To give neither child an en suite??

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Yes - first world problems I know.

My kids are 9 and 6. Two girls. We are about to move house and two of the bigger bedrooms have an en suite.

DH and I are having one. The other I was going to make a guest room/office. There are two decent sized bedrooms for the girls.

DD9 wants the en suite. She has been going on and on about it but I don’t want to give it to her.

Firstly, a nine year old does not need a bloody en suite.

Also, I don’t think it’s fair to let her have it and not DD2 so in my view the fairest solution is that neither of them has it (I feel like DD2 gets a lot of hand me downs etc and it’s an issue that I have become quite conscious of).

DH agrees with me but my sister thinks we are bonkers to make the second biggest bedroom a barely-used guest room and that it’s a waste of space.

Would appreciate some views...

I'd be er five a child an en-suite. We tried it with a 13 yr old and they managed to ruin it.

YANBU OP. We have done similar with room sizes, so both DC have a smallish but same size bedroom and the big room is the spare room with the telly and sofa bed in it.

YANBU I have 4DC and 2 en-suite bathrooms/bedrooms. My Eldest (17yrs old) has the 2nd en-suit and me and DH has the first. 3 younger DC (15, 13 and 9) share the family bathroom which is always trashed with makeup, wipes, un-flushed loo etc. I clean it and tidy it daily and it drives me mad! I don’t think a 6 & 9 yr old would care for or look after an en-suit so no I wouldn’t let them have it. My 17yr old does an OK job of cleaning it. When she leaves for Uni next year we’ll referbish the room as a guest room.

We gave the ensuite room to one child so it was used etc, but then called the communal bathroom upstairs the other child's so they felt like they each had a bathroom and their own spa e for perfume etc as they got older. Worked great.

I would use the bedroom ensuite for guests. There is already a bathroom just for two of them. Why would you clean a 3rd bathroom week in week out when there is no need.

zombie

Ohh doh!

In this house we actually moved the wall so that the second en-suite was accessible from the landing rather than bedroom 2. But otherwise I would have had no problem with my oldest daughter having it. It would mean only your youngest is using the main bathroom so that’s would be hers anyway! I wouldnt waste the space tbh but there is nothing to say that you couldn’t move everyone around in a few years

Who’s in charge? She’s 9.

Good plan- move house because a nine year old wants something can't have? Give over.

You and your DH are of one mind. What your sister thinks is a complete irrelevance. Do what you and DH have decided and ignore sister.

@HarrietPoole

Good plan- move house because a nine year old wants something can't have? Give over.

I think if you read the 3 year old OP properly you would see they were moving, so the suggestion that they choose a house that better suited their needs wasn’t as ridiculous as you are making out.

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id have the en-suite in your guest bedroom and the girls share a family bathroom.

@dylanschicken

So they search for a different house with fewer bathrooms, or they search for a different house with extra bathrooms on the whim of a nine year old? My point stands, three years or not.

She is 12 now!

Not much to do with the 9 year old but a house that better suited the whole families needs rather then the needs of ant future guests, if you read the comment correctly.

Presumably the needs of the family were met, hence OP buying the house. Children had a bedroom each, and OP's plan was to use the fourth bedroom as a guest room/office. As you would know if you'd read the thread properly.

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^from the OP.

I’m sorry but you said they were 9&6. Still even at 12 she wouldn’t have a say.

They were 9 & 6 three years ago when thread was first posted!

What about both children have the bedrooms with an en suite and you have the family bathroom (which is generally the better, bigger bathroom) that's what we did. Tbf our children have more guests than we do (teens, so regular sleepovers) and them having their own bathrooms is a godsend.
You could compromise with the downstairs space and use that for your study instead of playroom.
I guess it depends on how often you have guests and how much they'd use the playroom. Our two don't use theirs now so it's a bit wasted, they're either with us in the main sitting room or in their rooms, but appreciate yours are younger, so might not work

Apologies!! I slipped into 'threads I'm AREADY ON' thinking I was in active
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You and DH each have an ensuite - have your own room.

Make it the guest room. It’ll be worth it for any guests to be tucked in their room at night and in the morning without needing to be using the main bathroom. And you won’t have to clean it the rest of the time.

Also it’s fairer between the kids but in a way that’s the least of the reasons 😂