To ask when you moved out?

[jennie0412]

I'm in college right now, but before I go to university I want to have moved out. Nothing against my parents, I love them and I enjoy their company, but I want my own place, my own kitchen and my own bedroom. I want to be able to just walk out to the kitchen in my underwear and make my own breakfast with my own food. Honestly, I'd be over the moon to just live in a studio flat in a cheap area.

When did you move out of your family home and what was the experience like?

@jennie0412 your not yet 18 but you sound less vulnerable than a woman alone in her 40s. Everyone could be vulnerable really but if you stay cautious and back yourself with self confidence you will do really well, I love that you want to be independant and make your own path xx

Also general tip: before you sign for the flat, take a friend and go and do the walk to the flat from the tube late at night to check what it feels like late. I once nearly signed a lease on basically my dream flat. The night before was due to sign I cycled around it and it was a terrifying atmosphere, groups of men sitting in doorways etc etc.im so glad I did that!

18-22 uni (4 year programme), moved back floor just under two and a half years, saved like mad and bought my own flat. If you'll be studying and your parents' house is fine, stay and save what you can while you study. You've got the rest of your life to eat cereal in your pants

24. I did a four-year degree, came home for a few weeks then moved out again for my first job. Came back briefly at 24 and then that was it.

My family home was in a lovely area but there wasn’t anything much for me there career-wise.

I think your main issue is going to be financial.
So off the top of my head
Rent
Gas
Electric
Water rates
Community charge
Tv license/netflicks or prime
Broadband
Food And clothing yourself
Transport

@troph thank you!

I don't really want to flat share, as the whole reason I want to move out is to have my own place without other people, where I can mooch about and do my own thing uninterrupted.

@MiddleClassMother @GoldfishParade thank you! Very helpful I'll take note of that!

18. I went to uni abroad, came one for a few holidays but not many, I was gone 6 years, moved back to the UK but didn't stay with my parents long before I moved out again.

@jennie0412 - I would say in London as in many other places there are better and worse places to live in the sense of how vulnerable you might feel. It will probably be a combination of the general area - the particular flat etc or e.g. well lit roads on way home after dark & as @MiddleClassMother says some basic safety things you can do - so get advice from police on security for flat. I am not sure London has to be more dangerous than anywhere else and to some extent if you have nice neighbours round and about you get to know in a built up area ( not only London) that could be a very good thing.

@jennie0412

Thanks everyone!

Does anyone have any experience of living in London alone as a young woman? I'm having a little look at flats and some are alright price but I'm worried about being vulnerable I know it sounds stupid but I'd rather be safe than sorry!

Technically I still live at home at 27 as I live in a home owned by my parents but I pay for the bills.

I also live alone in London, honestly if you're not already living in London and your uni isn't here either, I wouldn't move here just for shits and giggles. It's generally safe, but these really aren't the times to be stuck away from family if there's a major issue.

Also, I wouldn't move out if you're going to uni anyway. That's a lot of extra cost for little to no reward.

@strivingtosucceed to me it seems like a great reward. To step up and be on your own is something I was never brave enough to do, and I kind of regret never doing it. I was a wuss, I wish I was brave enough to try. It's scary but it's an experience no one else can give you xx

23, I lived at home, then between home and my partners parents home for uni and for a year after until we saved up enough of a deposit for a house.

If your parents aren't charging you rent, I'd stay put and save every penny you can. Once you start renting it may be difficult to save up enough of a deposit for a mortgage.

I'm 24 now, we've been in our own home for 1 year and it's perfect. So thankful I've been able to do this.

It is cheaper if you live in a shared house or flat

If you live somewhere alone, take photos before you move in. Because some landlords will try to charge you for damage & things like spills on carpet etc

Beware that some flats include a "communal charge" for cleaning & maintenance of communal inside areas & gardens

ALWAYS view a property that you are going to rent in person. Because there are scams where people advertise places to rent that "are too good to be true". People pay the deposit, the property doesn't exist !

I have lived in lots of different places

Good luck

I was 23. Had been saving for a mortgage until then.

23, moved in with first proper boyfriend (now he's my husband). I couldn't of afforded to move out alone at that point in my life.

I was about 21.

17. I was desperate to move to London. And I've never left since.

I was 18. I was desperate to get out of an unhappy home so I took a live in job.

A young 17, like 2 months after my 17th birthday. Mum didn't want me so I went. Lived alone in cheapest studio up in a spare room in a weird language school. Left a levels and took job in shop to pay rent.
It was the right thing to do but I was so depressed and lonely.
It got better with time. I moved into a better flat after. Then a year or so later I had another stab at a levels and moved in with a flat mate etc. Kinda worked out.

I was 17. It was awful. But then so was home.

I never went to uni but did go travelling for a year at 18. Went back home after and moved out permanently at 23.

Bought a house with Dh when I was 18 ( he's 5 years older). Spent my a level revision time house hunting . This was 23 years ago and our first (2 bed semi) house only cost £60k in the southeast

Are you the mum, OP?

@surlycurly yes, same as you. Nice to hear similar story from someone else. Sometimes it feels like no one I know can relate. You tell your story more positively (see my PP ^), I should work on that!!

I was 21. I moved back home for about 8 months aged 33, to escape my abusive marriage. I was lucky to have that option to go back to my parents, otherwise I would have had to stay in hell longer.

Uni at 18 and finished at 19 (2 year course and I'm an August birthday).

Moved home for 2 weeks then moved 250 miles away to be with a boy and never went back. I'm now 41.