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Another CF neighbour parking one...

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Lillipops · 14/10/2020 08:43

Hello fellow Mumsnetters I have for you a CF neighbor parking issue I have included a diagram so I hope it makes sense. We live in a semi detached house which has a driveway. At the end of the driveway a footpath cuts across and then there is another drive which goes down to the road. It is long enough to fit at least 4 cars because the house is set back from the road. Relatively modern development but ours and next door are the only ones in the street with such driveway. Our boundary runs from the edge of our garage down to the main road as shown in our deeds, there is a line where the concrete has been laid on the 2nd bit of the drive but other than that there is no visible division if you see what I mean. We park our car on the drive just in line with our house. A new couple have moved in next door with 3 cars. Instead of moving one of their cars off the drive to move them around they have taken to just driving across our drive to get around it. AIBU that this is so cheeky? It's really winding me and especially my partner up. This is NOT a shared drive and they are driving across our land because they are so lazy rather than just move their cars. I wouldn't mind if they had asked or queried it but they just seem to do what they like. I've attached a picture so you can see.....hit me mumsnetters

Another CF neighbour parking one...
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DDiva · 14/10/2020 12:55

He builders stuff was cheeky. But I couldn't get worked up about this, the wear and tear is minimal. If you bring this up with then you risk losing good will even more after the builder situation, you never know when infact you might want a favour.

12309845653ghydrvj · 14/10/2020 13:24

This is CRAZY! Personally I’d feel like a madman if I even asked a neighbour this, because honestly who could care? The idea of reshuffling cars every day for this?!?

Feel like I’m on a different planet to some of these answers

SchadenfreudePersonified · 14/10/2020 13:29

@AlannaOfTrebond

Where I come from chinned means to punch someone.
Same here - it involves physical violence.
cultkid · 14/10/2020 13:37

Get a very low out of the eyeliner sharp long flower pot so they scratch their car

I hate neighbours taking advantage

Mine have done it too
They did their drive last week they have been so disruptive and cruel to us historically

Blocked us on our drive last week several times Last week etc etc and over the years things like ambulances couldn't park anywhere near my house as they were hanging over my drive

Well anyway they were so obsessed with parking the wife tried to get her car on the new drive last week and literally pulled the side of it off it's really tickled me it's such a karma thing

PrimalLass · 14/10/2020 14:14

I would park there instead.

PumpkinetChocolat · 14/10/2020 14:23

It’s the AIBU forum. The OP asked if people thought it was cheeky. People are saying that it wouldn’t bother them. Yes, it bothers the OP but she asked if this was unreasonable or not, so they are answering her.

and I am telling the YANBU posters that THEY are BU Grin

Being bothered or not is totally irrelevant. It doesn't make it right or acceptable.

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Lillipops · 14/10/2020 14:23

Howlooseisyourgoose here you goGrin

Another CF neighbour parking one...
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Lillipops · 14/10/2020 14:24

Arrggh I'm not good at this!

Another CF neighbour parking one...
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raddledoldmisanthropist · 14/10/2020 14:30

@Lillipops

Arrggh I'm not good at this!
There is no barbed wire on the diagram OP. You don't want to be a pushover about this.
badacorn · 14/10/2020 14:51

If you get them to stop they’ll probably start parking on the street. Tandem parking is a massive pain in the arse.

Jaxhog · 14/10/2020 15:25

But I couldn't get worked up about this, the wear and tear is minimal.

Really? I suggest you park your car on their drive and see what happens. I bet they won't like it.

Easiest solution is to park one of YOUR cars on your drive at the road end. Then they won't have a choice. But the plant pots is also a good idea.

VinylDetective · 14/10/2020 15:37

I suggest you park your car on their drive and see what happens. I bet they won't like it.

They’re not parking on her drive, they’re driving over it.

TheGoogleMum · 14/10/2020 15:41

When I had neighbours parking on my drive without permission I was surprised how many on here weren't too bothered. Driving over I think isn't as bad, it would probably bother me just a little. I think I'd be tempted to just do a slightly passive aggressive prevention method such as the planters. If their own car is in their way they ought to consider switching their parking order. I have neighbours with more cars than sense so I understand the frustration!

