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To be angry my husband booked my flu shot?

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Bankingswitch · 30/09/2020 17:01

Been at my desk since 7am. I go to the toilet for 10 minutes this afternoon to find Dh has booked my flu shot for a time I didn't want 

Phone rang, he picked up and it was surgery on behalf of NHS to book this year's flu shot for me.

He had the choice of 2 appointments 9am and 10.30am. He picked the second one. I always make medical appointments for first thing if I have a choice - he knows this!

If there was no choice in appointment I could accept that but there was!

Also annoyed because I am a high-risk patient (hence the flu shot) and now another 20 people will have been through the room I have to use before I even get there!!

He says it will be fine. He's so laidback all the time. He thought we could go for a walk afterwards if we went later... I am more interested in not catching COVID right now.

I am happy to hide out from COVID and flu but don't like having to go into situations like this.

Am I being unreasonable?

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cologne4711 · 30/09/2020 17:13

@hesaidshesaidwhat

Frankly I am surprised they let him book it for you - didn't they ask to speak to you? at my surgery it has to be the person the appointment is for booking it. I am equally surprised, if you were there, that he didn't just had the phone over to you. I would be calling the surgery and making sure they have your mobile number and telling them that they need to speak to you re appointments, isn't this a GDPR breach?
No it's not.
Scabetty · 30/09/2020 17:14

I can understand this is coming from a place of anxiety but you will be fine as your husband says. Once it is over go for that lovely walk with him Smile.

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Bankingswitch · 30/09/2020 17:14

@OverTheRainbow88

So is my sister and she also gets one every year... but is struggling this year to get in for her and her DD
Sorry to hear that! I don't understand why she's not a priority? Is there someone you could complain to?

I read some pharmacies may do it.

Fingers crossed for your sister - she must be so worried Thanks

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ComeOnBabyPopMyBubble · 30/09/2020 17:15

Does he have form for this (ignoring what you like/prefer or normally do and just going with what he thinks it's best) or is it just a "caught on the spot" one off?

If he has form YANBU. If he doesn't, then you are YABU but just explain to him your worries and then move on.

Gazelda · 30/09/2020 17:15

If I were your DH, I'd be pissed off at you being angry with me.

And next time, I'd have told the surgery to call back later, by which time you'd have fewer appointment times to choose from.

I'm sorry you are higher risk, but I think your anger is unreasonable.

TeflonTits · 30/09/2020 17:16

Perhaps you should ask your doctors clinic to prescribe a grip.

Womencanlift · 30/09/2020 17:16

@Bankingswitch

We were told not to call surgery but await call from NHS Scotland.
I am in the vulnerable category and also under NHS Scotland and I received my letter today to say I was to call them (special hotline set up especially for this). Strange how it is different in different surgeries.
linerforlife · 30/09/2020 17:16

Bloody hell you're ungrateful. It really doesn't matter, and he's done you a favour. You'll have your mask on the whole time. Wash your hands. Get a grip on yourself and apologise to your OH.

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Bankingswitch · 30/09/2020 17:17

@Scabetty

I can understand this is coming from a place of anxiety but you will be fine as your husband says. Once it is over go for that lovely walk with him Smile.
Thank you - deep down I know you're right.

I think subconsciously I knew I'd get my arse kicked (this is AIBU after all) and needed to be put straight about all this.

My Dh and I have been discussing whether COVID is airborne I think it is and he thinks it is not Confused

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Bankingswitch · 30/09/2020 17:18

@linerforlife

Bloody hell you're ungrateful. It really doesn't matter, and he's done you a favour. You'll have your mask on the whole time. Wash your hands. Get a grip on yourself and apologise to your OH.
LOL! Looks like I'll have to - looks like I am outnumbered here Grin
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Potterpotterpotter · 30/09/2020 17:19

I also think you sound really hard work... it’s only a hour and half and you will be fine! I’m also super laid back

violetrosemummy · 30/09/2020 17:19

If he hadn't of picked up the phone they might not of called back for a while and you would of lost your slot until a later date. If you're high risk I think anytime would be better than non at all. How do you know there are going to be 20 people in the same room at you ?

AnneLovesGilbert · 30/09/2020 17:20

Have you apologised for snapping at him? You’re getting a free flu jab, it’s all booked in, that’s a good thing. And a walk isn’t going to kill you. You’re clearly very anxious so some fresh air might do you good.

