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To ask when you moved out?

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jennie0412 · 24/10/2020 23:11

I'm in college right now, but before I go to university I want to have moved out. Nothing against my parents, I love them and I enjoy their company, but I want my own place, my own kitchen and my own bedroom. I want to be able to just walk out to the kitchen in my underwear and make my own breakfast with my own food. Honestly, I'd be over the moon to just live in a studio flat in a cheap area.

When did you move out of your family home and what was the experience like?

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jennie0412 · 24/10/2020 23:12

Forgot to say, I'll be going to open university, so I won't be staying in dorms, I'd be at home, just in case that didn't add up haha

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MJMG2015 · 24/10/2020 23:17

I was 17.

Ready to live independently, but I had a well
paid job & was going to Uni as well

But I lived in NZ at the time and in those days 'flatting' was the norm around 18.

Will you be able to afford to do that? Even studio flats are bloody expensive.

elQuintoConyo · 24/10/2020 23:19

Uni 18-21, one year at home to save. Fecked off around Europe at 22 never went back to live (just for Xmas!).

I've lived in four EU countries since '98. Living at home was awful.

YourStarlessEyes · 24/10/2020 23:21

Moved out at 18 with my DP, I was pregnant with DC1. It felt all very rushed and it wasn't actually what I wanted at the time but it felt necessary, for the baby!

It was fun, finding our feet and all that.

Newsorrynewagain · 24/10/2020 23:24

19

HolyMerlot · 24/10/2020 23:24

Away at Uni 18-22 (one year MSc after my BSc), then bought a house at 23 and moved my partner in. Now 27.

Coldilox · 24/10/2020 23:26

Went away to Uni, was back home for the holidays, but never moved home after graduating. Moved to a whole new city with my then girlfriend (now wife)

BangBux · 24/10/2020 23:30

Moved out at 18, rented until 25 when I bought a house with DH. It has its pros and cons.

BackforGood · 24/10/2020 23:43

How are you going to afford this accommodation ?

surlycurly · 24/10/2020 23:43
  1. I had one violent, alcoholic parent and an enabler mother. I had to leave school and move away to a hotel to live in and work there. I lied about my age and then bounced around for several years. Was tough but the right thing to do. Put myself through uni, and the hardship of living alone young has prepared me for when my ex husband did a bunk and left me practically, emotionally and financially responsible for our children. I learned a lot in those early years of living alone that's stood me in good stead.
hillfda · 24/10/2020 23:53

17, fell out with my mum and moved in with DP. Been happy ever since.

Original poster
jennie0412 · 24/10/2020 23:54

I have a job Smile

Thank you for the replies so far!

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Givemeabreak88 · 24/10/2020 23:55

16 my mum kicked us all out once we turned 16

OuiOuiKitty · 24/10/2020 23:56
  1. Didn't come from a happy home. Rented rooms in shared houses. It was fine, better than living with my parents.
480Widdio · 24/10/2020 23:57
RefuseTheLies · 24/10/2020 23:58

I moved out a few months before my 18th birthday. My family were all batshit and although I loved them, I’d had more than enough of them by then Grin

Livefortherain · 24/10/2020 23:59

I was just 17. Moved out with now-DH. We had a poxy flat for £300 which was near the beach. Nothing special but it was nice to have our own space.

I wish we knew more about handling money/bills/budgets and cooking beforehand but moving out was unexpected and sudden.

I don't regret it though!

safariboot · 24/10/2020 23:59

In my 30s and, well, haven't. I went away to uni but boomeranged back. And now DM as she's got older is unable to live independently without my care.

TOADfan · 24/10/2020 23:59

28 (never went to university) I bought my house and married my husband 2 weeks later 😂
So went from living with my parents to living with my husband.

Redlocks28 · 25/10/2020 00:02

When did you move out of your family home and what was the experience like?

I lived away for university, only coming home for holidays, and then moved out at 21. It was great.

If you have a good job and can afford it on your own-what are you waiting for? I’m impressed though, there’s no way I could have afforded it on my own at that age.

AriettyHomily · 25/10/2020 00:02

University then moved back moved out at 25

TheVanguardSix · 25/10/2020 00:02

That was 30 years ago. Signed a modelling contract with a well-known agency and that was that. Off I went.

Terrace58 · 25/10/2020 00:04

Student housing for university and then my own flat when I graduated. I stayed at my parents on breaks and some summers. It was definitely hard to be back after having the quasi-independence of university housing.

twobrews · 25/10/2020 00:05

Moved out at 16 but then went back after 9 months.
Moved out for good at 19, bought the house with DH at 18, did it up (it had no kitchen or bathroom!) then moved in DC1 was born three weeks later.

elliejjtiny · 25/10/2020 00:05

Went to uni aged 19 but still came back regularly, especially at the beginning. Rented a student flat with dh from aged 20 and gradually came home less often. Moved from student flat to rented house with dh straight after uni and 16 years later we are still here.