I think that one of the reasons people get frustrated is Trump. Bear with me. When the woke (and I'm talking about relatively priviledged young, white people) get caught in purity spirals and nothing but absolute adherence to the Party Line is acceptable, it means there is no debate. So some working class factory worker complains that the EU workers mean that his bosses pay less money and he gets called a xenophobe/racist and shut down. Some blue hair metaphorically spit-talks at him about how he's priviledged and needs to check his thoughts. Online, shaming him in front of everyone.
Or women concerned about the Cologne attacks.
Or my Church friends concerned that their priest will be legally forced to marry gay people if he doesn't think it's in the Church's laws.
Or parents in schools who are worried because they've heard their 4 yo will be taught about masturbation.
If these people are all told they are homophobes', racists, xenophobes, bigots, they WILL find someone to talk to. And that someone is Trump. Or Boris, or the Brexit Party or Breitbart or MN (this hotbed of violent transphobia). If they are told they are killing babies with their opinions they won't voice those opinions but will still vote with them. All the polls were wrong in the US because of this.
Open debate, even with people you don't agree with. Assuming that the other person has a valid point, even if it's not your point. Assuming that other people aren't all hateful, just scared, concerned, maybe working with faulty data. How can you talk to them about the actual facts if they have walked off after being insulted?
And worst of all, the woke often (not always) aren't the ones delivering food to the elderly or keeping the Church play group open. Or volunteering at the shelters over Christmas. Nope, that's the bigots. All those dreadful Trump voters in Texas who are evil scum. Lovely people in person. Not the red-hatted twats. The silent ones who just vote. So something has gone badly wrong.
Disclaimer: I have never voted right of centre and am in favour of the EU, immigration and equal marriage. I just don't think all the people with concerns are evil Nazis.