To think DM is an insufferable snob?

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Recent visit to DM and she comment on DCs off white vest UNDER sleepsuit.

Apparently people will think we are ‘poor, rough and like those pp (pupil premium or something) kids at school’. It’s not just her apparently she’s heard it many times from others too.

I’m raging, do people actually judge children based on their parents not separating whites when washing. Is that even a thing? I’ve never ever thought of it EVER.

*And I have genuinely never seen it advocated as necessary or even advisable that milk stained clothes are treated in any sort of special way, which is why I was curious.

Me neither

@WinterIsGone

We were pretty poor and were bathed once a week, because the electric immersion cost a fortune. We were pretty well off, and we still only bathed once a week (in the 60s) And I still have one of my old cloth nappies (again from the 60s) that I use as a duster!

Everyone only bathed once a week! And clean underwear certainly didn't happen every day.

And men's shirts had detachable collars so they could wear shirts for a week.

not envy

@Serin

I once asked the young (Irish traveller) mum of a child in DDs class, how she got the kids socks so amazingly clean. She said she put a new pair on her everyday and was astonished that I would waste time trying to wash them. The scruffiest kids at my DC school were the ones who after primary school went off to £40k a year boarding school

So wasteful and expensive

Never ever separate my whites and darks. Never use a colour catcher either.....

No. Not poor. Just run off my feet

WinterIsGone

We were pretty poor and were bathed once a week, because the electric immersion cost a fortune.
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I can remember my mother being 'precious' about the cost of running the immersion heater; it took a bit of education for her to realise that turning it off and then on again, thus starting the heating process over, was more expensive.

People did bathe more than once a week generally unless they were very hard up or there were a lot of people in the family.

They’re vests, who cares if they’re a bit grey or stained. Vest and pants is standard messy play clothing here, if I threw away every vest or pair of pants with a stain I would be buying new ones constantly.

My son is PP, I’m a higher rate tax payer, that should bamboozle your mum OP.

Sadly OP I am sort of with your mother!!! I like white whites and if they are not white whites when they are supposed to be then they look grubby and awful....I appreciate I am slightly insane in my view but I
see kids with off white school socks and shirts and it makes me shudder. I cant explain except Ithink they look just unkempt and mucky and I do judge...sorry!!!! Just get the vanish out and or boil wash!

I always separate whites. Can't see the point of wearing clothes that look grubby. I iron everything & I think people eating in the street is common / unnecessary. Although I live at a seaside resort so you wouldn't anyway.

I’m old and was massively pfb back in the dark ages. Everyone used terry nappies and I was obsessive about them being dazzling. I well remember the satisfaction when I stood back and watched them blowing on the line. I’m still a bit over invested in keeping things white, they get turned into dusters when they go grey.

I know I’m ridiculous though.

@AuntieMarys

My mother thought baked beans were common. I never had them till I went to university

My mother thought tomato ketchup was common, I never had it until her cousin took us out to a cafe.

My mum thought Tesco was common and refused to shop there. M&S was fine though.

A friend of mine used to look down on people who left their clothes drying on their radiators when she went to visit them.

Am just remembering my mum (brought up by an Edwardian mother) also thought it was common to hang out your washing on a Sunday, and underclothes had to be hung up under cover rather than on the big line, even during the week.

Everyone should wash all whites, darks and brights separately. I would throw something away if it got stuck in another wash and was off white

How embarrassingly wasteful @copperoliver.

I’m wearing a dress that it dark navy and white stripes.

What do the washing separators do with clothes like this?

I just think greying whites don't look very nice. Nothing to do with snobbery.

If I wanted grey clothes I would buy grey, not white.

@SmileEachDay

I’m wearing a dress that it dark navy and white stripes.

What do the washing separators do with clothes like this?

I'm a washing separator and I admit I would have to see the dress before I could make a decision and I would feel I was taking a risk either way

I'm not a snob at all, it's just a thing I do. My Mum did and my Grandmas did.

I'm a definite separator and use the dye sheets.

@UpCloseAndPersonalWithGlenda
I do see this as a compliment to have someone compliment on your clothes being white. X

@woodhill I do use it as a duster first x

Ah sorry, I hate to see grey whites. Mine are Snow White. I shouldn’t but I do think parents who let it happen are a bit lazy/scruffy 🙈

Unless you've trashed all of his clothes I'd say you're doing just fine.

We've had a meltdown this morning because DH threw his awful navy socks into the bottom of the washing machine and I put in a light load without realising. We now have lovely baby blue clothing.

I'm praying Vanish can rescue them, if not, oh well - they won't be binned.

Your Mum sounds just like my Mum - we weren't allowed to use any colloquialism or 'sound Nothern' growing up because it was 'common'.

We also couldn't have any other coloured wall other than white, weren't allowed 'themed rooms', weren't allowed to wear any logoed clothing, all our shoes came from Clarks, all food was branded, we weren't allowed mac and cheese because that was what poor people ate, we openly ridiculed ANYONE for ideas above their station. It was exhaustive as a child and it took years for me to realise how toxic that attitude was.

My Mum got a lot better with age and with hindsight it was my Grandmother's influence and she was a ghastly woman.

We weren't allowed to put vinegar on our chips because my mum thought it was common.

@Ginfordinner

We weren't allowed to put vinegar on our chips because my mum thought it was common.

We were never allowed Sausages from the chippy either.

We also ordered it as Cod and Chip four times. No sides allowed either.

The insanity.