Calling all MN men - viewpoints needed on escorts..

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Do nearly all men search online for escorts out of 'curiosity' with no intention of taking it any further? I'm told by my DP that 'all men do this'.
AIBU- yes they do

@LuckyAmy1986

Not a man but DP is and he says that no, men don’t tend to look up escorts out of “curiosity" Ok, well maybe he doesn't, but how can he speak for all men?!

and, completely agree @Buccanarab, as if they would say yes! (if they had)

Yes but the op’s husband can’t speak for all men either.

I think searching for something means you want it. I look at clothes all day, I’m not going to buy them all, but the more I look the more likely I am to buy something.

Unless, for example, you read a thread like this and look for morbid curiosity.

@nicegerbil I've paid for sex with a male in a brothel when I was single.
It might not be as commonplace in the UK.

I'm a straight man. I've never looked at a prostitute's website, even though my partner would be cool with it. I'm curious what it would be kind to be intimate with a professional, but I think the people who do go that route are slightly loser-ish.

Surely if it was out of curiosity with no intention of taking it further women would be having a regular nosey too?

I suspect anyone that is looking is sussing it out. What’s out there, how much does it cost? Men don’t really look at things or spend time on things they aren’t interested in.

My Google search history would have nuns fainting. Usually on the back of some MN thread, but also curiosity.

DP. nope. He's too much of a 'nervous nelly' to Google anything that might get him 'in trouble' (with the law, not me!)

But your average happily partnered bloke, probably not. No. Especially if they like theur balls attached to their bodies 🤷🏻‍♀️

Do you look up escorts out of curiosity? If not, why would your average man?

But I’d leave him for the sheer lack of respect he has for you, given that he expected you to believe that bollocks.

Even if all men did this OP (and no, they don't) - you're still allowed to not like it, even if it was somehow a theoretical nosey around.

I’m not a man, but I have browsed Adultwork occasionally. I learned, somewhat to my surprise, that prostitutes come in all ages, shapes & sizes and that clients have very diverse tastes. It appears to be an egalitarian profession.

It's not "curiosity" beyond wondering what kind of miserywank you could get out of looking at women that you know are possibly vulnerable and certainly available

Any other women feel sick at being in the same category as transport, holidays and scrap metal...

Yes. Disgusting.

No, not all men do this.

@Notverybright yes I agree. But the OP asked about it whereas the other PP said it as if it was fact.

Just asked my DP this, giving no context, and he looked like his head was about to explode from the confusion! He does not understand why anyone would do this. No, definitely not something all men do.

from the confusion

lol

I've looked at most weird things on the internet but have to say I've not gone browsing for escorts. Maybe I will now, where do I go look? Are there good reputable websites? Ideally more middle class, e.g. Boden, Joules, knows how to use an Aga etc.

I'm a bloke, and you must be joking. Escorts are so far removed from my world, I can't even imagine.

No, not all men do that, of course not. My DH wouldn’t even think about such a thing, and neither would my BILs.

There obviously are sleazy men around, I’m a survivor of childhood SA so I know this as well as anyone. But equally obviously, there are a lot of decent men around who are completely disgusted by the way other men behave.

My husband looked at me like I had two heads when I asked him. So no!

I don't think all men do, but it's definitely not uncommon (I know more than one who has).

Asked DH, he’s never googled escorts. He’s another googler for how to better paint orks and make stompas.

Waves at fellow warhammer widows @Gancanny, @NiceGerbil and @Esmeralda1988

Well I have - primarily to see if the Chinese Herbal place was as I believed a brothel - news flash it was. I’ve also searched to see if Erotic Massage for women was a “ thing” - news flash... it is. The last one was prompted by a friend of a friend who went on holiday and got a massage with a happy ending. However, I am female. I dare say some men would be curious but no one can say “ all men” to anything... my OH doesn’t even like football or drinking lager.

By the way... I just put the name of the Chinese Her al place, the town and added “ punting” and found all the reviews

I clicked YANBU and then I asked my DH - as we often speak about threads on here, what his opinion was. I was flabbergasted when he said very casually ‘oh yeah, most men have done that at some time or other’. He proceeded to assure me that he hasn’t personally done that since we when we were together but would have looked out of curiosity once or twice when he was looking at porn and previously in an unhappy relationship or single, but never acted upon it and never more than a couple of times. He said it was a curiosity thing.

I’m now quite annoyed with him and am going to be inspecting his search history later!!

WilsonMilson first honest response on the thread tbh

The women saying your husbands can't even begin to imagine that other men might like to look at frequently attractive naked ladies, just consider that for a second

Well at least he is honest - he actually laughed when I asked.
I feel a bit peeved but suppose it would have been worse if he feigned outrage and claimed he would never have done such a thing.

I once googled the clothing company misdemeanour in Manchester to see what had happened to them -well that was eye opening!