To ask when you moved out?

[jennie0412]

I'm in college right now, but before I go to university I want to have moved out. Nothing against my parents, I love them and I enjoy their company, but I want my own place, my own kitchen and my own bedroom. I want to be able to just walk out to the kitchen in my underwear and make my own breakfast with my own food. Honestly, I'd be over the moon to just live in a studio flat in a cheap area.

When did you move out of your family home and what was the experience like?

@VestaTilley

How do you intend to pay rent and bills if you’re a student, OP? If you’re working enough to make the cash needed for that you won’t be leaving enough time to study. Also, why would you move out then move again to uni? Total waste of money.

I left for uni at 18, returned home each holiday to see family and work in studenty jobs, then on graduation moved to London where I had a job to go to.

If I hadn’t had a job to go to I’d have moved home to live with parents while I found work.

I think the OP said they were going to do an OU university course so wouldn’t need to move away to uni.

I do wish the OP would answer one or two questions, though!

I'm a boomerang child
Moved out at 18 to go to uni
Moved back after graduation (22) for a year
Moved abroad for a year then came back
That was 3 years ago. I've got a decent deposit, it's just a case of finding a more stable job as I currently work in a minimum wage hospitality/tourism sector job which is paid hourly, I'd like the security of a salaried job before I move out for good. Plus my current job is only a 7 minute drive from home 😂 DB also moved back home after graduating before buying his first home last year.

Realistically if you're earning, say, 25k (which would be a very decent wage in London straight off the bat with no uni qualifications) and you're not paying into a pension and no student loan repayments, you'll come out with £1,720 a month. If you were earning 18k (which will probably be closer to it) then you'll come out with £1,323.

But, if we are being realistic, who is going to offer that, for an unqualified 18 yr old, who is also presumably ring-fencing some hours to study ?

Very true, BackForGood. This is also assuming fulltime hours - which would make all but the most relaxed humanities degree very very difficult (and I say this as someone who only had 3 hours teaching time in my relaxed humanities degree some weeks haha!). If you were even 30 hours a week that still leaves very little time for studying for a full-time course - and would cut the earning potential right down, not to mention needing to find a job to fit around teaching hours/compulsory exams etc.

Left home at 16 for uni and never moved home again. My parents were lovely but I had itchy feet and couldn't bear the idea of living with them.

Even after marrying I was in flatshares until I was 29.

OP, I am impressed that you have landed a job which will enable you to rent somewhere on your own which doesn't take all of your time and leave you unable to do your degree. Enjoy!

18, for uni. Went back for a year aged 28 while I did a masters.

Sorry! I haven't got any set plans as of yet anyway, so for everyone asking what I'll be working as etc I have no idea yet! This was mostly a 'light hearted' question I guess so I'm sorry that I didn't give much info
I'll be going to open university, not staying in dorms somewhere so that's why I would be moving out.
Honestly, I've wanted to move out for as long as I can remember, and like I said in my op, I adore my parents but I really don't want to live here for longer than I have to, my mum doesn't work and we all live in a small flat together so theres hardly any time or space away from each other unless I'm in my bedroom with my door shut (which is more often than I'd like ).

I know saying I want to eat breakfast in my own kitchen sounds ridiculous but I meant it as I just want to be my own person, and not have to live under my parents rules (not that they're strict at all, very relaxed actually, but of course we have different ideas of how some things should be done, so I don't want to have to do it their way, i just want independance).

19 adored my parents they were fantastic, gave me freedom with boundaries if you imagine that, basically from 16 I was my own person, but as a non paying guest, I just had to let them know if I was in or out, needed a lift or food, do my own washing and cleaning. I had a lovely safe life with adventure. My younger brother left at 17 the day before my 20 birthday, again it was a positive leaving,pastures new.
My parents both had issues with one or both of their parents and they left home at 15 and 17, they could not in a million years understand me with a world to choose from staying with boring them. They gave me such confidence to find my life and I always knew they would catch me whilst respecting my independence. Good luck in whatever you do.

Left school on Friday, left home on Monday and never went back.

Im one of 4 siblings and we all moves out at different times. I waited until i met oh and I was 24, the other 2 were 18 and the other still lives at home at 23. If you're ready then you're ready!

19 when I went to Uni. Came back some of the holidays but never returned properly.
That was a long time ago and I still have a room at my parents and a few odds and sods there, but I doubt I will ever live there again!

