To ask when you moved out?

[jennie0412]

I'm in college right now, but before I go to university I want to have moved out. Nothing against my parents, I love them and I enjoy their company, but I want my own place, my own kitchen and my own bedroom. I want to be able to just walk out to the kitchen in my underwear and make my own breakfast with my own food. Honestly, I'd be over the moon to just live in a studio flat in a cheap area.

When did you move out of your family home and what was the experience like?

I was 17 and moved miles from family.i haven't rtft but I would strongly advise against moving out so young unless you absolutely have to. It's such a drain on money, even housesharing. I was significantly disadvantaged until at least my mid 20s as a result if not longer. I missed opportunities friends and colleagues had because I just didn't have the money. It's also tiring being solely responsible for everything and if you don't have to be (especially whilst studying) then don't do it. Use the money saved to do more interesting things then eating cereal in your pants

I was 20. I finished college and my then boyfriend was moving out of his house share so we moved in together.
I regret it actually and wish I'd stayed at home for a year or so while I was earning but I did enjoy the freedom and independence.

18 when I went to Uni. Never went back apart from weekends.

It was either Uni or join the circus, either way I had to get the hell out of Dodge.

First time at 16, but boomeranged back at 18.
Second time at 20.

17 but hadn’t been at home full time since I was 15. My parents are wonderful people but my teenage years tested us all. You couldn’t have paid me money to stay at home at that age!

@BackforGood

Why the bitchy tone? Was that aimed at me ? I think you have misinterpreted. I am genuinely interested, as I have one dc who graduated 3 years ago and another who finished this Summer who would love to be able to earn that sort of money. dc1 has been working FT since he graduated. He works 40 hours a week, and would struggle to afford to live in a flat on his own rather than in a house share. dc2 has struggled to find work. She has continued her 2 shifts a week that she used to work (in a shop) whilst studying and has also got two more jobs on zero hours contracts, but both in leisure industry and neither actually able to offer her any hours in the last few weeks, in this pandemic. She is getting by due to the generosity of friends letting her sleep on their sofa, rent free at the moment. This is reality for the overwhelming majority of their friends. Those of us that were able to move out at 16, 18, 21 several decades ago, aren't facing the same circumstances as you will be, so I think it is a more realistic discussion than asking people at what age they moved out.

Completely agree. It’s pretty irrelevant knowing that some people could afford to move out of their parents’ home 20/30/40 years ago when things were completely different!

When I got married. My dad gave me away.

19 but I had an awful home life I would have waited if I didn’t.

I moved out at 18 for uni. Stayed in halls, then a flat share, then moved in with my now husband. Both my older sisters moved out by 18.
We'd probably have all stayed longer if we didn't move in with my mums now husband when we were teenagers.

I was 17. I left school and had a full time job by then so rented a room.

I'm in my 30s so not a lifetime ago. Wouldn't want mine to move out that early but I was the eldest in a cramped house.

People saying its effected by decade is rubbish - its effected by attitude/views and personal life issues but nothing to do with decade.

I left at 16 year old (00s), my mother left home at 16 years (80s), my grandmother left home at 16 (60s) so you could pass that off as 'that just the olden days' but your lying to yourself, my sisters DS who is currently 18 moved out a year and a half ago when he was 16 and most of his friends have left home too so it still very much is happening just like it did all the decades before.

I also know people from all decades dating back to the 1940s the didnt ever leave home or didnt until late adulthood - both lifestyles have been happening forever.

25. I wish I had moved sooner, but I couldn't afford it. I commuted to uni and then worked in a very low paid job until I moved in with boyfriend.

The plus side is I was able to save more for future house deposit. I wouldn't have been able to do this if I moved out younger.

Uni 18-21
Worked & lived away from home 21-23
Uni again 23-24
Moved home 24-26
Moved out for good at 26

@mam0918

People saying its effected by decade is rubbish - its effected by attitude/views and personal life issues but nothing to do with decade.

