To call out my work colleague on her unacceptable view

[Marg33t]

She posted today on Facebook that she was sick of hearing about the death of one police officer as there's more important things going on and it's a risk they accept.

I've got family members in the force and quite honestly they are hero's doing very difficult work that not many people would do. I can't stand this anti police sentiment. I've got a meeting with her and many others tomorrow afternoon and I'm worried I won't be able to keep my cool. Would it be unreasonable to send her a private message to say how offensive her post was? I want to say nothing, but I m not sure I can

Wow, I though you were going to stay AIBU for wanting to call out my colleague who posted that all police are heros and all police lives matter.

Clearly she’s entitled to her own view and it’s not a unsavoury or unacceptable one either.

Its just an opinion! On a news story! Its not the sum of her whole character, or probably any deep held view of the police. Its not worth getting into it unless you feel she has breached social media work policy.

Just take her off your social media.

From what you've said it sounds ill-judged and crude, but not exactly anti-police - more in the same vein as people who get annoyed when there's too much focus on one person who's died. If you're not going to comment on the status/comment itself, I wouldn't bother to do so in real life. You can always hide or delete her from FB if you don't like her views.

You should post a comment on her post saying, 'And boom, you're unfriended, goodbye'. And unfriend her.

Facebook is full of unpleasant views. She is a stupid woman and few would agree with her but what she said has nothing to do with work so say nothing.

I don’t think what she said is “anti-police”.

I think she is questioning the tendency of media to go overboard lionising people who have died in the line of duty. I think it’s quite right that someone who has died in service be applauded but sometimes it becomes a bit ott and mawkish,

Her view was possibly tactless but I think calling it unacceptable is way over the top. And I don’t think you will do yourself any favours by raising it.

She has her own views as do most people, yes they are different to yours but she’s entitled to her own opinions. YABU

YABU. It's not an 'unacceptable view' it's her view, which just so happens to be different to yours.

I hate how people like you try and force everyone to have the same opinion. Grow up.

I think I would just unfriend. If you are friends outside work you could tell her how you feel, but otherwise I would just keep things professional and not mention it.

Take yourself off social media if you get this worked up by what people post on there.

No. You disagree, that doesn't make it offensive.

I don't think I'd say what she did or think about it that way, but I do think the media goes on about deaths like this sometimes for reasons that are not good or helpful. I was in the military myself and I see it in that context, but also in the context of health care workers which is most of my family. It's not that I don't think these people are doing important work and that having given up ones life is really significant. Because I do. But there is something about the way it's treated these days that I am finding increasingly disturbing. Almost, in a way, denigrating the fact that these are jobs with known risks.

I'm not expressing myself very well but the point is, your opinion isn't the only morally acceptable one.

Not had many work meetings with people you don’t like eh?

If you can't read or hear a view that's different from your own without taking it personally or wanting to call people out then perhaps social media isn't for you.

@FiveFootTwoEyesOfBlue

You should post a comment on her post saying, 'And boom, you're unfriended, goodbye'. And unfriend her.

Not sure that’s normally how adults talk to work colleagues 🤷‍♀️

YABU. As always - a view that isn't the same as yours isn't 'unacceptable'. Unfriend her if you're that arsed. Not sure what you're trying to achieve by trying to pull her up on it like you're a teacher, other than coming across as someone who think your opinion is more important than everyone else's.

@Disfordarkchocolate

Some organisations would be very unhappy to see this sort of post if people can tell who she works for. Do you have a social media policy or one that covers bringing the organisation into disrepute? If so, that the way to take this forward.

Good lord, I hope you aren't serious.

What she said isn’t anti police. I try to see the best in the police force, but they are certainly not heroes in my experience when I’ve had to deal with them, and I’ve never been in trouble with them.

This is why being FB friends with professional contacts is a bad bad idea.

She doesn’t sound nice, but it’s her opinion and she is as entitled to it as any of us are. More unpleasant are current comments on social media by some trying to tie it all in with BLM, that somehow police now know what it’s like to lose one of their own. This is a death which has no link to BLM, and so shouldn’t be compared to previous deaths of black people. He died doing his job and people should stop trying to fit it in with their own agendas.

@FiveFootTwoEyesOfBlue

You should post a comment on her post saying, 'And boom, you're unfriended, goodbye'. And unfriend her.

You could do this if you want to mortally embarrass yourself.

What she said isn’t anti police. I try to see the best in the police force, but they are certainly not heroes in my experience when I’ve had to deal with them, and I’ve never been in trouble with them.
This with bells on. Sorry OP YABU

Can't believe all those saying that this colleague is posting something acceptable as if a man's death while doing his job is somehow irrelevant and people's own personal grievances against the police means that it doesn't really matter that this officer died, he knew the risks .

If I see something on FB that is offensive to me, I say something. I'm not rude, I don't delete them or swear but I would happily post something like "Totally disagree with your post, this man's tragic death is not irrelevant" or something along those lines.

It is said in a private capacity, unrelated to work. I think it should be challenged, via a private message.

Why have you got your work colleague on Facebook? Madness.