No totally disagree.
Fat shaming - including the less overt forms like the lack of clothing options for overweight people, tiny changing rooms in certain shops etc has been shown to have the opposite effect to the claimed desired effect.
There are lots of reasons for being overweight it's very complicated and not "simply" a case of greed/laziness!
I've yet to meet an overweight person who isn't fully aware that they're overweight and that it's not healthy - myself included.
But unless you know her medical and personal history in total detail you cannot know why she is overweight - she may not even know totally.
Be careful OP, you never know what the future holds.
I'd agree with this
I was very slim before having dd. All the women on one side of my family which I take after most are like this, very very slim (I was a size 6) until they have a pregnancy to full term, lose the "baby weight" in the first year postnatal and then in the 2nd year start gaining weight even though diet/exercise is largely unchanged.
All the ones in the generations above me were dx after age 60 with thyroid issues, but had been reporting symptoms since their dc were tiny, and developed diabetes, even the Uber healthy and fit non sweet toothed ones.
There's STARTING to be research into and recognition that for some people pregnancy can trigger thyroid disease but it's very much in infancy and not yet mainstream.
That's just one factor for me.
I'm also on steroids for asthma and eczema and on anti depressants which increase appetite (supposedly I only eat one meal a day) and slow metabolism
I'm also physically disabled so limited as to what exercise I can do which is compounded by being housebound.
And yes there are psychological elements too, partly "forgetting" I'm fat, in my head I'm still a size 6! Very hard to change the mindset/reality you had for almost 30 years, partly the depression/anxiety and some of the causes of that (abusive childhood etc) and partly its the one thing I have at the moment to "treat" myself with.
Add in that I firmly believe that we will discover that sweeteners are harmful to metabolism in some way, possibly insulin related, possibly something else. I don't think it's pure coincidence that the increased use of sweeteners correlates with the increase in obesity, I don't necessarily think it's the whole reason and I understand correlation doesn't necessarily mean causation but I think it deserves more research - and not funded by the manufacturers!
I don't believe that anything completely artificially created is good for us to consume in large quantities as is happening with artificial sweeteners and while yes anecdotes aren't data there's an awful lot of people reporting that if they consume certain sweeteners they've noticed they end up unwell.
The food environment is also a factor, it's particularly bad in the Uk, my local supermarket (though I shop online) there's only a quarter of an aisle for fruit and veg and 3 aisles of crisps! Plus of course advertising, unhealthier food is cheaper and has longer shelf life etc
I lost 2 stone with ww a few years back and have managed to keep it off and even lost another half stone this year during lockdown as it caused me to move away from some bad habits I'd developed.
Every single member I met had some kind of trauma in their past and I don't mean they were making excuses I mean major traumas - abusive childhood was VERY common, dv, rape, serious non sexual assault, loss of a child or unexpected and young loss of spouse...
I spoke to the leader on one occasion about this, she'd been a leader a long time and she was an "ex" member who'd lost and maintained the loss. She, without breaching confidentiality, said she'd noticed it quite early on and that it no longer surprised her, saddened and angered her on members behalves, but didn't surprise her.
Despite being overweight I have a low bp, healthy cholesterol etc I've also known very slim people with very unhealthy diets and lifestyles you can't tell how healthy someone else is just by looking at them.
As I said earlier i was obese myself many years ago but I wonder if as an ex obese person you are perhaps like ex smokers and have the attitude of "if I can do it anyone can" which isn't necessarily the case!