To ask when you moved out?

[jennie0412]

I'm in college right now, but before I go to university I want to have moved out. Nothing against my parents, I love them and I enjoy their company, but I want my own place, my own kitchen and my own bedroom. I want to be able to just walk out to the kitchen in my underwear and make my own breakfast with my own food. Honestly, I'd be over the moon to just live in a studio flat in a cheap area.

When did you move out of your family home and what was the experience like?

I have to add though OP it was shit. Didn't have much money left at the end of the month after bills, couldn't afford much food so are mainly pasta and gained some weight. I only did this as it pretty much saved my life and mental health. For your reasons I would stay home and save. Leaving home early meant I was stuck in a rental circle and am struggling to save for a mortgage. My DH was in a similar situation and now we are stuck renting

19 but returned for 3-6 month periods when age 22 & 24. Lodged in lots of places inbetween. My cousins have tended to move out in same way, back and forth a bit.

My 58-59yo step sisters may both be financially dependent on my parents right now.. My 62yo brothers are begging or living on benefits. I'm doing pretty well for Fin independence, to be honest.

A lot depends on circumstances. Ours are 22 and 25 and I want them always to think of our home as their homes too - places they will always be welcome. DD is still at uni so technically hasn't moved out. DS has moved out and back in a couple of times.

I think much depends on circumstances. DH and I had family homes far too far away from London to make commuting viable for London centric careers. My mother was married for the third time by the time I was 21 so returning home wasn't really possible and with a house move my bedroom was gone. DH however still has his bedroom untouched in the family home. His books and toys on the shelves; his desk, transistor radio and lamp are still there along with his O'Level and A'Level note books and trumpet! He's 59!!!!! I think there's a middle way :)

Stayed at home through uni, moved away for 2 years to a job with live in accom (aged 21-22). Back home for one year to save deposit. Bought own place at 23.

Most of my friends moved out when we went to uni at 18, but I lived with my mum all the way through uni and moved out at 22 (with my husband).

I went to uni at 18 and then moved out when I was 21. I moved for a job in London but otherwise i would have stayed at home longer and could have saved for a deposit to buy. I had my first child at 24 and now a single parent to never had enough to save.

I moved out at 18 along with dd who was 3 at the time.
Our house was a 10 mins walk from my parents.
It was the first time dd had her own bedroom.
I've got many happy memories living in our first home. Stayed there for 14 years.

23

I went to university and then had a job over 200 miles from home, so in a sense left at 21.

What type of job are you hoping to get to pay for your own flat in London?

Moved out at 16 and a half, probs not my wisest decision but I was a wild girl. It was the right thing to do at the time, or at least the most fun option.

I lived at home until university, then lived in halls for a year, then decided it was a great idea to get a flat with my then-boyfriend instead of getting a student house. It was not. I only lasted 4 months before I moved back in with my parents because he was such a dick and I couldn't get any uni work done in that kind of environment.

So I lived back there for two years, then moved back with boyfriend (who had grown up by that point) after graduation .. then 2 years later ended up moving back in with my mum because we split up, then her and my dad separated and I ended up with her for a LONG time because I felt guilty leaving her on her own when she'd literally never lived alone in her entire life.

I eventually met my current partner in 2017 and moved in with him very quickly after meeting (I just 'knew' it was right, even though it was very soon, and 3 years down the line I stand by that 100%). I was 27 when I finally moved out.

I'm not one of those people who hated living at home by any means. I love my childhood home and get on well with my mum, so I was never desperate to move out particularly. It ended up like a housemate situation, and was never me living as a child and Mum doing everything - more like the opposite in fact, as she was very low after the separation.

I was saving up for my own place, but knew it would take a while, and I wasn't so desperate to leave that I'd think about moving out and renting - because that would take longer, and me and Mum would both be lonely!

4 months after I moved out, my younger brother graduated uni and moved back home and he's still there, so luckily for my mum she still hasn't had to be on her own very much!

