Husband failed drug test-swears its wrong

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My husband has had a drug problem for a few years. About 3 years ago he did it in the house whilst the children were asleep and I was in the shower, he had overdosed, paramedic came out and the called SS as obviously there were children.
I threw him out
He went to doctors and got some medicine sorted for his depression and anxiety, and got completely off the drugs.
I had him back but the trust was broken so I order some drug test online which I did everyweek to know that he was staying away from them.
Hes been fine and relationship has gotten much better i haven't drug tested him this year.
Yesterday he seemed off so I asked if didnt mind doing a drug test he did it and it came back positive for drugs. He was shocked saying he hadn't touched anything, i check the date expiry on them and they are in date, i did one and it came out negative.
Hes lying isn't he?
What shall I do? He swears its wrong
How can I know the truth, I can't have that shit around my kids.
Do these tests ever come out wrong?
Please advise me

I think you already know he's using again.
He'll lie and lie and lie.

He's still taking drugs (cocaine is particularly bad when it comes to trying to be part of a family and holding down relationships; I've never met a cocaine user who wasn't an utterly selfish, unreliable fuckwit).

You clearly don't trust him (with good reason).

This is no basis for a relationship. Kick him out and start over.

You noticed he was acting strange and confirmed your suspicions with a drug test. I'd tell him to leave.

Of course he's lying!

I read the title and thought it was going to be something like - husband who has never touched drugs in his life did a drug test for work and it was positive, he is denying it. That would be a conundrum. But a known drug user who has been acting "off" - the answer is obvious. It's way to much of a coincidence isn't it? A false positive (actually two false positives) on the day he's acting like he is high.

Hes refusing to leave. Says it his house too and the tests are wrong. I dont actually have any SS involved it was only a for a little while a few years ago, they did their assessment and then said there were no concerns, I told the social worker about having him back and the drug testing and she said it was a good idea..

Honestly if you’re at a point of buying drug tests on the internet - you’re relationship is over.
There are weird things that can trigger false positives, bit also quite often you get false positives as well, so you’re never going to be fully assured.

The worst part is that he lying about it when it's so obvious. Does he think you are a complete fool? If I were him I would have gone with "I had a slip up, I'm so sorry, I'll never do it again" or something like that.

He’s lying. Do your children a favour and get rid of him.

Call the School Nurse and Social Services.
But call a solicitor first.

I guess start divorce proceedings and at some point he will have to leave.

I think with his unusual behaviour you know it's not a false positive. Dread to think of the money he has wasted 🤬

If you find any drugs in the house call the police for advice too.

If he won't leave you need to contact a divorce lawyer and kick off proceedings, it'll eventually go via the courts and he'll be forced to leave. It'll be a tough tome but you'll get through it.

It doesn’t matter if he’s lying or not, your reload over as it has no trust.
I’d kick him out and move on.
I’m sorry you’re in this situation.

is the house in both your names-if it is im afriad not alot you can do to make him leave

sounds dodgy but he did willingly take a test

Unless he's on some kind of opiate-based painkiller, then he's using again.
How you deal with it is up to you, but you need to protect yourself and protect your children first and foremost.

Of course the tests aren't wrong.

My ex was an alcoholic.

My mum is too.

I’d think he was acting oddly. He’d always have an excuse. At one point he convinced me he reacted strongly to paracetamol... There were literally hundreds of empty bottles hidden around the house when I started looking properly.

Whenever your spidey-senses tingle, it’s for a reason. Ultimately though, it doesn’t matter. You will NEVER be able to trust the man you married. Is that how you want to live your life?

They could be false positives.

He could be lying.

You noticed him acting oddly, and you don’t trust him.

Do you want to live like this for the rest of your life?

Go have a little look in his wallet at the cards etc.

Just so you know, poppy seeds and some over the counter pain killers can show positive for cocaine.

Regardless of this, you don't trust him. You need to move on from this

I would put it on him to prove that the test is wrong if he doesn't want you to keep the kids away from him. You can only believe the evidence in front of you (and that is the two positive tests!). Good luck OP, I can't imagine how tough it must be.

Poppy seeds I’m sure are heroin not cocaine. An opiate not a stimulant.

Regardless, how you can live with this level of uncertainty and mistrust I don’t know.

Hang on - no, got myself confused. It's heroin that can be detected from painkillers and poppy seeds

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