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Original poster

To think this is a bit disrespectful?

96 replies

Jericoo · 30/10/2020 18:02

If an adult child brings their SO to visit their old family home, and in full view of their parents and siblings, start to kiss passionately? It was so uncomfortable I had to leave the room.

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SleepingStandingUp · 30/10/2020 18:50

@Jericoo

I did get a sense of showing off in some way, but I thought I must be perceiving it wrong because why would you want to show off in that way to your family? It's not like you're trying to get back at an ex or something, it's your family Halloween Confused
Have you got a partner op? Was it a ha ha look at me, I'm totally getting laid tonight and your alone?
MonClareDevole · 30/10/2020 18:51

Are they a same sex couple by any chance?

HalloweenGhostlyHare · 30/10/2020 18:51

@MustardMitt

Full on snogging in public is acceptable only with randoms in a bar Grin

YANBU.

TBF that's how I met DH
COPPER3 · 30/10/2020 18:56

Just wish I knew what SO means? (sorry)

JaffaCake70 · 30/10/2020 18:57

Eww!

JaffaCake70 · 30/10/2020 18:58

@COPPER3

Just wish I knew what SO means? (sorry)
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Mydogmylife · 30/10/2020 19:02

Cringefest!!!! I think I would have had to say something jokey ( but whole in earnest !!) like 'put her/him down X you don't know where they've been ' or something similar

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Jericoo · 30/10/2020 19:02

That's awful, spacewitch99. I'm so sorry to hear that, he sounds like an absolute tool.

Yes I have never had a partner, but I would hate to think my sibling would do that... I don't think he pays enough attention to me to bother being malicious anyway.

No not same sex couple

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Jericoo · 30/10/2020 19:03

I don't know how I can look either of them in the face again now, I might mention to my parents that it made me uncomfortable and see if they feel the same? Maybe it would be better to pretend it never happened

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CloudyVanilla · 30/10/2020 19:03

My sibling has done this too, it's grim and so cringe. Why are you getting all touchy feely on eachother in front of family??

Would it surprise you to know they have a rocky relationship...

Spacecudet · 30/10/2020 19:03

This made me laugh so much. I don't mind PDA. Don't see it as disrespectful, realise I am outnumbered.

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Jericoo · 30/10/2020 19:04

@Mydogmylife That really made me laugh! Grin

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SleepingStandingUp · 30/10/2020 19:05

@Spacecudet

This made me laugh so much. I don't mind PDA. Don't see it as disrespectful, realise I am outnumbered.
That's fine but now your sister is telling you it's gross so stop it! 🤣
aSofaNearYou · 30/10/2020 19:05

You never said OP, how long did it go on for?

Evenstar · 30/10/2020 19:06

My cousin took his boyfriend in holiday in a caravan with his mum. The boyfriend posted on Facebook to say how much he was looking forward to the holiday adding “If the caravan’s rocking, don’t come knocking” 😳 YANBU OP there is a time and a place.

CatsAndEyeliner · 30/10/2020 19:07

Are they a same sex couple by any chance?
^ what’s that got to do with it @MonClareDevole ?

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Jericoo · 30/10/2020 19:11

@aSofaNearYou

You never said OP, how long did it go on for?
Sorry aSofa, I must have missed your post! I don't know, I had to leave the room because I couldn't handle it. Actually maybe it was bad to abandon the others like that!
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MonClareDevole · 30/10/2020 19:11

@CatsAndEyeliner Was just thinking of reasons for the behaviour. in some families, people feel the need to make a point about their sexuality e.g. through PDAs. Speaking from experience.

MiriamMargo · 30/10/2020 19:13

If i were to witness such a display, I would have piped up and told them in no uncertain terms and embarrassed them completely

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Jericoo · 30/10/2020 19:14

@Evenstar

My cousin took his boyfriend in holiday in a caravan with his mum. The boyfriend posted on Facebook to say how much he was looking forward to the holiday adding “If the caravan’s rocking, don’t come knocking” 😳 YANBU OP there is a time and a place.
I'm sorry this made me howl, I can't believe it xD

I wish I was able to come up with witty comments in those kind of situations like the ones posted here! I just freeze

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willstarttomorrow · 30/10/2020 19:14

If your sibling has social development issues I would be worried about the partner to be honest. Obvioisly socially not acceptable but where was he/She in all this?

Pesimistic · 30/10/2020 19:15

I dont even like to peck my fiance on the lips in front of my in laws or my family, let alone passionately kiss him

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Jericoo · 30/10/2020 19:16

'If the caravan is rocking, don't come knocking' Where is his mum supposed to be while he's doing that? xD

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Mummae21 · 30/10/2020 19:17

Oh god this is awful! So shocked that they're in their 30s... I wouldn't dream of doing this 🤦🏻‍♀️

CatsAndEyeliner · 30/10/2020 19:17

Sorry your experience has been negative @MonClareDevole It’s probably not a great idea to assume that everyone else is exactly the same though. We could do without the prejudice.