@Starksforthewin
1. ‘Posting’ does not equal ‘lecturing’.
I beg your pardon. Please pretend I said something more suitable. You weren’t lecturing the OP, you were merely dismissing her previous experience of pregnancy loss so you could criticise her for feeling said about an issue you deem trivial. Which is, of course, much better.
2. Your comprehension skills seem a bit ‘off’.
And yet you’re the poster who said ‘if you’d suffered the devastating experience of Strewlish’ to a woman who has, in fact, suffered that devastating experience. What do you think that suggests about your own comprehension skills?
3. I stopped counting, but at least a dozen posters after me continued to disagree/berate/lecture (you choose which verb suits your drama most effectively) beyond her revealing she had lost a pregnancy. I think that was about number four or five of OPs posts, well after she would have seen which way the thread was going and that people were not agreeing that she should be ‘reeling’ or ‘gutted’.
Your point here is entirely unclear. Are you suggesting OP’s pregnancy loss is to be treated less sympathetically because she didn’t mention it in her opening post?
Now, clearly, she can feel whatever she likes about anything, as can anyone.
Clearly not, since she has been criticised so viciously for having these feelings.
However, if you post AIBU then you can expect some pretty robust responses.
Yes. Hardly a credit to AIBU that the tone of it is so unpleasant, but I can’t disagree with you on this.
Similarly, you can attempt to place my post above all of the others disagreeing with the OP, but don’t expect anyone with more than basic intelligence to accept your argument.
What argument?
I’m not obliged to respond to every poster. The reason I picked up on your post in particular is because of the particular insensitivity of your not acknowledging OP’s own pregnancy loss and suggesting that she might feel differently had she had that experience, despite (apparently) knowing that she had.
I can see that you’re really peeved that I’m responding to you specifically and not other posters who also don’t think OP deserves any sympathy, but you must understand that on a forum like this people have complete freedom to respond to what they like. I found your post particularly ill-informed and unkind, so it was you in particular to whom I responded.
So that’s your second failed justification. Want to go for the hat trick? Or maybe just offer your ten pence worth to the OP and don’t address me again? That’s the polite version.
This made me laugh, so thank you for that. I have a delightful mental image of you as some grand duchess refusing to be addressed by someone so lowly as I. Perhaps you’re the stately Lady Catherine de Bourgh, and I’m insolent, ill-mannered Lizzy Bennet. Sadly for you, I’m not polite enough to ignore you. In comparing my ‘crime’ of responding to your posts when you’ve told me off for doing so with your refusal to accept the reality of a woman’s pregnancy loss because it doesn’t fit with the narrative you’ve constructed to justify your criticism of her, I can’t help but feel that I come off better.