To be pissed off about the mum who brought her sick kid into school?

[Crumpetsforthequeen]

OK so this is probably because it's 1am and I've had about an hours sleep (again!) but I'm super pissed off. Not sure if this is so much an aibu but more of a rant.

So the first day DD7 goes back to school everything goes well, it's a bit weird but I'm glad she has a good day, comes to pick up and one of the mums who couldn't give a toss about anyone else and never has rocks up sick as a dog.

Naturally everyone immediately moves away from her and she laughs and says oh it's just a cold, xyz has it too but i need the rest as I'm goin out on the piss this weekend!

Xyz is in DD's class, lo and behold out he comes full of cold. Then the rest of the class got sick, DD brought it home.

She got sick, DH got sick, DS1 got sick, I got sick. Here is we're I'm pissed off.

So because she couldn't be arsed to look after her sick child because she needed the rest so that she could go out drinking, what she doesn't realise is that mine then developed into a chest infection that I'm still fighting, DH had to take time off work because they wouldn't let him come back until he had the all clear so missed out on wages, DS is still sick and before this he was FINALLY sleeping through the night, now since he's been sick he's waking up at all hours of the night so we've had fuck all sleep which has made it harder to get over this cold.

I'm already on the vulnerable list, if I caught covid right now I'd be screwed, but ya know because she wanted a bit of sleep so she could get drunk, fuck the consequences! 🙄

Pissed off with the school for allowing him to come in when he was obviously sick and pissed off with her for thinking this shit is OK.

I know eventually it was gonna happen, especially with the kids being off for so long but to stand there and laugh and act like it's no big deal? I feel sorry for her kid who had to go in sick.

Sorry rant over, no idea if any of that made any sense just sick of mums thinking it's OK to send their kids in sick, have some common curtesy for others, especially during a pandemic.

So yeah aibu for feeling all of that or am I being a bit over sensitive because I'm exhausted? (and sick)

I had a cold, caught it from my child after she went to school, she returned to school after a couple of days (only stayed home because she felt rubbish NOT because I was worried it was covid) I went into work where we have lots of safety measures in place. I had a little cough (the day before my sinuses had been blocked and I had a headache it just so happened that the day I went into work I had a cough) my colleague moaned about symptoms and quarantining etc. I followed procedure, had no symptoms of covid but got so anxious about her picking and picking that I ended up with such an intense migraine I had to go home, I nearly called an ambulance, I thought there was something seriously wrong. I ended up feeling ill from the migraine for 3 days. I didn't have the cough more than a day. My point is, we are meant to carry on with colds, if there are no covid symptoms, calm down and get on with it for goodness sake and stop bitching at everyone who is trying to get on and earn a wage.

My son had the cold so I kept him off nursery for a week. He was fine and didn’t have covid symptoms but I thought I’d be judged for sending him in. I’m a sahm anyway so it was easy enough for me to keep him home.

According to some study I read school kids can have 5-8 colds per year. Experience with my own kids suggest that's probably about right. It'd be impossible to keep them off all that time. My DD age 5 got a cold the first week back, and although I toyed with the idea of keeping her off, her symptoms were only minor and our school expects them in if it's only a cold. If she was coughing and spluttering everywhere though of course I'd keep her off.

Oh however did you cope with coughs and colds before COVID came along 🙄🙄🙄

It's a cold OP. DC are still supposed to go to school when they have colds. You may not like this particular parent, she may have form for sending in her ill kid, but a cold is par for the course. We've all had one since the start of time, because a DC who sits next to DS2 went in with it on the first day of term. It was shit, but I don't blame his parents for sending him in. Your chest infection is not this woman's fault!

@mummumumumumumumumumum not once did I say I was stressing it was covid so maybe reread the post? And she doesnt work, never has so yes her reasons are completely selfish.

no but you are saying the child shouldn't be sent to school sick. We have been told by schools that our children shouldn't be kept home for a cold. My child catches everything going. If I keep her at home every time she has a sniffle she will never be in school

@mummumumumumumumumumum

I had a cold, caught it from my child after she went to school, she returned to school after a couple of days (only stayed home because she felt rubbish NOT because I was worried it was covid) I went into work where we have lots of safety measures in place. I had a little cough (the day before my sinuses had been blocked and I had a headache it just so happened that the day I went into work I had a cough) my colleague moaned about symptoms and quarantining etc. I followed procedure, had no symptoms of covid but got so anxious about her picking and picking that I ended up with such an intense migraine I had to go home, I nearly called an ambulance, I thought there was something seriously wrong. I ended up feeling ill from the migraine for 3 days. I didn't have the cough more than a day. My point is, we are meant to carry on with colds, if there are no covid symptoms, calm down and get on with it for goodness sake and stop bitching at everyone who is trying to get on and earn a wage.

