to not want to get dd from uni?

[Noideawottodo]

She's been isolating at her bfs house for 14 days. He and all his flatmates tested positive for covid. She developed symptoms, fever, cough, sore throat. Didn't get tested just assumed she had it. That was 10 days ago.

She wants to go back to her own house in a couple of days when she's done 14 days. But a flatmate in that house has just tested positive, if she goes there she will have to isolate again for 14 days.

She's really struggling. She's had a row with her boyf and can't bear to stay there for much longer. Her proper house mates didn't want her there as one is vulnerable.

Anyway she wants to come home. I don't want her home as I can't risk my other dcs getting it before they are due to go back to school in 10 days (they are having a 2 week half term). She says she'll self isolate in her bedroom, but i will have to collect her in the car and drive her home for 2 hours so if she still has it I will catch it?

I'm very confused and don't know what to do for the best.

Get her. She needs you.

Oh fgs
She’s your daughter

Ah, are you allowed in Wales to get her?
If yes, go get her. She should be clear having done 10 days once and symptoms and 14 in all and feels clear now

Yea, isolate her in her bedroom if you want for a few days to make sure and get her to disinfect everything down that she uses but don't leave her there if she's desperate to come home

Bring her home! How can you even question that. You’re her mother, no??!

I can't drive, but if I could, not a fucking hope I'd be doing a 4 hour round trip for DS, for nearly any reason.
I'd do it for mine for any reason. Just as they would do it for me.

OP I'd fetch the poor girl. Masks on, windows open and isolate in her room at home for a few days.

I'd be going to get my child asap. Worry about the details when you get back, just go and get her.

I’d want her to go back to her own flat - I think that makes a lot more sense than potentially spreading it to your home.

On the fence.

I think this endless cycle of 'should I isolate yet again' is bonkers. Your DD has evidently had Covid, and is not a risk to anyone at all.

I would buy her a train ticket and tell her to come home (would drive for 4 hours to collect a young, healthy adult), because the idea of her going into yet more isolation is so bloody ridiculous and because her bf and housemates sound very annoying

I don't think shes fudged it. I am going to get her on Saturday morning and she can isolate at home. Thank you for the advice about windows open and masks in car. Not thinking straight.

I don't think I am strictly allowed to get her (Wales) but I'll say it's compassionate grounds. We live in a tier 1 area so wales shouldn't mind me coming in.

It’s very sad what Covid has brought some people to. Rejecting your own child like this, to even consider it. 😟

I’d be wary too. You’d be putting everyone else in your house at risk, which isn’t really fair. Can she not sort out the boyfriend issue & stay there?

and because her bf and housemates sound very annoying

She isolated at her boyfriends because one of her proper flatmates MUM texted her to say she couldn't stay int he house with her precious ds with suspected CV ..ironically he is the one who now has it anyway

@Noideawottodo

and because her bf and housemates sound very annoying

She isolated at her boyfriends because one of her proper flatmates MUM texted her to say she couldn't stay int he house with her precious ds with suspected CV ..ironically he is the one who now has it anyway

Eh?

OP, this gets worse.

Why did you allow your child to be kicked out of her own accomodation that presumably you are paying for ?!

However , I have to ask (although I've been shouting the loudest about getting her ) why was she seeing her boyfriend at his house in the first place ?

However , I have to ask (although I've been shouting the loudest about getting her ) why was she seeing her boyfriend at his house in the first place ?

It was before lockdown

@Noideawottodo

She hasn't got nowhere to go, she can go to her proper house but will have to isolate as one of her original flatmates has it. She's run down and exhausted.

She's also in Wales and we're in England.

She’s run down and exhausted. Why are you even questioning it? Go get her.

Depends if her symptoms have completely gone or not. If not then she has to stay where she is until her symptoms have gone.
If they are gone and she is no longer taking paracetamol and if the 10 day quarantine is up then there is no problem her coming home.
As an extra precaution I would definitely wear masks in the car with windows open and with her in the back. And I would still insist she (and all the family) is very cautious with the basic hands, face, space and regular cleaning/sanitising house rules. Hopefully she would want to isolate in her room for an extra couple of days anyway...she is bound to have lots of work to catch up on. Hope it all goes well.

Why did you allow your child to be kicked out of her own accomodation that presumably you are paying for ?!

Because I wanted to leave her to deal with it. She's nearly 21.

Bring her home.

I'm definitely going!!

Of course you should go and pick her up. She is your daughter. She is obviously struggling and wants to come home

Also be aware that Wales goes into lockdown at 6pm on Friday.

She could catch it the day after!
So could you!!
You seem a bit daft 🙄🤣

@Seriouslymole
"I honestly cannot compute the way the world has turned on this. There is another thread on here asking if their 12 year old should be isolated in his bedroom for 14 days.

Come on people, please. Don't lose sight of the important things in life. These are your CHILDREN. Treat them with love. For most people covid has minimal impact - please, just bring her home"

Exactly this, I can't understand that a mother would even have to ask the question or even have doubt about bringing her home

I'm confused. Some are saying she won't be contagious any more. Others saying she can't come home on public transport because she could infect people.

@Noideawottodo

However , I have to ask (although I've been shouting the loudest about getting her ) why was she seeing her boyfriend at his house in the first place ?

It was before lockdown

So she didn't see him for all of lockdown?