To be so fucking sick of living according to my neighbours routine ?!

[MrsA2015]

End of Terrace Victorian Victorian property converted into two flats, I’m on ground floor. Upstairs has 3 children 1-11 the noise from that is a whole other thread.

What’s really getting to be at the moment is the constant praying/chanting/pastor sessions (online) at 11pm on the dot since Easter Sunday. Frigging sick and tired of listening to it and the 6:45am Sunday wake up and what I’m guessing is pre-church family LOUD prayer session, then 20min of shrieking kids In the shared hall way that’s backed into my bedroom.

It’s constant and relentless, droning monotone voices, deliverance from the depths of hell? They’ll need saving from the depths of my damn shredded nerves before that.

I’m so so tired.

Every Saturday night I’m kept awake by late night cooking and filled with dread as I count down the hours to following morning.

39+4 weeks pregnant and at my wits end.

Yes I’ve spoken to them.
Yes I’ve reported.
Yes I’ve BEGGED for some peace.
No can’t move out.
No have nowhere else to stay.

Yes I’m crying desperately as I’m petrified already of the sleep deprivation to come coupled with knowing I’ve got these inconsiderate arseholes upstairs.

Keep reporting... I’m guessing you’re keeping a noise diary?

Sounds horrible OP but I dont know why you're looking for here. It sounds like you've tried all avenues. Presumably you can't move because you have time left on the lease? How long before that expires?

At least when your baby arrives you wont need to feel guilty if they cry all night and keep the neighbours up.

I feel for you. We used to live next door to students who had loud weekly drinking sessions.

Unfortunately there isn’t much you can do - I’d invest in a pair of ear plug or noice cancelling headphones in the short term. When baby is hear, maybe get some white noise to play and attempt to drown out their sound slightly for the baby. Best of luck - it can be unbearable I know

Hey op.

No advice but to say I've been there with neighbours as well.
Your impending newborn will beat them all hands down - you will survive through the sleep deprivation though, and you will have some chance to nap during the day as well.

I brought a headband which had built in headphones - very comfy and you can play white noise though them - it worked for me so give it a go.

Bed to lick with baby

Op I have the exact same issue it's horrible but I've found nothing stops it. They do it at the same time as yours 11pm going on midnight lots of banging a pole? I think it is into the ground which is my ceiling. Kids running wild lots of scary chanting. Then there's the party's every so often with drums and stuff. It frightens me I don't like it the chanting gets very full on and loud and then it goes into a rhythm.

Oh bloody hell, that sounds beyond awful.

Given your yes/no list I don't know what to suggest that'll get you any peace. In which case I'd go (probably unwisely) for retaliation!! & at least be relieved I wouldn't have to worry about the baby crying!!!

I can't sleep with ear phones in (freaks me out) can you?

Can you say why moving isn't an option?

Any bug intimidating friends who might go and have a word & asking them nicely to STFU?

Report again & again?

BIG, not bug! 🤣🤦🏻‍♀️

You need to keep on at the housing I don't know if you own it or are council I am council so keep reporting it for noise pollution. They should send out someone to record it and also log it in a diary.

It won’t get any better so you need a plan.

If you rent you need to find a way to get out.
If you own you need to stop reporting them because you will have to declare it when you sell and by reporting them you are basically making your flat unsaleable. And then you need to put it on the market and go somewhere else.

What’s their response when you raised it with them?

I live next door to a Muslim family. During Ramadan, 6:45am would have felt like a luxurious lie-in.

Kepp a log of the disturbance , times, dates and what happened incase you have to complain down official routes

And for a quick fix get yourself some really good earplugs to block out the noise so you can have a decent rest

If reporting definitely is not working then I'm afraid I'd have to return the favour. Bit of foul languaged heavy metal every time they start their shit might do the trick. Drown them out. A speaker on cushions on top of a wardrobe might work best if shoved up against your ceiling. Turn off as soon as their noise stops.

But I'm a petty bitch.

I was given an app to download on my phone -anything outside normal hours and they had a dog -constant yapping. She used to encourage it. Since her letter from the council she doesn. Just keep reporting daily - can you report online -just keep chasing. Also email your local parish councillor and find the person in charge of your area at the county council and email them and your local MP. If you know the church -you could email the pastor on the church about being respectful of those in the community etc.

11pm is very late for those sessions. I am surprised the children can get enough sleep if they are awake until mid night and up at 6.45am.

Are you able to move where your bed is to a different place in the house and ear plugs do help - I have 5 children including 2 students and sometimes the students are on holiday time and going to bed pretty late - well after me and ear plugs are the only solution.

Don't worry it will be your newborn noise upsetting the neighbours soon. And you won't have to apologise for it. And you won't be sleeping in then anyway.

This is awful. I would play VERY loud music right up against their floor and keep doing it until they stop. You've tried being reasonable so now it's time for the big guns. Where do these people get off thinking that noise that disturbs others is ok?

Can they move their session to a different room? Can you ask them and reference a bible quote with neighbours in?

Can you move room or is it one bedroom? Would a mattress fit anywhere else? Even in the kitchen?

Have you tried a white noise app on your phone?

Id start playing some very loud heavy thrash metal. Every bloody time. Fight fire with fire. While they're doing their prayers as long as it wasn't going to be disturbing anyone else.

Tell them you’re a satanist. Dress some friends in hooded cloaks and get them to come into your flat just as they’re going to church (preferably leading a goat)

Place inverted crosses in conspicuous windows, invite them over for a Ouija board Party. Play death metal at loud volumes. “Bump” into them speak random languages whilst rolling your eyes in your head. Dress a friend as a priest and get him to run screaming from your property in the dead of night.

Hopefully they might move.

Absolutely can’t move bedrooms around we’ve got two bedrooms, DD 4yrs in her room (middle room) our bedroom is front of house under their living room.

I GET it’s a crap layout they can’t help and it must be hard having 3 kids up there AND that there’s next to no sound proofing. Both of us are private renters via council. I’m just so fed up of the inability to be considerate! They say they can’t change their whole lives to suit me.

I’ve kept and recorded plenty of evidence and submitted countless reports. Doesn’t do a thing. They get letters that go straight in the bins.

Have you appealed to their sense of christian charity?

This is their chance to show their god how they try to live a christian life by forbearing from making a fucking racket and letting their neighbour have a decent quality of life.

Ask them what Jesus would do if his pregnant neighbour asked him not to drive her mad with noise.

I grew up in a flat surrounded by others and distinctly remember my parents explaining to us we’ve got to do certain things differently to not disturb others. I suppose I am making the fatal mistake of judging by my own standards. Or expecting common sense

You own this property?

As you've tried to be reasonable and have done all the right things I think the time is right to play dirty.

Disturb their prayer sessions with even louder noise of your own, every single time.