to loathe the woman who told me off today in Tesco?

[oreGOREnianabroad]

Ds1 (2.6) was in the front of the trolley, ds2 (6mo) was asleep in his car seat, correctly strapped into the top bit of the trolley. This woman approached me and said I would probably be told off for having ds1 in the front of the trolley. OK, I know it is not the safest place for him, but it is hardly the most dangerous. And he has happily shopped in this position for at least a year. And anyway, as long as my children are not in IMMINENT DANGER, why should she feel inclined to dispense unwanted and unsolicited advice, especially in such a passive aggressive manner ('Someone' is going to tell me off, or you are?)??? It is hard enough schlepping through the shops without people passing judgement.

it would have been the highlight of her day if someone had told you off, she would have wet her self with glee
pity her

move on.

Loads of people let their toddlers go in the trolley like this. Perhaps there are dangers, but its your decision not hers which is the best place for your child.
YANBU

thats just very odd

I think it's more a hygiene issue than one of danger. Sorry.

what does hygene have to do with it?

'loathe' seems a little strong but maybe that's just me!

oreGOREnianabroad - If I had seen you in Tesco, I would not have told you off as I do not think it is my place to dispense advice to strangers in public places.

However, just to let you know I was in a Tesco a few months ago and there was a little boy travelling like your DS1 and he dived out of the trolley and landed on the floor head first and my god there was blood everywhere and the most horrendous bang. Maybe this woman had seen something similar?

Hygeine because of outdoor shoes coming into contact with other people's food - eg frozen food being put where your dch's shoes had been. Not nice.

Crokky, that incident sounds awful, but it is only a slight possibilty, compared to the extreme likelihood of ds1 battering ds2 in the top end of the trolley.

god ye smove on!

Eh? riding in the trolley used to be the best bit of a supermarket trip. this nation is going mad, ah tell ye
we're all doomed.
we'll all be great big fat-encased helpless blobs with government-issue robots feeding us pre-digested pap through tubes while we lie, strapped to a computer, ploughing through various excel spreadsheets and various pointless reports, so's we can keep the NHS going, to pay for our heart transplants
just in case, y' know, we venture outside and, like, graze ourselves
thankfully i just look too nasty to get any drive-bys,so i don't
however, if i were to, my answer would be "not yo' kid, bitch, so not yo' call".
wow - i just had a rant.
i wasn't even annoyed, but now i feel better
you should've just looked her in the eye and said: "go on, then"
she'd have bottled it

littlelapin,
it was the tone that did it. Very snooty.

i know, i know, 'loathe' is rather much for a small scale incident, but really.

TSC-- are you serious??!! Surely, that's why food is packaged, and stuff that isn't gets washed!

YABU. You aren't supposed to put kids in trolleys, if you're going to do it, there's always going to be some goody twoshoes who will point it out. Just forget about it, not even worth pondering over, never mind worth loathing a complete stranger over IMO.

Agree with Stepford - muddy/dirty/worse shoes in a trolley where you're going to put food/veg/clothes etc. Bleurgh....

I don't get the hygiene thing - thats mad. Most stuff is wrapped and if not you'd wash it before you ate it.

This ones be done before. One of those issues that might sum up your attitude to risk and or parenting in general.

Personally, I'm happy if any of mine will get in the bleedin trolley in any position and stay there.

I've had too many carps now offa old ladies to let it worry me now. If they really wind me up, I follow them round the aisles with screaming 2 yr old just to do their melons in.

Manky

Ore - I don't wash my bags of frozen chips and my box of frozen fish before i put them in the freezer. Any dirt in the trolley will go onto them and get transferred onto my kitchen worktops.

I always hate to see dch in trolleys, for this reason. It's like putting your feet on train seats - uncaring of whoever comes after you. But I wouldn't say anything. The supermarkets have notices up telling you not to, and sometimes on the trolleys themselves. It's up to them if they want to police it.

If I am shopping with my two little ones at my local Waitrose, I have to put my 22 month old in the main body of the trolley if I want one of those trollies with the car seat cradle on the top for my two month old. I find it a nuisance but it is the most practical solution until my tiny baby is big enough for one of those moulded uprightish seats where he can sit next to his sister in her trolley seat alongside. I would be cross if anyone told me off.

I agree, if you think riding in a trolley which houses mainly pre-wrapped stuff and that which isn't is washed, and the trolleys are housed down, and you would notice if your kids had shite on their shoes, is bleughhhhhhhh and manky and should be banned.............................

we are DOOMED.

oh yeah - i should've mentioned - we'll all have asthma and various auto-immune disorders as well, as we'll never ever have been exposed to any bugs ever
so, strapped to a computer, in a BIG BUBBLE,being fed through tubes by government issue......etc etc.....

Yesterday, I saw an old man with nasal hair putting some frozen Ginsters Pies in his trolley. His trousers didn't look freshly dry-cleaned. Shall I report him?