To be annoyed on husbands birthday?

[Bellsandwhistle]

I booked a lovely seaside restaurant to go to after a walk nearby. Told him the plan yesterday and he agreed. Wet here all morning but dried up by 2pm. I said let’s go in 15 min everyone get coats etc and be ready. He told my son he could call for a friend to go out and play - I said no you can’t as we are headed out. He then told my other son he could watch a program - again I said he we need to leave in about 15 min and he said he could still watch it. So son still watching program, husband still sat on sofa and basically there’s no point now. I’m quietly fuming!! AIBU?!

So sorry OP, but this is who he is.

A nasty vicious abuser who is tantruming because he hasn't got his perceived way.

So awful for your children and you.

Reach out for support and get this man out of your daily lives.

Your children won't be long seeing him for exactly who he is.

It is not in their best interests to be around such a horror of a man.

Remain calm.
Seek support.
Call the police if there is even a hint of him threatening behaviour.
Get your crucial paperwork, passports, bank, certs together.

Can you ask him to leave.

If he refuses, can you go anywhere.
Tell family and friends exactly what you have been dealing with.

Bells, you and the children deserve better than this.

Why’s he calling you names? What’s happened? You can’t let this continue op

Guys thanks again for your support and advice. He called me names cause he is a dick. I mean what 50 year old actually calls you names?! So I took the really helpful advice above (maybe billy?) and talked to a RL friend today for first time about it. She is and was so lovely. Felt good to open up. No decisions made but know she will support me amd importantly I trust her 💯%

@Bellsandwhistle

Guys thanks again for your support and advice. He called me names cause he is a dick. I mean what 50 year old actually calls you names?! So I took the really helpful advice above (maybe billy?) and talked to a RL friend today for first time about it. She is and was so lovely. Felt good to open up. No decisions made but know she will support me amd importantly I trust her 💯%

Well done OP. That's the first step. When I was going through a tough time in my marriage it helped to talk to a friend about it.

Good luck with your decision

just so he could strip and sulk

Strip and sulk? is tha

just so he could strip and sulk

Is that like snapped and farted?

@UnaCorda

just so he could strip and sulk

Is that like snapped and farted?

Strop and sulk 😂😂

Strop and sulk

Oh, of course! Silly me.

(Btw, the face was at my inability to post a complete sentence and use bold properly.)

Admitting how bad things are out loud is a first powerful step in a better life for you and your children.

He's a waste of space but you have been covering for him for so long it can be hard to fully acknowledge.

Shine a big light on the shit you have being putting up with and life will get easier and you will gain strength from the knowledge you don't have to do this alone.