He's gone away without his phone-really?

[Miss81]

Hi all

Looking for some advice here. I've been with my boyfriend (don't even know if he's that at their point) for just over a year. We started seeing each other soon after he finished with his long term ex (seven year and mother of his 3 year old daughter) and I found out in Feb this year that he has cheated on me with her (I had my suspicions at the time and he constantly denied them). I took him back and then lockdown happened and at first we were ok but he struggles with depression and we split.
His ex wants him back and he spends a lot of time there as he struggles being away from his daughter.

So...we just got back together and he has just gone away for the week and on the night before he goes away he tells me he isn't taking his phone (he is selling his house and wants a break from the calls and stress) with him as he wants quality time with his little girl, he loves me and he can't wait to see me when he gets back.

I'm suspicious, who goes on holiday without a phone? Surely that's dangerous.

So he is either with his ex, or cares so little for me he can't take his phone and send me a text .

What do you think?

How sad to be so 'screwed-up' in the head

You'd have to be screwed to tell your girl not to contact you, go away with the ex, and then a week later denying everything

This isn't about you - it's about him being emotionally disturbed. And I'm serious. I don't know you, but if your not emotionally fucked you wouldn't do stuff like that.

I hope you know you deserve someone whose not got those kind of issues.

I'd be tempted to contact the ex and say 'hope you had a nice time and it's great you were together as a family, but just so you don't get messed about, he came straight to mine saying he missed me, but I'm not interested in guys who lie. But just wanted to put you in the picture as I think it's disgusting how he's gone behind your back'

Fecker

@Jo0070

How sad to be so 'screwed-up' in the head

You'd have to be screwed to tell your girl not to contact you, go away with the ex, and then a week later denying everything

This isn't about you - it's about him being emotionally disturbed. And I'm serious. I don't know you, but if your not emotionally fucked you wouldn't do stuff like that.

I hope you know you deserve someone whose not got those kind of issues.

I'd be tempted to contact the ex and say 'hope you had a nice time and it's great you were together as a family, but just so you don't get messed about, he came straight to mine saying he missed me, but I'm not interested in guys who lie. But just wanted to put you in the picture as I think it's disgusting how he's gone behind your back'

Fecker

I completely agree, he has severe mental health issues (depression)

Tried to talk to her about things before to catch him out but she refused, she just wanted him back no matter what

Sad really