Mushypeasandchipstogo · 30/09/2020 17:20

I’m with you on this one. Spouses should not be able to discuss anything with your GP or surgery. It really annoyed me when my ex surgery used to phone up home and talk to my husband about my health. At one point they even gave the results of a blood test to my 14 year old son !

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Bankingswitch · 30/09/2020 17:22

@Brogues

YABU all of those people before and after you will be vulnerable. What makes you the one that should get the first appointment?
I don't think I should get a first appointment at all - it was just that I was offered a choice and I would have taken the first one had I answered the phone myself.
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Bankingswitch · 30/09/2020 17:23

@AnneLovesGilbert

Have you apologised for snapping at him? You’re getting a free flu jab, it’s all booked in, that’s a good thing. And a walk isn’t going to kill you. You’re clearly very anxious so some fresh air might do you good.
Not yet but I am about to as it looks like I am very definitely BU Grin
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Medianoche · 30/09/2020 17:24

If your GP is anything like mine, the procedure will be very Covid safe. I didn’t have to touch any surfaces, and only stood still for about 2 seconds while the jab went in. No waiting around, no sitting, doors all open, strict one way system, everyone in masks, didn’t even see another patient.

perfumeistooexpensive · 30/09/2020 17:27

My DH booked mine. It's at 11am. I'm vulnerable and didn't even think about anyone else going in before me possibly contaminating the surgery. They have great safety standards anyway so no risk in my opinion.

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Bankingswitch · 30/09/2020 17:29

@Medianoche

If your GP is anything like mine, the procedure will be very Covid safe. I didn’t have to touch any surfaces, and only stood still for about 2 seconds while the jab went in. No waiting around, no sitting, doors all open, strict one way system, everyone in masks, didn’t even see another patient.
From the sounds of things it will be the same for me so I should probably start to relax now.
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LittleMissNaice · 30/09/2020 17:31

Fair play to you OP, it's not often people take unianimous YABUs with such good grace.

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Bankingswitch · 30/09/2020 17:32

@Mushypeasandchipstogo

I’m with you on this one. Spouses should not be able to discuss anything with your GP or surgery. It really annoyed me when my ex surgery used to phone up home and talk to my husband about my health. At one point they even gave the results of a blood test to my 14 year old son !
That doesn't sound right!

In my case I was fine from that aspect of things, it was just the time! I thought he knew I liked earlier appointments whenever possible.

We are rarely on the same wavelength I tend to clear everything I do with him first from changing my bank account to booking appointments so it does not clash with anything he has on - it it's just the way I am.

We actually get on really well 99% of the time it is just we seem to have different thought processesSmile

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alexdgr8 · 30/09/2020 17:32

you need to calm down, and apologise to yr husband.
i wish i could do that.
cherish the people around you while you can.
i think it is airborne, but you will be wearing a mask, and GPs are very careful.

we had to queue outside on markers; like a living chess piece; i muttered to the others, i'm just a prawn in life's cocktail. that made them laugh. it eased the tension.
each of us were called forward individually to have temperature scanned, mask in place check, questions re illness, and then allowed to proceed to nurse's room. all doors are kept open. maybe not for GP consultations !

one way system, out through the garden and past the knights, kings, bishops in the front yard. with a cheery wave to encourage them.
you'll be ok. enjoy that walk. share your fears with him. and yr appreciation of him. good luck.

OverTheRainbow88 · 30/09/2020 17:33

Oh also, just thought, all our 3 surgeries ( they are linked) are doing the flu vaccines and nasal
Sprays outside in the car park, so no one has to go into the surgery. Maybe yours is to? Worth a phone call as ask!

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Bankingswitch · 30/09/2020 17:33

@LittleMissNaice

Fair play to you OP, it's not often people take unianimous YABUs with such good grace.
I suspected I was being a bit of a cowbag 🐄🐄🐄🐄🐮🐮🐮
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ShaunaTheSheep · 30/09/2020 17:33

If it’s anything like my surgery, I was in and out in two minutes. Everyone having their jab right now is vulnerable. The surgery were just doing flu jabs, you were directed in, masked and hands sanitized, to the next free doctor/practice nurse, also masked. Jab done, quick check if anything else was needed while you were there (eg blood tests), then out via the one way system.

You will be fine.