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To call out my work colleague on her unacceptable view

263 replies

Marg33t · 27/09/2020 17:19

She posted today on Facebook that she was sick of hearing about the death of one police officer as there's more important things going on and it's a risk they accept.

I've got family members in the force and quite honestly they are hero's doing very difficult work that not many people would do. I can't stand this anti police sentiment. I've got a meeting with her and many others tomorrow afternoon and I'm worried I won't be able to keep my cool. Would it be unreasonable to send her a private message to say how offensive her post was? I want to say nothing, but I m not sure I can

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keeprocking · 27/09/2020 23:21

So the only opinions allowed are those with which you agree? Sounds extreme left or right wing, take your pick, they both meet up round the back.

Kittykat93 · 28/09/2020 02:41

I don't actually disagree with her and don't think it's a disgusting view at all. She's not saying she's pleased he got killed ffs. Oh and BTW not all police officers are heroes, some of them are cunts.

tttigress · 28/09/2020 02:42

I don't think work and social media go well together!!

seayork2020 · 28/09/2020 02:52

If this is a work facebook then anything non-work related should not be there, if it is not I would get rid of any colleagues on my personal one otherwise I would put up with what they said except with the normal range of whatever it is people say to each other on facebook

she is entitled to her opinion, you are entitled to reply and say your feelings but as a 'person' not as an employee so no it should not have anything to do with your workplace

If you can't separate the two do not have colleagues on facebook

tigger1001 · 28/09/2020 06:02

You want to pull them up because they have a different opinion to you? Yeah that won't end well for you. I would just keep quiet.

Our opinions are often formed from our own personal experiences. Yours are positive " police are hero's" your colleague might have had a different experience.

A job doesn't make someone a hero. There are many great police officers who go well beyond their duty, but like in any profession there are some who are nasty, do bare minimum etc.

Butchyrestingface · 28/09/2020 06:21

I've got a meeting with her and many others tomorrow afternoon and I'm worried I won't be able to keep my cool. Would it be unreasonable to send her a private message to say how offensive her post was? I want to say nothing, but I m not sure I can

Sure. Go ahead. Spill your guts.

... if you want to end up on a disciplinary.

Alternatively, remove/block/unfollow her on social media and keep your neck tightly wound in.

EmbarrassedUser · 28/09/2020 06:44

[quote Yesmate]@EmbarrassedUser There was a fatal shooting of a Police Officer in a Croydon custody suite 2 days ago. His name was Sgt Matt Ratana.[/quote]
Apologies, my mistake.

silentpool · 28/09/2020 07:52

Why are there so many people who want to control what others think? You have your opinions, they have theirs. I think more "You do you" would be warranted versus the "Wrongthink" bullying we keep seeing.

cologne4711 · 28/09/2020 07:55

What she says on social media is none of your business unless it brings her employer into disrepute, in which case it is for her manager to resolve, not you. You don't get to decide what other people think.

It's very silly to be friends with work colleagues on social media anyway.

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Marg33t · 28/09/2020 08:48

Ok thanks all, I've decided to let it go and unfriend her.

Work has a social media policy that I think she's breached so I've sent screen shots to them so they can deal with it while I try to stay professional and not mention it to her.

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Pollypocket89 · 28/09/2020 08:50

Deal with what? That was a really shitty thing to do. It's not anti police ffs

thedancingbear · 28/09/2020 08:54

Work has a social media policy that I think she's breached so I've sent screen shots to them so they can deal with it while I try to stay professional and not mention it to her.

This is horrible, horrible behaviour.

Pollypocket89 · 28/09/2020 08:54

Posted too soon.

If you liked her well enough to have her as a Facebook friend, you haven't 'let it go' at all, it was a spiteful thing to do to try and get her in trouble at work for having a different opinion to you

thedancingbear · 28/09/2020 08:59

Work has a social media policy that I think she's breached so I've sent screen shots to them so they can deal with it while I try to stay professional and not mention it to her.

This is quite ironic as you are almost certainly pissing all over your work's social media policy by posting about an internal work matter on this site.

I hope you're not doing this on a work device OP as your IT department will certainly be able to see these posts.

MindyStClaire · 28/09/2020 09:02

What does your social media policy say that you think she's breached?

I think you've been very foolish here OP, and you may well find your cards marked by HR.

IdblowJonSnow · 28/09/2020 09:03

I wouldn't op. Just delete her.

IdblowJonSnow · 28/09/2020 09:05

Just seen your update, that's not "letting it go"!
I'd get this thread deleted pronto if I were you OP.

DizzyPigeon · 28/09/2020 09:07

Wow.

Op, please tell me what is so unacceptable about

Being fed up with hearing about one particular news story
Thinking that there are more important things going on than that one news story
Thinking that police officers are aware of the risks they face when they take on the job.

I've asked before, still waiting for an answer.

upsidedownwavylegs · 28/09/2020 09:07

@Marg33t

Ok thanks all, I've decided to let it go and unfriend her.

Work has a social media policy that I think she's breached so I've sent screen shots to them so they can deal with it while I try to stay professional and not mention it to her.

What an absolute arsehole you are.
emilyfrost · 28/09/2020 09:08

@Marg33t

Ok thanks all, I've decided to let it go and unfriend her.

Work has a social media policy that I think she's breached so I've sent screen shots to them so they can deal with it while I try to stay professional and not mention it to her.

You have no right to mention it to her; she’s allowed her own viewpoints and she wasn’t anti-police.

You just need to calm down. I love the police, but what she said wasn’t unacceptable. She made a good point in that there really is no need to continually rehash a situation however tragic.

S00LA · 28/09/2020 09:09

@thedancingbear

Work has a social media policy that I think she's breached so I've sent screen shots to them so they can deal with it while I try to stay professional and not mention it to her.

This is quite ironic as you are almost certainly pissing all over your work's social media policy by posting about an internal work matter on this site.

I hope you're not doing this on a work device OP as your IT department will certainly be able to see these posts.

This.

You sound quite nasty and vindictive.

I don’t agree with her view but I defend her right to hold and express it.

fatherfintanstack · 28/09/2020 09:10

Well, you've a funny idea of letting something go, OP (and I think what she said was extremely tactless).

I'm not sure what SM policy it would breach, only very possibly if you work for the police.

GoodbyeRosie · 28/09/2020 09:10

Wow, if that was 'letting it go' then I hate to think what you would have done if you decided not to!.

To be honest, that's extremely poor behaviour by you, and you might end up in trouble yourself.

Not everyone blindly hero worships police. It's a job someone chooses to do for many different reasons - some of them not exactly ethical either.

Caelano · 28/09/2020 09:12

‘Work has a social media policy that I think she's breached so I've sent screen shots to them so they can deal with it while I try to stay professional and not mention it to her.’

For a start, based on what you’ve written, what this person posted would not be in breach of any sensible professional work social media policy. Just because you don’t agree with it does not mean she’s done anything unprofessional.

Go ahead and report. I hope your workplace give you a disciplinary for being a spiteful malicious c*

CaptainMyCaptain · 28/09/2020 09:13

Just delete her from FB.