

@lockdownqueen

We have only bought a few anyway, I have told her the time we're doing it and that it won't be for long. I can't do anything else

Yes you can: you can not set off the fireworks. But it’s likely you already have.

Why bother giving a heads up if you weren’t willing to accept and react to feedback?

Its only one night of the year
You must be joking?!
They are on sale for weeks and let off for bonfire night (obviously), New year, Diwali, birthdays, weddings...

Threads like this really remind me of how there are two types of people in the world....the selfish and those who actually have empathy.

Shame on you for still considering fireworks when you have been told that an animal will be terrified by your actions. A different breed honestly.

@Smallsteps88

Do you often have difficulty following a thread? Posters were telling OP she is selfish for letting off fireworks and I find this funny given how many selfish dog owners let their dogs shit everywhere and approach people. It’s pretty simple

And I was telling you that both those things were unreasonable and everyone would agree. Not sure it’s me having trouble with reading

And as I said, dog fouling is an offence and letting fireworks loose is not!

You seem to need things repeated to you.

Oh dear @stackemhigh

dog fouling is an offence and letting fireworks loose is not!

Both are an offence if in a public space.