But coughing is the COVID symptom! If you were coughing more than 3 x in 24h that is a COVID symptom and you and your family should be in quarantine according to the rules.

And she doesnt work, never has so yes her reasons are completely selfish
Okay there is obviously lots of bad feeling on your part toward this parent. You'll have a stressful life is you have this reaction every time your DC is ill.

@Crumpetsforthequeen if you didn't think it was Covid, why the hell are you testing and wasting tests?

If you thought your DD had symptoms, you need to isolate, if her test came back negative then everyone is fine.

The waste of tests is outrageous

And now you say she didn't have symptoms and you weren't worried anyway?

@thedifferentlive yes a new continuous cough is a covid symptom. A cough as a result of having a cold and sniffing/being blocked up is not. this is why there are so many issues getting tests. you shouldn't be wasting a test for a cough that is a result of a cold. I am not destroying the education of my children (one whom is in her GCSE year) and quarantining because people cant work out what a common cold looks like.

Children will go to school with colds always have always will if it wasn't this child it would be another soon enough.

We were told off by the school for keeping our child in when he looked like he was about to get a fever. I tried to explain but the school were having none of it..So we rushed to school. Two hours later, we received an angry phone call from the office and an angrier teacher handed us our child saying you brought him in sick?! I was
Schools are also trying to figure it all out.

Yea you are being unreasonable.

If it's just a cold, then children should still go to school. Just like if I had a cold, I still have to go to work (unless it is severe).

And there is a big difference a cold and COVID symptoms...so as long as it's not a fever/cough, there shouldnt be an issue.

Some posters really do jump in with comments that show they haven’t followed the thread. The OP is well aware that it isn’t COVID. Her DH had to have a test because of his company policy, so why are you using this as another stick to beat her with?

In this instance, the mum was being selfish, quite clearly, so the OP is understandably pissed off. If she doesn’t work, she’s well capable of looking after her children if they’re not well. I’m a SAHM, so that would be true of me if I did that, too. I would only keep my DDs off for the first couple of days, then send them back into school so they learn resilience and that they can’t stay at home at the slightest sniffle.

YANBU but there will always be selfish people fucking things up for others, theres no point wasting energy and brain space on them.

Obviously a cough doesn’t always mean COVID. I’m still coughing up phlegm months after developing long COVID. I had a dry cough and temperature at the start back in early March, but I obviously don’t have to self-isolate anymore (I’ve tested negative now).

This particular company policy is ridiculous without a doubt.

If all parents in the NHS kept themselves and their child off school and work for a cold all hospitals would grind to a halt.

The only justifiable reason to be angry here is if child had one of the three main symptoms which would warrant a test if not YABVVVU.

'Parents like this don’t deserve children'

People like you don't deserve opinions, yet here we are.

Why did your DH test? Your daughter came home with a cold not CV symptoms. Your DH had a cold not CV symptoms.

Stop wasting tests.

If you read the first post, OP explains that DH’s employer wouldn’t take him back without a negative Covid test

From henceforth I am going to refer to ‘sick leave’ as ‘vomit leave’ 😉

YANBU, especially as her selfishness has cost you money.

@mummumumumumumumumumum I am not stating that some of the coughs are due to cold. I am simply stating that according to the NHS if you have a new, continuous cough – this means coughing a lot for more than an hour, or 3 or more coughing episodes in 24 hours (if you usually have a cough, it may be worse than usual), you have to self isolate.

OP, how come you’re convinced it was this child that gave your child a cold?

You do know that people don’t get infected and then display symptoms a couple of hours later right?

It’s not selfish to send a child into school with a cold, it’s what parents are supposed to do!

@Aridane I read the first post and still ask why?

If the daughter tested negative, then no point in the DF testing?

If the daughter tested positive, then no point in the DF testing until he had symptoms.

If the daughter tested positive, doesn't mean that the father can get a negative and return to work. It's a 14 day isolation, just because I'm negative one day, doesn't mean I don't need to self isolate for 14 days, because I could get in two days later.

Total waste of teats and no wonder the country is running out.