Howlooseisyourgoose · 14/10/2020 15:52

@Lillipops

Arrggh I'm not good at this!
Love it OP! Grin

Do you think they’ll say anything? They may ask you to move it back? Of course no is a complete sentence but may be good to have a refusal ready?

G5000 · 14/10/2020 16:08

Of course neighbours parking on your drive is a different matter, or people walking through your garden where you have a reasonable expectation for privacy. But someone using your drive for just a few seconds? People would really inconvenience themselves and park further away from the house, plus listen and smell the neighbour moving 3 cars, just to make their neighbour's life more difficult for no reason?

We had someone in the village like that, they had a sloped driveway and toddler DC liked to run up and down that sometimes, if we were walking past. Only a few feet and only outside their gate. One day neighbours had put two sticks and and some rope up outside to block him from doing that. Just like people recommend here.
I still think they're weirdos - if the drive is indeed so precious that toddler feet will damage it, they could have just told us not to let DS run there..

OneForMeToo · 14/10/2020 16:18

I’d fence in your main drive as a large garden that can be opened up if you need the extra parking and use your bottom drive as your daily parking with a small fence separating from next door.

PumpkinetChocolat · 14/10/2020 16:18

why do you think your child should be entitled to run on other people's property exactly? Confused

Why should the owner waste time to explain it to you, and why should they risk a confrontation with entitled parents?

LakieLady · 14/10/2020 16:22

@thegcatsmother

My NDN is a musician who gives lessons. Before we moved back, she had taken to parking on my drive, and allowing the parents of her pupils to park there too. She only has right of access across my drive, she has no right to park on it, ever.

When I asked politely, why she parked on my drive, when she knew she shouldn't, the answer was 'Because I can'. We asked the parents of the pupils not to park there, as there is perfectly good and free parking at the village hall, and got met with all sorts of crap.

If you give an inch, people take a mile; and there may be implications about acquired 'rights' when you come to sell

Now that really is a CF.

It reminds me of the thread started by someone whose neighbour was a dog groomer and invited his clients to block the OP's drive when dropping dogs off.

It became so contentious that she contacted the council and, as the CF dog groomer didn't have planning permission to run a business from his house, he had to stop grooming dogs at home.

Iirc, he moved house not long after.

sqirrelfriends · 14/10/2020 16:23

I wouldn't be able to get worked up about this. Presumably it doesn't impact you much.

SoupDragon · 14/10/2020 16:26

You need to regularly block their access to it and document this So that in 20 years time they can't claim right of access over it and sell their own piece of drive to developers to build high rise flats on.

PumpkinetChocolat · 14/10/2020 16:34

The OP paid to own - and maintain - her property. Why would some CF neighbours thought they could save money by not buying what they need and use someone else's property instead? It's hilarious that people can be so entitled.

G5000 · 14/10/2020 16:40

@PumpkinetChocolat

why do you think your child should be entitled to run on other people's property exactly? Confused

Why should the owner waste time to explain it to you, and why should they risk a confrontation with entitled parents?

Are you the same poster who made someone's little DC cry, because she took a hosepipe and washed off their chalk drawings from sidewalk?
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Lillipops · 14/10/2020 16:46

Love it Larkin! They just seem so entitled. I've seen them drive their car which is furthest up the side of their house over our actual drive and back onto their side to save them moving car 2! Definitely going to put a fence up when we get main driveway done and use lower drive as main parking space. We wouldn't dream of presuming it's ok to drive on their drive but we like to think we are considerate people. Will update if there's any developments 👍. Also I've taken the hose off the wall for the winter and purchased a tap cover with a lock..it's to stop it freezing up for the winter and to stop CF builders using it 🤬

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GoatCheeseTart · 14/10/2020 16:47

I'm really glad I don't have neighbours like many posters on this thread. Mine, mine, MYYY property, mine, entitled, CF, stop them, put a fence and planters and barbed wire - even if it does not inconvenience you in any way. Must be such a pleasure to live next to.

What happens if you need a favour from your neighbours in the future and ask for something, while surrounded by the barbed wire fence? Will go down well..

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