To think it's totally normal to love and like your best female friend more than your husband?

[mimblefish]

What the title says, really. I am in constant contact with my best female friend. I adore her, she is the other half of me. My husband has never been remotely bothered about this, I love him and he's a nice man and I find him very funny and he is my best friend after her. We have never had any problems.

A bisexual friend of mine said recently that if she was married to me, she'd feel really threatened by my relationship with my best friend. Now, I am not sexually attracted to best friend at all. If it was between her and husband I'd probably pick her to pull out of a burning building, but that doesn't mean it's a romantic attraction. I get that things might be more complicated if you're not straight, but, eh. What do you think, mumsnet? AIBU to think lots of women love their best friends more than anyone but their children?

Why do posters always focus on marriages breaking up? Clearly more than half don't, it's probably less frequent than best friends growing apart or falling out. Best friends betray each other as well.

What is important is that you don't put all your eggs in one basket. Because even if your DP/best friend stays close right through your life, one of you will die first unless you die together in an accident. I saw the effect of this when my FIL died suddenly in a car accident and my MIL was in pieces for a very long time.

Absolutely disagree.

I assume your husband is entitled to love his best friend more than you or do double standards apply?

I can't imagine loving anyone more than DH except DC. We share many interests and are best friends ourselves. If our marriage no longer worked I think we would remain close

@keeprocking

I assume your husband is entitled to love his best friend more than you or do double standards apply?

Of course he is, if he had one! This thread has somehow ballooned to 14 pages so I've no doubt nobody has read all the previous messages (I got tired of it to be honest) but I said somewhere early on that he's often said to me he wishes he had a close male friend and finds it sad that men aren't encouraged to be emotionally intimate the way women are.

OP I think a lot of people don't have particularly close friendships. I have two long standing friends who were there long before my husband and will always be there for me whatever happens. I have no siblings so they are like my family members.
I'm not sure about the burning building analogy (I mean, I'd want them all out) but there needs are equal to my husband's in my mind. I wouldn't specifically prioritise my husband over them.