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Got rid of friend

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Flute56 · 06/10/2020 07:24

For a long time I have felt the need to vent to a friend about the way our friendship was going. It was very one sided and I tried ignoring her which didn't work because I was always tempted to make contact which I did. One day something just snapped and I felt I just could not go on. She was cold and unfriendly and I decided enough was enough, so I decided the only way forward was to email her and tell her how unhappy I was with the way things were. I felt this was the only to put closure on a really one sided non existing friendship.

I do not feel bad about it, but each time I contacted her and got a cold responde, it just brought it home to me that I do not want or need that sort of person in my life. Now I know there is no way I can ever be tempted to contact her because she knows how I feel and it is up to her to contact me to either explain herself, or to agree that we should go our different ways. I have not heard anything back and wrote to her two days ago. Maybe she needs time to process what I said and is thinking about what to say, or she has indeed not read my email because she sometimes does not read her emails for a day or so.

Has anyone been in this situation and how did you deal with it and what was the outcome? I suggested we meet up because we had not met since lockdown in March and she was less than enthusiastic so I just decided to call it a day and I have no regrets whatsoever. Other friends of mine make time for me, support me, suggest we do things so it is really her loss

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LoveEatYoga · 07/10/2020 15:44

She has responded OP but not to apologise or to salvage the friendship.

As you say, you can both move on now, and in some ways I do think emailing the person is better than ghosting.

Flute56 · 16/10/2020 00:22

Yes emailing is better. Glad I did it though. I have no time for anyone who does not have time for me.

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FuckYouCorona · 16/10/2020 01:47

Sounds like the poor woman had a lucky escape there!

Astrid80 · 16/10/2020 02:44

What does MNHQ mean in their message about troll hunting? I get the bit about personal attacks being against the MN rules (sorry you had that OP), but what do they mean about troll hunting? Sorry I'm genuinely confused Blush

KatherineJaneway · 16/10/2020 07:06

@Astrid80

Troll hunting is when one or more people suspect the OP is not genuine i.e posting an untrue story or creating a goady thread to rile up fellow mumsneters and they post their suspicions rather than report the thread.

Flute56 · 16/10/2020 14:53

No I think that the people who run this site look at postings and if they see or think that other members are ganging up on a person who is posting about some issue and they think other members are being unfair or unjust to the OP ie bullying, then they will remove any message that they deem to be not appropriate or against the rules of mumsnet.

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EatPrayYoga · 16/10/2020 14:57

@Astrid80 Troll hunting is what @KatherineJaneway said

ToastyCrumpet · 16/10/2020 15:08

Since you say repeatedly that the friendship is over and you don’t want to resurrect it, I’m not sure why you started this thread. My opinion is that your friend finds you hard work and she’d already ended the friendship but you wouldn’t take a hint.

coronafiona · 16/10/2020 15:11

I removed someone toxic, just block their details and get on with your life. It's very liberating Wink

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