MIL is annoyed that I don't let her family pick up my newborn

[Kazzx]

Just a rant :( I had a baby who's now 3 months and my MIL is annoyed that I am not allowing her sisters to pick up my baby due to covid. The same rules applied to my own family, they've not held my baby and she knows that but is still annoyed. We are in the process of rennovating our own house so we are currently living with her :@ DH agrees with me.

She sounds massively entitled

Maybe go out for walks or shopping when they come over.
It’s hard living in someone else’s house.

Is MIL allowed to hold baby?

When baby was born covid cases had reduced so I let her sister hold baby but now as they're increasing I've decided not to.

@OverTheRainbow88 yes she is as we live with her

How long are you staying there? Sounds very stressful. Congratulations on your baby. Who holds them is up to you and your husband, no one else.

Does your baby have an underlying health condition?

How long until you can move back home?

I would just get my OH to tell his mum these
Are your rules and say you don’t want to discuss it again.

Dh also thinks his mum is being territorial with our baby because we are living under her roof. It's just really hard for us to find anywhere to rent as our house should be ready in a month or so.

I also have a 3 month old and nobody has held her apart from me and DH. That's just the way it is and if they kick off or make comments my reaction will be "ok... And?" Or something similar. Not my job to risk our health to make them feel better.

You could always stay with a friend / family member for a month? Maybe go to a premier inn and come back, might give you a bit of a break?

Yabu for calling your 3mo a newborn
But yanbu for choosing not to let her family hold your baby no

@Yeahnahmum Supposedly a baby is considered a newborn for his first 2-3 months of life according to this, (ergobaby.com/blog/2020/01/after-the-newborn-stage-whats-next/) though it might be wrong.

@Yeahnahmum I am a FTM so I am learning something new everyday. I didn't know a 3 month is no longer a newborn.

What does she say when you reply 'but it's illegal - do you want us to break the law?'

I don't think YABU

There might be an underlying panic from her that when you move into your own house in a month, she won't be able to hold baby any more either...

It does seem a bit over the top OP. Risks to children are extremely low so could you not just ask them to where a mask and sanitise before holding her?

Yes your baby, your rules, but if you make illogical rules you can’t expect everyone to be happy with them, especially if you’re living in their house!

Is it illegal? My understanding is that babies are among the group at least risk from Covid.

YANBU - but I actually do see this a tiny bit from your MIL’s POV. You are in the same bubble as anyone in her house.

Anyway, your baby your rules so not unreasonable.

You are LIVING with your MIL, and you're still not allowing her to pick up your baby?

@RaspberryCoulis try reading the op again

I did. She said: "We are in the process of rennovating our own house so we are currently living with her"

I'm another one who can't work out why picking up a newborn is a Covid risk when you're already living in the same house?
You're all breathing the same air.

You are being a bit precious imo. Babies are still low-risk so why not let them if they practice good hygiene? I’d even suggest a mask but you are living with them so it seems OTP.

@RaspberryCoulis OP's MIL can pick up the baby, but OP doesn't want MIL's sisters to do so.

Wait, I see it’s extended family members so if it’s ‘allowed’ and they are wearing a mask, why not?

@RaspberryCoulis it's MIL sisters that want to pick the baby up and MIL is annoyed op won't allow it.