Neighbour asked us not to do fireworks?

[lockdownqueen]

I'm in a group chat with girls on our new build estate I've sent out a pre warning as hubby has gone and bought some. Everyone was fine and said they will be in there gardens to watch then one of the girls asked us not too as her dog has severe panic attacks.

don't know what to do? Kids have been looking forward to them.

aibu to go ahead and do them?

Very cruel to go ahead in these circumstances

@Smallsteps88
Poor little lad. I really feel for you and him. My DN has a sensory processing disorder and is so upset by them too. So sad that people do not care about others who do not enjoy what they call fun.

I wish people would stop saying "take the dog out for a walk for a bit".

Not. A. Fucking. Clue.

I couldn’t go ahead knowing I was causing an animal distress.

Why not drop round and have a chat?

Is there someone else’s garden you could use, or could you ask her to take to dog out for a drive in the time slot?

She will never forgive you if you just ignore this

Thanks @Jakie7700. It’s not fun at all trying to calm him down!

@Inastatus yes ddog is terrified usually panting, pacing and shaking. She's snoozed through a lot of them and for the rest she's happy enough on the sofa next to me so a massive improvement.

I’ve had animals all my life and never known one frightened if kept indoors and given a calm stroke. I do find it a bit strange.
It’s not bonfire night, you’re allowed to have fireworks and enjoy them. She was unreasonable to try to stop you when it’s a normal thing to do on this night.

It IS bonfire night that should say

My dog is doped up and coping but still afraid. It wouldn’t be so bad if there hadn’t been fireworks being let off for the past 10 days or so. You can’t drug them every day. She had to be drugged for Halloween because of the volume of fireworks going off.

The next door neighbours on one side have been letting off very loud fireworks for the past 2 hours very close to our shared boundary. They’re obviously enjoying it. When I let my dog out to bark at 6 am on Sunday morning I’ll enjoy it. If they can be thoughtless cunts...

Going to sound like a bitch here but... nobody has to buy a dog. People don’t have to manage their lives around your decision to do so. Unfortunately. So if you have a sensitive dog, maybe go for a motorway drive at the worst time on Bonfire Night. The car noise should help. But people aren’t going to just never light a firework again. Sorry.

Please, don’t.

I currently have a petrified dog.
He is 10, he never used to be scared of them, its something that has started over the last few years.

I still had a few fireworks this year, and don't begrudge my neighbours having fun either.

I have done all I can to make him feel calm.

Hees sat in my teenagers room, low lightning, the cats bed 🙄 and a white noise machine, last I checked, he wasn't even panting, just laying there calmly.

All about give and take and respecting each other, without thinking your needs are far superior to anyone else's.

People saying “take your dog out for a walk during it” have no clue about dog behaviour. My dog won’t go for a walk. I took her out at 3.30 and she heard a firework and she turned and ran home. It’s incredibly ignorant to suggest taking a terrified animal out where it can see and hear even more fireworks.

I loathe fireworks. I long for the day they bastard things are banned.

Will she reimburse you then.. Doubt it.

It’s not just pets who are scared.
Tonight a neighbours have been so low we thought they’d hit our car Very Loud & frightening
I am fine with organised displays it’s peoples choice to attend but in gardens on close housing estates it’s a hazard. We go for a walk every night normally but not tonight . Too many selfish idiots

@Smallsteps88

My own child has SEN and can’t cope with fireworks. Halloween was awful for him (and us) he was still a nervous wreck all day Sunday.

This is the worst time of year for us.

Ds is out from under the sofa but still snuggled with ear defenders on.

Hope your son has a peaceful evening

I think its really unreasonable of your neighnour to ask you not to.

@hiredandsqueak - thanks. I’m just on Amazon ordering one!

@Smallsteps88

Except that fireworks are legal and fouling the streets with dog shit is an offence!

So I’m not sure why you made the comparison then, knowing that you’re not comparing like for like bit silly of you.

Do you often have difficulty following a thread? Posters were telling OP she is selfish for letting off fireworks and I find this funny given how many selfish dog owners let their dogs shit everywhere and approach people. It’s pretty simple 🤷‍♀️

@Smallsteps88
I can only imagine how upsetting it is for him. Just so horrible that it is totally preventable by either people not letting them off at all or at least trying to have some respect for others and getting ones that are no noise. But I suppose like in all walks of life there is always people who don't care about others.

@firstimemamma

That's a tough one. Dogs can sometimes die when very stressed by fireworks - something to consider.

Not a tough one at all.

The neighbour should reasonably assume - it being 5th November and all - that there will be fireworks. If she hasn't taken the precautions to safeguard her pet then that's her fault.

Will dogs wear ear defenders?

I wish people would stop saying "take the dog out for a walk for a bit".

Yes. Stupid stupid people. Because even if I could get my 40kg retriever out from the space between my chair and the wall and drag him outside, he'd quickly get scared, slip his lead and probably get run over, pull me or one of the kids over. Either way more work for the local A&E tonight.

If your kids are traumatised by not being able to hear bangs and look at brief flashes of chemicals then there's something seriously wrong with your parenting.

I know other people will be setting off fireworks but I think YWBU to go ahead now.

I don't think it sends the right message to your kids - knowing an animal is scared to the point of a panic attack but putting your enjoyment first. Not very empathetic and not an example I'd want to set

@Lazypuppy

Laugjing at the posters who think you can get a terrified dog out in the car or the qalk in the middle of fireworks!😂🤦‍♀️

My poor dog is hiding under the table shaking uncontrollably, but don't worry as long as you enjoy the bangs 👍🏻

You can’t be that worried about your dog if you’re laughing