I was 16 but I moved around the country living with friends in shared month to month houses and didnt 'settle' and get my own place until 20.

I didn't go to university straight from school, I worked full-time and I moved into a flat share three weeks after my 21st birthday. I lived in a couple of shared flats then I moved to a different city to live with now-DH when I was 23.

My brother moved out last year at 23 but he (with his fiancee) has just moved back in with my parents to save for a house deposit. They intend to be there for 2 years.

If you’re going to be a student doing a degree through open university, will you be able to earn enough from a part time job to live in a flat alone in London? What sort of job are you planning to get? The bills alone (not being able to split with a flat mate) will be very high.

I'm fascinated what job you have lined up, at 18, without qualifications, that is going to allow you to be able to afford your own flat anywhere, let alone in London.
Do tell.

Why the bitchy tone?
I didn't specify london, but I'm curious about it as it's got more options, job wise and uni wise, a lot more fun things to do (I live in a small town that hasn't even got a proper restaurant). I will be working full time and as I will be living at home until then, I will have money already saved up.

I don’t think anyone is being bitchy, just interested in the job you will have without qualifications that will enable you to buy in London alone whilst you are doing a degree? What sort of salary are you looking at?

I’m a teacher of 20 years and doing I earn enough to buy a flat in London on my salary alone, let alone do a degree on the side.

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24. I only did so then because I had to share a room with my younger sibling, who was 16 at the time, and she made my life hell. I stayed at home all through university and my first full time job. I had loads of money but made the stupid decision to rent instead of buy and now, 16 years later, we're still stuck renting.

From about 15 I officially lived at home but mostly sofa surfed with friends. At 18 I got a job at a hotel who gave me my own room. I had a tough few years not having an actual home but my parents were awful and the staff digs were safe and clean. I did similar for a few years
I’d not be in a hurry tbh as moving around as I did meant a very low income and no room to save etc. Ideally I’d have like to have got a stable career and saved some money while living at home

I was 16, moved in with bf and his family after his dad died suddenly, his mum needed financial and emotional support and I hated being at my parents. Stayed until I was 21 and we split. I then worked and lived in a pub before taking up another job and a flat share. The years between leaving home and settling down where great fun, hard work too and I’d live them all again in a heartbeat.

The day after my 16th birthday, not by choice. I was still at school. It was less than ideal

16, I was desperate to leave home. Looking back I don't think I realised how bad it was, just in terms of control and unhappiness.

It was tough, really tough working my way through A Levels and living in bedsits. But god I loved the independence. Life was similarly tough through uni and then buying my first house with then DP. The house cost £39k and we were mortgaged to the hilt (110% mortgages in those days, although ours was 'just' 100%). We moved in and the only furniture we had was a bedside table and a beanbag. No white goods even. We were in heaven. I remember walking in to the garden with my cornflakes the first morning and I felt like a queen.

I was 22. We lived in a nice area but in the arse end of nowhere. I met someone who wanted to share a flat in London so moved out. I wanted to be in the thick of things.

Why the bitchy tone?
Was that aimed at me ? I think you have misinterpreted. I am genuinely interested, as I have one dc who graduated 3 years ago and another who finished this Summer who would love to be able to earn that sort of money. dc1 has been working FT since he graduated. He works 40 hours a week, and would struggle to afford to live in a flat on his own rather than in a house share.

dc2 has struggled to find work. She has continued her 2 shifts a week that she used to work (in a shop) whilst studying and has also got two more jobs on zero hours contracts, but both in leisure industry and neither actually able to offer her any hours in the last few weeks, in this pandemic. She is getting by due to the generosity of friends letting her sleep on their sofa, rent free at the moment. This is reality for the overwhelming majority of their friends.
Those of us that were able to move out at 16, 18, 21 several decades ago, aren't facing the same circumstances as you will be, so I think it is a more realistic discussion than asking people at what age they moved out.