Worst excuses for not seeing their children?

[JCWildWest]

I bet there are some horror stories, but what are the worse excuses the non resident parent (mum or dad) have used to not collect their children for contact or arrange contact?

I’ve just had two good ones. Little bit of background. He’s a twat. Contact is sporadic and when he deems himself available in his busy life. His choice I have pursued endlessly to try and get something solid. He lives about 20 miles away, he moved, he has a motorbike.

1. He has Covid as an excuse not to see DD for months. Saw her for the first time a few weeks ago. He has now decided Covid is a conspiracy and he doesn’t believe it and won’t be following government guidelines. He is refusing to wear a mask which means he can’t use public transport to come see DD.

1. I asked why he couldn’t be use his bike to come to see her as he has a relative he has near us where they can meet. He says he is not insured on a weekend. Despite telling me he couldn’t see her the other weekend because he was out. On his bike.

I fucking despair

Couldn't see the children as it would be giving me a night out to meet a new man 🙄

So after his excuses with no insurance etc I made arrangements for DD to get there (got my mum to ferry us because DP had to use our car to go to work). This morning he asked can she stay over tonight her DB (his son) is desperate to spend the night with her. But that I could get her tomorrow. I said no, I pointed out to him that I have told him soooo many times short notice is not doable and that I have called in a favour with my mum to even get her there today and that I haven’t got a way of picking her up tomorrow because DP is working again. All went ahead ok, but then I check DDs phone and he has messaged her and copied and pasted his pleading message to me about her DB desperately wanting her to stay. And said I tried my hardest.

He tried his hardest to convince me that I should change all the arrangements that I had already bent over backwards to make so he could see DD at all to suit him because his DS misses her. And when I said no. He’s messages DD to make out I’m the bitch that won’t let these things happen. Despite me being the one to facilitate him seeing her because he couldn’t be fucking arsed and using excuses about not having insurance to travel 10 miles to see her.

I’m done

Omg your update what a manipulative bastard.
I'd be livid as hard as it would be for DD to have little contact I'd rather eat my own hand then go out of my way to accommodate his visits ever again.

Exactly! But I’m frightened of cutting him off and feeding it. If I cease contact against DDs will I will look the bitch he is making me out to be

No you'll be protecting your DD. Explain you've try to accommodate him so she doesn't lose out but he is being nasty. I'd get her a mobile number when she is old enough, sorry to be harsh but he'll hurt her emotionally anyway forewarned is better in the long run.
She'll see the truth when she is older. Good luck x.

She’s 14. Old enough that I thought she might start to see things for what they really are but she seems totally blind to it