Fairweather friends :(

[sizzlewizzle]

Since telling my bestfriend I was pregnant and now being unable to mix with her as she's always out mixing with other households etc and I'm shielding as best as I can due to Covid and wanting to keep baby safe :)
She's not replied to any messages , texted or called and just stopped bothering with me, am I being unreasonable... did anyone else have this problem with friends who don't have children ?
Thanks in advance x

It is beyond hilarious when some twunt posts about someone else's grammar and then proceeds to make spelling and punctuation mistakes in their own post. Bore off!

@everythingisginandroses Health Visitor’s style?

Also, it’s a bit patronising by any PPs who signets you’re friend is probably jealous/struggling with fertility issues. If she’s a fresher, she’s in a really intense and exciting part of her life - it’s wildly different to yours, but no less important. I don’t think fair weather is fair - she’s rightly throwing herself into an important moment of her life, and you are doing the same

*suggest, not signets

I'd love to go and have a party with her but my life doesn't accommodate for that now , also no I don't think their party's do comply with the guidelines after many positive tests in Their uni flats.

To be fair you do sound quite judgmental and rude here - almost like your life is sooo much more grown up and sensible now, that’s probably coming across to her. She’s just started Uni which is big deal and new/exciting, have you even asked her how she is getting on? or is it all “me and baby” in your messages....

OP.

Haven't read the whole FT, but I'll put this out there for you - and anyone else newly (and inexperienced) pregnant:

Yes, some people act this way when a woman announces she is pregnant.

Drop them off, and continue with your life.

Congratulations to you all.

Crack on and get new friends (if family; drop them and just be civil at joint enterprises)

@Derbee it’s not the word baby people it’s the lack of the definite article; THE baby, MY baby etc.

Hi, Bitch 2 here.
You misunderstand me. Of course I know what the ‘x’ stands for at the end of OP’s posts. I just genuinely don’t understand why people send kisses to total strangers online.

If you keep saying you can’t go out, maybe she thinks you are dumping her as a friend.

@Arthur2shedsJackson

FFS people piling on the OP for her posting style. In what way is that remotely helpful or constructive?!

OP, ignore the bitching on here. I'm sorry this person has turned out to be such a fair-weather friend. I've had similar experiences and sometimes it seems to be the people we would most expect to be there for us who just can't be bothered. I've learned to focus on those who can, and not let the fair-weather ones get to me, but I know how much it hurts when previously close friends do this.

@Speedyspunker

OP, first off - congratulations! Secondly, some really important advice. As you'll have seen from this thread there are some really lovely people on mumsnet who want to offer good and genuine advice. However, there are also some really nasty bitches who prowl around, just looking for other women they can belittle and bully. Bitch 1 wanted to make you feel bad about the nickname you use for your child. Bitch 2 know exactly what the 'x' is at the end of your post but is hoping to humiliate you. She's trying to say that you're too young and not middle class enough to post here. Ignore these bitches; they imagine they are clever but are in fact very sad and possibly friendless in real life.

Love love love this post.

OP you sound just great, you keep calling baby "baby" and showering us with kisses on your posts. You'll make new mum friends and find you can talk about the most personal, TMI stuff with them even though you haven't known them long. You'll have people to text at 3.00am when you think you're going to die of exhaustion - I really recommend NCT for that. And your old friends probably will pop round every few months and it'll be nice for an evening, but then you'll go back to being mum and they'll go back to partying and studying and it'll just keep you that bit connected to the old you.

@Arthur2shedsJackson

Hi, Bitch 2 here.
You misunderstand me. Of course I know what the ‘x’ stands for at the end of OP’s posts. I just genuinely don’t understand why people send kisses to total strangers online.

Isn’t a bit arrogant to think OP is sending you kisses? When you get a letter from bank saying ‘yours sincerely’ do you think that the bank manager is actually sincerely yours?

feisty

Not necessarily this thread, but loads of goady old prats (sad fucks) have been sent to MN to distrupt threads relating to pregnancy and childbirth.
Some may have slipped into here.

I'm mean.

Sad fucks or what?

Any real woman who has experienced pregnancy (or trying) or childbirth tends not to do this.

So you'll find it's sad fuck men from incel/racist etc groups.

Top tip. Read their user names then ignore every subsequent thing they post. Skip over it.

Also. Report their negative posts. Everytime.

The word “my” is not a Definite Article! Just sayin’...

@PurpleHoodie

You have to give birth to be a real woman now do you?

The use of the noun without the accompanying pronoun makes me imagine a busybody Heath Visitor’s style.

This is terrible English Janegrey.

[quote Cadent]@Arthur2shedsJackson

Hi, Bitch 2 here.
You misunderstand me. Of course I know what the ‘x’ stands for at the end of OP’s posts. I just genuinely don’t understand why people send kisses to total strangers online.

Isn’t a bit arrogant to think OP is sending you kisses? When you get a letter from bank saying ‘yours sincerely’ do you think that the bank manager is actually sincerely yours?[/quote]
Obviously one doesn’t take that literally. It’s just the conventional way to sign off.

Janegrey, why would you take an ‘x’ literally? I just assume OP is trying to sign off in a friendly way and not that OP thinks I’m her friend or wants to kiss me

HEATH?!?! Excellent. 😝A typographical error that makes me think of a busybody from the days when Heathcliff and Cathy roamed!

[quote GoldfishParade]@PurpleHoodie

You have to give birth to be a real woman now do you?[/quote]
I thought that. Wtf.

@Cadent

Janegrey, why would you take an ‘x’ literally? I just assume OP is trying to sign off in a friendly way and not that OP thinks I’m her friend or wants to kiss me

I don’t think anyone does, do they?

Op, are you very young, ie seventeen or eighteen?

It is rude, but I’d assume if she’s off to uni, doing freshers, making new friends, her life has moved in a different direction so likely this would have happened anyway, you can’t do what she does and she likely isn’t interested in babies, more studying friends, socialising etc,

When I put an x at the end of something it’s a kiss and don’t do it to strangers on line, I assume the op is doing it because she’s very young and trying to be friendly.

I sign off texts to family and friends with a kiss only. I don’t do it to colleagues, the electricity company or to mumsnetterw.