To be angry my husband booked my flu shot?

[Bankingswitch]

Been at my desk since 7am. I go to the toilet for 10 minutes this afternoon to find Dh has booked my flu shot for a time I didn't want 

Phone rang, he picked up and it was surgery on behalf of NHS to book this year's flu shot for me.

He had the choice of 2 appointments 9am and 10.30am. He picked the second one. I always make medical appointments for first thing if I have a choice - he knows this!

If there was no choice in appointment I could accept that but there was!

Also annoyed because I am a high-risk patient (hence the flu shot) and now another 20 people will have been through the room I have to use before I even get there!!

He says it will be fine. He's so laidback all the time. He thought we could go for a walk afterwards if we went later... I am more interested in not catching COVID right now.

I am happy to hide out from COVID and flu but don't like having to go into situations like this.

Am I being unreasonable?

You’re being ridiculous.

What makes you think you will have to use a ‘room’?

We had our flu jabs last week, the practice nurse stood on the surgery threshold, we stood on the step just outside but plenty close enough for her to reach our arms.

I almost never leave the house except for walks. Probably why this appointment seems such a big deal.

Well, do you actually need it in this case?

Don’t have it, so someone who needs it more can have.

@Gazelda

If I were your DH, I'd be pissed off at you being angry with me.

And next time, I'd have told the surgery to call back later, by which time you'd have fewer appointment times to choose from.

I'm sorry you are higher risk, but I think your anger is unreasonable.

He's very understanding. and forgiving. I will be eating humble pie for dinner though

@ChardonnaysPetDragon

I almost never leave the house except for walks. Probably why this appointment seems such a big deal.

Well, do you actually need it in this case?

Don’t have it, so someone who needs it more can have.

I see what you mean but last week I had to take the cat to the vet fairly urgently and I never know when I might end up in hospital myself.

I also would have preferred the 9am bit you’ll be fine either way. Don’t give him too hard a time - at least he knows to book the earlier one next time!!

Sorry, I am with the op.
Anyone who works books the earliest appt of the day to avoid disruption. It was dumb of him to book the 10.30 appt and expect you to go for a walk.

@ComeOnBabyPopMyBubble

Does he have form for this (ignoring what you like/prefer or normally do and just going with what he thinks it's best) or is it just a "caught on the spot" one off?

If he has form YANBU. If he doesn't, then you are YABU but just explain to him your worries and then move on.

Yes he does have form so I think that may be playing into it all. That's kind of why I posted - to see what everyone thought of this particular incident without it being coloured by other stuff which it maybe is for me.

I think that you are overreacting about people going in before you, but I'd be annoyed too.

He knows that you make stuff as early as possible!

Shut up moaning @Bankingswitch your being intentionally goady

"Yes he does have form"

So he thinks that he knows better than you about your preferences?

He made you an appointment, which you could have done and now you’re bitching. Do something, but don’t just moan about it. You’re coming across as very entitled and a huge whiner!

Can you not just ring back and say your husband has picked a time that you’re actually unavailable and you need to rearrange?

"which you could have done and now you’re bitching"

Well no because Op was in the loo when the phone rang.

@CatSmith

He made you an appointment, which you could have done and now you’re bitching. Do something, but don’t just moan about it. You’re coming across as very entitled and a huge whiner!

I already said I couldn't book myself this year as I normally would - everything has changed because of COVID - appointments are being handed out and patients have to wait to be contacted first.

@diddl

"which you could have done and now you’re bitching"

Well no because Op was in the loo when the phone rang.

That is what is so irritating I have a bladder like a camel so I am not often in the loo 🐪🐫🐪🐫🐪

Look, don't stress about this. YOu'll be going to the one place where they know how to keep you safe.

I had a flu shot (over 60, asthmatic, so no, I really don't want COVID) last week. The appointment time offered was 12 midday. I arrived a couple of minutes before to open doors. Put my mask on, and was met by a masked receptionist, pointed to a specific chair in an almost empty waiting room, with all the doors & windows open. Had my injection given by a doctor in full PPE, and I left by the back door, through an empty corridor, with all windows & doors open, on a one-way system. There was 1 other person in the waiting room, and I saw no other patients until I was outside the building.

Totally safe!

Erm yep you might be overreacting a little...

At my surgery you now go in a side entrance, straight into the doctors room, don’t see another sole and out in seconds. Hopefully yours is similar.

A rare poster who asks for opions takes it onboard and holds there hands up .

Good luck with flu jab you'll be fine

The first batch goes to those shielding. Everyone in front of you should be taking precautions.

I think you’ll be fine

my husband usually makes all my medical appointments but he would have picked the earliest one for me. I usually go as early or as late as possible.

For flu jabs our local gp practices have got together and had drop in clinics at community centres. We attended one of these. we didn't have to touch anything from leaving the car.

They had hall staff there opening the entrance door and guiding people in, the next person taking temperature and giving hand gel, the next person directing you to your nurse and then the last person opening and closing the exit door. The floor was all marked out for queuing safely.

If they can do this in a non gp practice I would think that the actual GP practices would be just as good.

The texts we got also told us to wear a mask, everyone that was there when we were was wearing one.

I think if you couldn't make the clinic you'd been allocated you were asked to contact the surgery.

@ItalianHat

Look, don't stress about this. YOu'll be going to the one place where they know how to keep you safe.

I had a flu shot (over 60, asthmatic, so no, I really don't want COVID) last week. The appointment time offered was 12 midday. I arrived a couple of minutes before to open doors. Put my mask on, and was met by a masked receptionist, pointed to a specific chair in an almost empty waiting room, with all the doors & windows open. Had my injection given by a doctor in full PPE, and I left by the back door, through an empty corridor, with all windows & doors open, on a one-way system. There was 1 other person in the waiting room, and I saw no other patients until I was outside the building.

Totally safe!

Thanks yes you're right.

I mean overall it's not that big a deal as you have the appointment, just not at your preferred time.

It's the lack of thought though or thinking that he knows better that would grate for me.

But I don't think you're being unreasonable - I hate it when someone else makes a decision for me which isn't the choice I would have made. It's understandable re COVID and risk - I spend some of my time talking myself down from Coronoaphobia

PS. And your DH is wrong about COVID not being airborne. THere's loads of solid evidence about aerosols - by definition "airborne". His wrongness is quite dangerous to you, really.