To ask my ex to take his daughter to her sport club on his weekend?

[dippypanda]

As per title? My daughter has found the one sport she loves doing and wants to go the sport club each weekend. I take her on my weekends and I've asked him to take her on his (every other weekend).

His response, "they will try their best to get her there as often as possible, but if other stuff comes up we'll skip that week, which he thinks is fair enough"

Is it though? Surely they could prioritise her for a few hours on a sat / sun morning? I do this (and much more)

Or am I expecting too much?

bluebluezoo

What would have happened if you didn’t go to uni or walked out of jobs because they felt like prison.
My children really couldn’t hold down a 9-5 job and neither can I.
I have tried to go in and sit behind a desk all day and couldn’t do it for longer than a year and only then was because I was saving up for a deposition for a flat and was working many other jobs in the evening and weekends.
The strength it took for me to not just walk out was enormous.

How do you do it? How does anyone do it if it isn’t something you chose to do.

How do you do it? How does anyone do it if it isn’t something you chose to do

I do it because I have bills to pay. If I want somewhere to live, heat, light, food, the occasional holiday or luxury, i have to work.

Many, many people to jobs they hate, or at least endure. The vast majority don’t have the luxury of just walking out because it feels like a prison or they don’t like the 9-5.

You did it when saving for a flat. Lucky for you if you have some other income that means you don’t need to work for the day to day.

But most of us don’t have that choice not to work.

@mytimeonline

Tricky stuff Dad knew it was a regular thing then he can help his daughter attend If it's spite I would offer to take her myself to avoid her missing out etc. A child's interest is best encouraged to keep them on the straight and narrow He gets to be apart of her interest and world Spending time with is daughter is even though he is at her game is spending time together.

@mytimeonline Spending time with is daughter is even though he is at her game is spending time together. I disagree. It means always a rushed, early breakfast. Always up early. Always time to get ready. Always travel time factor. The actual activity time, which is probably the best part of 2 hours plus. The social chat and feedback time after. The getting washed/changed after. The travel back. The fact that there can never be a day out or weekend away. A chill out weekend. A weekend where on the only full day father and son have together, they're not together enjoying one another or participating in a mutually agreed, enjoyed activity. Even if "only" 30 minutes away and a 2 hours activity that's easily 4 hours wiped out, by which time it's lunchtime or later.