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Original poster

Calling all MN men - viewpoints needed on escorts..

143 replies

Conchinilla · 31/10/2020 08:21

Do nearly all men search online for escorts out of 'curiosity' with no intention of taking it any further? I'm told by my DP that 'all men do this'.
AIBU- yes they do

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Thehop · 31/10/2020 08:22

Most, but not all.

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Conchinilla · 31/10/2020 08:23

And if so and it's 'normal', why?

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TheMobileSiteMadeMeSignup · 31/10/2020 08:26

I'm not a man but your DP is lying.

Glitterandunicorns · 31/10/2020 08:27

I'm not a man, but I wouldn't believe this for a second.

Thisismylife1 · 31/10/2020 08:28

There will certainly be some who do, of course! Suggest you discuss this with your DP if you have concerns.

SpeccyLime · 31/10/2020 08:33

Er, what?

No, this is not something all men do, your DP is fobbing you off with a lie.

MinnieMD · 31/10/2020 08:34

I have personally searched for escorts in my area, I have absolutely no intention of booking one but do admit to being very curious about pricing, booking procedures and even reviews left. I think it was after a thread like this actually.
Do I think it’s an ‘all men thing’? Certainly not.

Bookriddle · 31/10/2020 08:37

I personally havent search online, even out of curiosity!
I remember a friend telling me about a site called adultwork or something, saying you can pit filters in to search for shat you like!

NiceGerbil · 31/10/2020 08:44

Mine googles how to better paint his little orcs and things.

It's certainly possible he's googling websites to pay a woman to consent to sex she wouldn't otherwise want. But I think it's unlikely.

Not much point in asking though is there!

These threads usually attract a very tedious group of men who say AMALT (why don't they have to NAMALT?), all men enjoy the sexual exploitation of women because a. Women aren't really people b. They all love it and c. If you don't believe that all men in the whole world are like this then you're a naive prude and jealous of women who get paid by nasty misogynists for access to their bodies. Or something...

I think there's some kind of script.

Snoozysnoozy · 31/10/2020 08:44

I have, much like MinnieMD no intent to book but I was surprised how easy it was to find

Esmeralda1988 · 31/10/2020 09:23

@NiceGerbil are you a fellow Warhammer widow?!

WoooImAGhost · 31/10/2020 09:35

Who cares? Even if every man on Mumsnet did that would just mean they're all sleazy fuckers who think that abusing women is fine as long as they pay for it.

Whatup · 31/10/2020 09:37

Warhammer widow?? Blimey my sympathies.

midgebabe · 31/10/2020 09:40

DH says ford escorts are a real classic?

DadDadDad · 31/10/2020 09:45

Man here! Grin

It has never occurred to me for search for this kind of thing, and I'm really not interested.

Soontobe60 · 31/10/2020 09:46

I suppose you he could just be having a nosey, i search for all sorts out of curiosity. But I’ve never searched for a prostitute / escort / porn.

Thehop · 31/10/2020 09:49

Has he given you any other reasons to worry OP?

Regardless of what we think, if it’s a no for you then that’s fine!

BubblyBarbara · 31/10/2020 09:52

I Google all sorts of nonsense I never actually want to do or buy to be honest though it is usually antique teapots and not slappers

Macncheeseballs · 31/10/2020 09:52

Sleazy behaviour

aLilNonnyMouse · 31/10/2020 09:54

I'm a straight woman and I've looked out of curiosity. But then I'm the type to look up any passing thought I have. I just like finding out useless random knowledge.

I don't think all men would look it up, but I know quite a few like me who would look with 0 intentions to actually do anything.

Gancanny · 31/10/2020 09:55

Mine googles how to better paint his little orcs and things.

are you a fellow Warhammer widow?!

@NiceGerbil and @Esmeralda1988 mine also googles how to paint his little figures and his current googling is all about how to go a step further and make his own figures from silicone and resin (said in the tone of voice that suggests he thinks I'm as excited by this as he is).

RandomLondoner · 31/10/2020 10:03

Some men research cars they are interested in despite knowing that for various practical reasons they will never buy them. I think it's plausible that he was merely window-shopping.

ErrolTheDragon · 31/10/2020 10:03

I'm 100% sure DH doesn't.
No, it's not 'normal'. I guess it's only done by the subset of men who see women as objects for their gratification.

Men don't all google how to paint orcs either, though it's quite funny that's the commonest search mentioned so far.

ErrolTheDragon · 31/10/2020 10:05

@RandomLondoner

Some men research cars they are interested in despite knowing that for various practical reasons they will never buy them. I think it's plausible that he was merely window-shopping.
If he's the sort of man who things a woman is a buyable commodity then I suppose that analogy might work. Hmm
Macncheeseballs · 31/10/2020 10:05

It's not acceptable 'window shopping' though, these are real people in the local area, i would be pissed off if my dh was doing that