Fairweather friends :(

[sizzlewizzle]

Since telling my bestfriend I was pregnant and now being unable to mix with her as she's always out mixing with other households etc and I'm shielding as best as I can due to Covid and wanting to keep baby safe :)
She's not replied to any messages , texted or called and just stopped bothering with me, am I being unreasonable... did anyone else have this problem with friends who don't have children ?
Thanks in advance x

I'm sorry ☹️ I'm a first time mum and new to mums net I'm yet to know lingo , it's just a cute little nickname me and my partner until we find out the gender ... didn't mean to offend ☹️

@MaskingForIt

YABU for referring to it as “baby”.

Er, why?

YABU for referring to it as “baby”

🤣😂

@MaskingForIt

YABU for referring to it as “baby”.

What?! ODFOD...

Why is OP bu for calling it baby?

As oppose to puppy? Kitten?

OP do you know if your friend is trying to conceive herself? If so she may be finding it difficult to regulate her own emotions

@sizzlewizzle you do you. We called ours Dusty Baby as she was the same size as a speck of sawdust and she was a baby 🤷🏼‍♀️😂

Did you literally say this to her 'now being unable to mix with her as she's always out mixing with other households' ?

@DontTouchTheMoustache
No she's not she's just started uni and hasn't yet got a boyfriend , she was happy for me when I told her then just stopped corresponding with me

I also find it teeth-itching when people say ‘Baby’ instead or ‘the baby’ or ‘my baby’ BUT that’s not the point of the thread and it’s not really fair to derail it.

Sorry this is happening OP - it might be related to your pregnancy, or maybe Covid, or the combination of both but whatever the reason it’s rude for your friend to just completely ignore you.

Maybe she feels excluded if you aren’t seeing anyone - you and your baby aren’t any more at risk of Covid than anyone, so if you felt up to it you could still meet for a walk in a park etc. If she’s a friend you’ve valued maybe she’s just feeling excluded by you, and has withdrawn as a result. It might be worth asking her what’s up and seeing if you can have an honest chat about your expectations of one another.

@rhowton

Awh that's lovely 😊 we were calling ours a raspberry because at our first scan he/she ( we don't know the gender yet ) was the size of a raspberry 😂 so many little nicknames before we think of a name x

Sorry you're going through this. Sadly some people are users and it can take years to see this, doesn't stop it hurting though. Focus on yourself and you will go on to make new friends.

It's fine to refer to your unborn baby as "baby". What else would you call it?

@cococovido she asked me to go to the pub with her and I said I can't really do that anymore, my midwife has advised me to keep to my own household bubble, and then she asked if I could drive her somewhere and I had to decline aswell, just as a precaution but I explained this to her ... being in uni she's out a lot and I can't risk it

This happened to me when I was pregnant with ds 7 years ago.

My college /uni friends who were all still going out drinking and clubbing dropped me, because I didn't want to stay out until 3am, or had to pick child friendly places to meet.

It was hard but I know now at least that the few who stuck with me are real friends that I know I can rely on and trust.

@LavaCake

I'm sorry didn't mean to offend anyone ☹️
Thanks for the advice though , the midwife advised me to be extra vigilant now but that's a good idea a meet up for a walk might be nice on a dry day 😊 I shall try that x

@sizzlewizzle do you have underlying conditions? You don't have to shield when pregnant. Different if you have underlying conditions of course.

@dayswithaY

Thanks very much , yes this may be the case there have been a couple of Situations where this type of thing has happened with this particular friend.

Why is the midwife advising you not to mix with any other households? Do you have an underlying condition? That's not the normal advice in pregnancy so your friend might wonder why you are being extra strict. Up to you obviously if you do want to be cautious but sounds like your friend may just have a different approach

@Flatwhite32 @ellenpartridge
Yes an over active immune system so I have to be extra vigilant

I had my first when I was 22 - everyone dropped me. They thought my life was over (spoiler: it wasn’t!)

It happens with some friends unfortunately.

Completely not the point but we called our baby spud becasue the baby book said she was the size of a small potato. She is still spuddie and she is nearly 19

@MaskingForIt

My baby is loved very much and "baby" is just one of the many nicknames me and my partner use for our child. 😁😁😁