To be so fucking sick of living according to my neighbours routine ?!

[MrsA2015]

End of Terrace Victorian Victorian property converted into two flats, I’m on ground floor. Upstairs has 3 children 1-11 the noise from that is a whole other thread.

What’s really getting to be at the moment is the constant praying/chanting/pastor sessions (online) at 11pm on the dot since Easter Sunday. Frigging sick and tired of listening to it and the 6:45am Sunday wake up and what I’m guessing is pre-church family LOUD prayer session, then 20min of shrieking kids In the shared hall way that’s backed into my bedroom.

It’s constant and relentless, droning monotone voices, deliverance from the depths of hell? They’ll need saving from the depths of my damn shredded nerves before that.

I’m so so tired.

Every Saturday night I’m kept awake by late night cooking and filled with dread as I count down the hours to following morning.

39+4 weeks pregnant and at my wits end.

Yes I’ve spoken to them.
Yes I’ve reported.
Yes I’ve BEGGED for some peace.
No can’t move out.
No have nowhere else to stay.

Yes I’m crying desperately as I’m petrified already of the sleep deprivation to come coupled with knowing I’ve got these inconsiderate arseholes upstairs.

@tarasharp OP has already said they are Christian. You’re laughing at people making out they’re Christians yet eager to twist everything to say their religion is actually ‘Islam or Hindu’? Truly pathetic.

And the religion is Hinduism not Hindu. HTH and grow up.

Cadent I I hadn’t seen the post where she said this. But yes I’m laughing at people eager as usual to have a pop at Christianity. Someone said “chant a few quotes at the bible to them, it’s the only language they understand” I’m certain ithat similar wouldn’t be said to other religions.

They sound like vile people, as most religions fanatics often are., and it’s not me that needs to grow up it’s the people rushing to have a pop at a certain religion. Btw i do know the correct term for the Hindu religion, predictive text mistake that's all. So get off your high horse.

You have all my sympathies Op, it sounds awful.

@tarasharp I agree that many are eager to have a pop at Christianity and other religions but do you think you’re any better with your comment that t’s probably more likely to Hindus or Muslims because ‘they like to put on a show’? That’s truly disgusting and I’m sorry you can’t see that. Don’t defend Christianity at the expense of other religions, that’s so cowardly.

The Vatican sells snow globes of Jesus Christ! Isn’t that commercialism / putting on a show?!

@MsKeats. - you gave OP good advice. Environmental Health will also help but whoever you contact OP, you have to keep on at them, get as many professionals involved as possible and continually report your distress. See if a source in the Media will highlight your case. You deserve to live normally without that racket continually disturbing you. You need someone to be in your home to witness the noise and record it.

i have lived in my home for 13 years we have had problems with noise a few times. one night there was a rather loud party.going on (during lockdown) called police they wouldnt do anything even when i told them there was a house full of them breaking the lockdown. in the end i just went and banged constantly on their door until someone heard and i told them like a deranged psycho while my entire body was shaking to pack it in now so i can go to sleep. the music stopped straight away everyone went home... just go bang the door loudly every single time they disturb you and dont be at all polite about it OP

You need to make a complaint to the head of housing at your local authority and your MP. You need to state VERY clearly that you have reported the disturbance and submitted evidence on a number of occasions and been ignored. Also use the words that you are being denied your right to quiet enjoyment of your home and as your landlords they are in breach of your tenancy rights. LA’s are loathe to get involved when it comes to people and their religion BUT keep pressuring them. Good luck

Could you try some earplugs or noise cancelling headphones As others have suggested. Also when baby arrives, feel free to Sing, talk, play music to him/her as loudly as you like - especially in the night when you are up with the baby and next door is quiet.

In a matter of days, your baby will be waking them up at all hours, so I suspect that a little give and take is necessary here

Cadent Yes I suppose my comment wasn’t right but certainly no worse than some of the comments on Christianity. They could be classed as disgusting too? If you scroll back you’ll see them.....

I notice that comments that attack Christianity are so common that it might never actually occur to people that they are “disgusting”, they more or less go unnoticed but similar comments against other religions are immediately deemed disgusting etc. Respect should be shown all round..

First, enormous sympathy, and I apologize I have not read the whole thread. Are you able to get the phone number E mail address of the pastor/minister/vicar or church leader. You may get it direct from them or get it by some basic detective work. Many religious groups of any type have some form of order and usually church leaders are not keen on members who are behaving antisocially for two reasons bad PR and in fact it is to my knowledge not in the rule book of any religion to keep the neighbors awake. Explain factually what is happening. Sorry if you already tried this.

I had a similar problem with a lady who was a prostitute living above me, extremely loud sex from teatime 7 days a week sometimes going on until 2-3 in a morning, everything from straight sex to BDSM, we could hear literally everything, that was as well as the intercom going every hour, callers pressing my button instead of hers, strange men hanging around the stairwell & her arguing with her pimp when he called for his cut of her takings. I retaliated by playing loud music every time she was getting started with a client to put them off their stroke. It took about 6 months but she eventually got fed up & moved out.

Some good and some less useful advice on here OP. You have all my sympathy.

At least you will never have to worry about your baby disturbing them!

If only you could convert your neighbours to another christian group: the Quakers. (Society of Friends).

Their prayer meetings tend to be silent... for a whole hour.

Definitely Christian or as I can hear “lord Jesus Christ/Holy Spirit”.

Pretty sure I’m in early labor today so trying to stay as calm as possible. Alongside panicking as the impending “heatwave” were about to get in London. I’ve stupidly only bought cold weather uniform for DD who starts tomorrow

Scream all you want, give them something to pray for.

@tarasharp

I’m Christian. I used to belong to a Church where this was the normal practice. It was expected that people prayed like that at home (though they did teach considerations to neighbours was essential).

What don’t you get? It’s a very very small fraction of Christianity who believe intensity in prayer is essential to a godly life - usually the Faith movement. It’s not what 99% of Christians do, and if I knew the OP’s location I could probably guess the Church.

The only way you can get through to people like that is with well researched scripture or a pastoral rebuke. I’ve known people like this and been in their houses when they prayed like that. If they lived in detached no one cares. But they as Christians should love their neighbours as themselves. Which they aren’t.

MrsA - hope you have a smooth labour and the lot above you shit up for a bit.

Above should say word of faith movement. Faith movement is something different.

I think you could potentially utilise the "Loving the Neighbours, etc" quote against them when you play Rage Against the Machine or Pink Fluffy Unicorns Dancing on Rainbows (There is a 24 hr long version on youtube, just saying....) on full blast.

I think the time has come to return the favour. Happy Clappers literally fear no repercussions because they're not living for now, they're living for the next life. They're literally hanging around praying noisily, hoping to get "his" attention to get an invite into the pearly gates (which they assume are actually literally pearly - and nothing else matters. Not you, not the effect they have on you, etc. You need to make them uncomfortable. Maybe they will fuck off and move in with like minded idiots.

So sorry. I once had upstairs neighbors who dragged furniture (or at least it sounded like it) from one end of the apartment to the other all night, every single night. I also couldn't move until my lease was up! It was a long year! If it's any consolation your baby will be used to their noise at birth (having heard it in the womb throughout your pregnancy) and will be able to sleep through it, probably easier than yourself. Hope you can find a quieter place soon for your sake!

Good luck with the Baby OP!

play heavy metal for a few hours while you go out for a walk daily if they ever quote the bible about loving thy neighbour to you then just come back at them with the bible also says an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth