To be so fucking sick of living according to my neighbours routine ?!

[MrsA2015]

End of Terrace Victorian Victorian property converted into two flats, I’m on ground floor. Upstairs has 3 children 1-11 the noise from that is a whole other thread.

What’s really getting to be at the moment is the constant praying/chanting/pastor sessions (online) at 11pm on the dot since Easter Sunday. Frigging sick and tired of listening to it and the 6:45am Sunday wake up and what I’m guessing is pre-church family LOUD prayer session, then 20min of shrieking kids In the shared hall way that’s backed into my bedroom.

It’s constant and relentless, droning monotone voices, deliverance from the depths of hell? They’ll need saving from the depths of my damn shredded nerves before that.

I’m so so tired.

Every Saturday night I’m kept awake by late night cooking and filled with dread as I count down the hours to following morning.

39+4 weeks pregnant and at my wits end.

Yes I’ve spoken to them.
Yes I’ve reported.
Yes I’ve BEGGED for some peace.
No can’t move out.
No have nowhere else to stay.

Yes I’m crying desperately as I’m petrified already of the sleep deprivation to come coupled with knowing I’ve got these inconsiderate arseholes upstairs.

@AJGranny

Oh I feel for you. One of my neighbours has religious 'ceremonies' that involve shrieking to 'cast out the devil' from her children. It honestly borders on child abuse, her immediate downstairs neighbours have been out into the garden shouting up and begging her to stop doing it to the little girl. Are there no rules against religious gatherings that you can use? Sorry it must be awful.

Haven’t you called the police and social services?

My job requires me to liaise with social services on a daily basis. They will absolutely 100% not be interested in actioning anything based on children being kept up until 11pm. It's hard enough to get them to come into school to talk to a child who has explicitly told a member of staff their parents are hitting them (unless there's a visible injury) so I'm not sure why people think they will intervene in this case. This definitely comes under the category of crap parenting, but nothing OP has said suggests they are being abused.

I sympathise massively with OP's situation and I'm glad to see she has had some good, sensible advice on this thread about escalating her complaints with the council. But telling people to ring social services and make a false report of child abuse because they don't like the response they're getting from another agency about their noise complaint is extremely irresponsible, especially at a time when children's services are at breaking point.

Riv

Chanting before eating isn't a common Christian practice. Far more likely to be Hindu. Surprised you automatically thought Christian.

@AJGranny that doesn’t border on child abuse, it is child abuse. Please please report to police and social services.

Write everything down and try as much as you can to rein your anger in ( difficult I know )
Put times down .. write a journal of all the noise ....
keep calm ... you will find powers that be are a lot more receptive and it’s better for your health too ...: get out for a walk whenever you can as it can calm you down a bit and clear the head I find

This is awful. I think there's nothing more maddening and demoralising than constant uncontrollable noise.

I would knock every single time they make noise. Every. Single. Time. I would tell their children to be quiet. I would follow then to church and speak with thier vicar/pastor /priest - sharing the evidence and ongoing inconsiderate behaviour and plead with him to help and intervene.

At this point, however immature, I would be finding every way possible to make their lives as disturbed and exasperating as how they make yours.

Good luck.

Contact your local environmental health department as they can put special recorders in and if the noise exceeds certain levels then they will issues formal warnings and proceed to prosecution if necessary

As a Hindu with experience of many Hindu households (temple helper) I can tell you that it is NOT more likely that this family is Hindu...chanting before a meal would take all of a minute, akin to saying grace.

The YouTube link is something that you might listen to quietly on a special day. Once a year? Not every mealtime.

Do you know which church/place of worship they go to? Might be worth a chat with whoever's in charge.

Have you contacted Environmental Health and asked them to fit the black boxes in your rooms?

Keep up with the noise diary, keep reporting and if you're in Housing Association, see if you can get a flat swap. There are groups on FB you can join.... I hate to say it but just lie. Pretend you need to move to be near family.

Make sure your GP and health visitor knows that this is impacting on your mental health.

@AJGranny please call social services and the police immediately.
I am a safeguarding lead and my school and this is exactly the kind of thing that should be reported. These things have been ignored in the past and children have died.
What you’ve written is a red flag! CALL THE POLICE! You could be saving a child. DO IT NOW

Could you go the other way and try to radically accept it?

"Fight fire with fire, the ending is near" Pappa Het.

Reverting back to the 'beat them at their own game' option. Speaker against ceiling, with something with a nice, assertive start. Preferably something with a not-so-subliminal message.

I think Transvision Vamp's 'Baby I Don't Care' would fit the bill nicely. Maybe a good thread for other suggestions?

At least until baby turns up anyway. 💐

Feel for you OP

Absolutely squat all you can do.
Flat on market and move
If you can’t, I’m afraid just got to accept it

I would be loud at 17:00 pm nap time. Find your own religion!

Re playing them at own game
Seeing as they’re not trying to sleep but instead talking, chanting etc - I don’t think going to have much of an impact

They sound normal to me 🤷‍♀️

Your due a baby which is going to be far more annoying than them making general family noises. You might have a baby that crys all the time, wakes up for feeds at 1am, 4am, 7am....a baby with colic which will cry for hours or a baby with a health problem like an ear infection and cry from 11pm right through until 6am like mine did. I'm sure you will be keeping them up and lack of sleep too. Your baby will scream and run around eventually and you too will be an annoying neighbour if this is what you find annoying.

Could be worse.. My neighbours were basically arguing all night and day for 2 years... Sounded horrific. Sounded as though someone was getting murdered and thankfully he's been sent to jail now for 10 years for killing someone so thank your lucky stars you didn't have to listen to it. Or neighbours who have wild party's all night, loud music until 2am, folk having sex and screaming the place down all the time. Your neighbours are very normal.

Have you contacted Environmental Health? They should help.
Contact the Council.

Also possibly are they running a business from non business premises? Trading standards? the landlord?

Local district cllr is the person you need if rural. Any ward cllr if unitary. Ask for the noise monitoring equipment to be installed. Badger them.

Africans I’m guessing

Retaliate. Marilyn mason/death metal very loud and close to the ceiling. Because obviously your pregnant, and hormonal and you don't need a reason to listen to satanic music whenever you feel like it

I read something on Reddit once where a guy had problems with his noisy neighbours. Despite speaking to them on numerous occasions they persisted with their late night parties and extremely loud music. Having had enough, after a particularly sleepless night and knowing they'd be hungover and fragile the next day he played for ten hours at full volume with the speaker pressed directly against the offending wall and went out for the day. He returned to a letter of apology and promises to be more considerate.

You need a letter from your Dr stating the neighbours behaviour is making you ill, when baby is born you csn get a letter from your health visitor, photo copy them and give originals to council, you should also contact your mp