I lived at home for Uni. Moved abroad for a year at 23 after Uni (5 year program for a BSc and BEd) to work, then home for one more year before moving out officially at 25.

I could have moved out much sooner but I really appreciate that my parents let me stay. It allowed me to save and choose the best job for me without worrying constantly about money. I know if now, at 34, I wanted to move back in they’d let me in a heartbeat. They’re so generous.

Stayed at uni during term time from 18-21 and home for the holidays.

After graduating I found a job, worked for a few months to be sure it was a keeper then moved into a house share when I was 22. I house shared partly to save for a deposit and partly to make some new non-work friends in the town I moved to.

Lived on my own for the first time when I bought my house aged 26.

Officially at just turned 26 in 2016 but had a boomerang decade! I boarded from 16 in 2006 so wasn't home much between 16-21 with school & uni, came back for a year to work and save cash 21-22 then uni again 22-23 for pgce. I walked out of that and after a few officially sanctioned months off with burn out got a retail job just to be earning in late 2013.

I climbed the ladder in the industry but stayed at home due to low wages- we agreed I'd be better off saving what I could to leave until I earned enough to reliably live on and put a little by. I moved out in the summers- subletting off a mate and squatting with a fling so my parents and I all got a break from each other.

Moved in with a friend at just turned 26 as soon as we both earned enough. Flat shares through til 29 then bought my flat with inheritance and savings. Home for a month waiting for my flat sale to go through and hated it!

I was lucky at home- only child and had a suite of rooms in a good sized house so plenty of space for me to be able to stay home when I was badly paid. I left as soon as I felt it financially viable because I wanted to be gone to feel like a real frown up. Sharing was fun but didn't beat my own home. I've LOVED it. That said, we're looking at DP joining me and it's what I want but I'm grateful I shared previously because I think I'd be pretty impossible to live with if I'd been alone for longer!

Fwiw I'm in the SE just outside London, in the commuter belt. Most people I know here stayed home for at least a couple of years post uni for savings/crappy jobs reasons apart from those who moved for postgrad degrees. Those who moved straight out tended to be coupled up. My London friends & acqs who don't share either had family wealth (bestie had a job in the arts that paid fuck all but had family money to rent alone) or are older so had the accumulated wealth to buy in London- and then not the best bits. The most "financially secure" chap I know bought a house in Fulham with his trust fund and still rents a room to a friend of mine because he needs the income whilst studying and now living on not great wages. He's still better off than plenty of people on paper but day to day he has to eat.

Moved out when I was 19, bought a house three months later. Moved from London to Birmingham, that was my only mistake. Made a fortune on that house, bought my next at 23 in Rustington in Sussex, made a fortune on that and moved to Dublin.

18 for Uni, went back for a year to save money, moved out for good at 23, though I'd lived in Australia for two years before that.

Dd moved out a month before she turned 18, it's been 15 months and she hasn't come back, she's just got her first lease on a flat with her boyfriend of four years, and they've got a cat!

Went to uni at 18 and lived with my boyfriend at home on the holidays. Moved in as soon as I finished. But I lived back at home a few times after break ups, further uni etc.

Went to work in Canada a month after my 22nd birthday for a year. Was ‘home’ again the following year for 18 months but then moved away properly at 24.

Like some pp's, I'm an only child, and my parents have always said there is always a home for me here, so even if I go off and rent a flat of my own, and it turns out to be horrible and not what I expected at all, I can always come back home

26, moved from my parents into my bfs place.

I went to university at 17. During my uni years my parents' house was still home base, so I returned for Xmas, etc. I rented my own place after I graduated, never lived in my parents' house again.

And I was very much ready to leave home at 17. My university was about 3000 miles from my parents' house.

I didn’t go to university until 23 so went to lived in shared houses until then brief periods back home and then my Mum’s new house whilst at university . Only had one flat by myself and the landlord had painted over damp and it was awful.

We’re in the south but not Cornwall south and DD (21) was desperate to leave. She is currently locked into Wales pretty happily as gone to university in a city there. Cheap accommodation, no transport costs and lots going on in normal times. Is the same city that I rented a flat on my own once.

If you are going to do it might be worth looking at a city in the south or in Wales as much cheaper than London and will still feel different to where you are now.

"I'll be going to open university, not staying in dorms". This sounds a bit odd to me. Why not just apply to Uni in the normal way and look for a part time job?

@CokeEnStock because I/my parents don't have the money for normal uni, and tbh I prefer the idea of open uni anyway