To find the expression 'we are pregnant' ridiculous and irritating

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Under most circumstances there is only one person who is pregnant in a couple. Wishing this expression would disappear but instead I notice it's use becoming more and more common.

I understand that this may come from a good place as both parents want to share in the experience but growing a baby is quite an undertaking for the mum and I think this expression trivialises it a bit.

What's the general consensus?

The few times I've heard things like "we are pregnant", or "we have decided not to use pain relief" in real life, the bloke was a fuckwit trying to control his wife's pregnancy.

Especially the "we have decided not to use pain relief" chap. I saw his wife's face and she wasn't happy. So I pointed out to him that it would be his wife's decision, made after consultation with the midwives. He said it was his baby, too. So I pointed out that until the baby had arrived, it was his wife who would be the patient, and he didn't get a say in treatment. They actually separated before the baby was born. I'm guessing his arseholeishness had increased massively (as can often be the case during a pregnancy).

@MulticolourMophead

The few times I've heard things like "we are pregnant", or "we have decided not to use pain relief" in real life, the bloke was a fuckwit trying to control his wife's pregnancy.

Especially the "we have decided not to use pain relief" chap. I saw his wife's face and she wasn't happy. So I pointed out to him that it would be his wife's decision, made after consultation with the midwives. He said it was his baby, too. So I pointed out that until the baby had arrived, it was his wife who would be the patient, and he didn't get a say in treatment. They actually separated before the baby was born. I'm guessing his arseholeishness had increased massively (as can often be the case during a pregnancy).

Why is this "it's my baby too" ever used in connection with the pregnancy and labour? Pregnancy and labour aren't a baby.

Well, we all know why, but that doesn't make it less fuckwittish. Sadly pregnancy does often prompt a start or escalation of abuse, as you say. Glad the poor woman got out. A man declaring no need for pain relief in labour!

It would literally turn my stomach to hear a man say ‘we were on gas and air’ or similar. As far from sweet and supportive as possible. Creepy and just downright odd. She is an individual not some extension of him when it comes to her pregnancy !