I left at 16 year old (00s), my mother left home at 16 years (80s), my grandmother left home at 16 (60s) so you could pass that off as 'that just the olden days' but your lying to yourself, my sisters DS who is currently 18 moved out a year and a half ago when he was 16 and most of his friends have left home too so it still very much is happening just like it did all the decades before.

I also know people from all decades dating back to the 1940s the didnt ever leave home or didnt until late adulthood - both lifestyles have been happening forever.

People are referring to the cost of living.

Affording to live alone in a flat in London is something that is out of most people’s price range at 18. It may have been different 30 years ago when property places were much lower compared to wages and fewer people needed a degree to earn good money.

I lived with my mum until dh and I moved into our first home together after we were married, I was 24.

I didn’t feel the need to move out before then, Mum and i had a great relationship and it was just the two of us in a big 3 bedroomed house.

Moved out at 18 to shared uni flat, then had a baby in the first year so I was given an unfurnished rented house by the council, where I lived with just my dd. Loved having the place to myself. Never had to spend another night at my parents' house again. Much harder these days.

I moved out when I went to uni

After uni, I rented & lived in 10 different properties including house shares, bedsit, one bedroom flat & house

I worked multiple jobs & saved up a deposit & bought at 30

This is the cheapest self contained rental in London I could find in rightmove in Acton
www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/81774235#/
You wouldn’t need to worry about walking from your bed to the kitchen in your pants as you could touch the kitchen sink from the single bed space.
Quite frankly it looks to be a shit hole but no doubt some desperate person will snap it up but this is the reality of cheap accommodation in London.

At 18 I went to university and went home for the holidays for the next four years then got a job and have lived away ever since.

The week after I turned 18, into halls for uni, never went home - I house shared for 5 years after I graduated though, and that was in a cheap part of country.

Now I rent with my OH at 30 in Manchester, otherwise I'd still be house sharing. If I wanted to live in the suburb I live in (safe, nice area - although not especially exciting) I'd be spending three quarters of my (decent) wage on rent and bills, which just isn't sustainable.

Everyone I know under 35 in London house shares, for the same reason. My best friend earns £50k and house shares in London because it's so ridiculously expensive - this isn't to put you off, at all, and if you can make it work financially then go for it (I wish I'd ever lived completely alone!) but I'm just warning you that it's going to cost a lot if you choose London. Manchester and Leeds are both better, price wise, but it depends if you mind being this far north!

Uni 18-21, moved in with boyfriend at 21. Moved back home when we separated. Parents sold the family home when I was 22/23 so I moved out properly again then.

If it weren't for living as south as it gets, I'd definitely be looking at the north as it's so much cheaper!

Realistically if you're earning, say, 25k (which would be a very decent wage in London straight off the bat with no uni qualifications) and you're not paying into a pension and no student loan repayments, you'll come out with £1,720 a month. If you were earning 18k (which will probably be closer to it) then you'll come out with £1,323.

The cheapest studio flats I can find in a London postcode that isn't over 30s only or Mon-Fri only is this:

www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/81774235#/

It's £450 a month, including bills.

Or this (nicer, but not really a kitchen) www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/51030809#/ for £475 a month not including bills.

So it IS doable, financially, but obviously those are studio flats so you're going to be living, studying and cooking in the one room by yourself - you might find that gets a bit claustrophobic after a while. If you want a 1-bed it'll cost considerably more - and beware of Rightmove listings that say they're a studio when it's actually just a bedroom with shared kitchens and bathrooms, they do that a lot.

How do you intend to pay rent and bills if you’re a student, OP? If you’re working enough to make the cash needed for that you won’t be leaving enough time to study. Also, why would you move out then move again to uni? Total waste of money.

I left for uni at 18, returned home each holiday to see family and work in studenty jobs, then on graduation moved to London where I had a job to go to.

If I hadn’t had a job to go to I’d have moved home to live with parents while I found work.