To ask how many friends you have?

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I was thinking today about it I’ve only got two. I occasionally chat to a few others but they aren’t friends. Has this changed as you got older? I used to a big group of friends till my mid 20’s

I have about 4 friends i can talk to about anything. Then lots of people I'm friendly with. Plus a big sister who's my ultimate best friend.

I have six friends I could call in the middle of the night for anything.
I have around fifteen more that I consider good friends, that I see regularly.

We have very little family left, so they are my family!

I think I'm quite ugly by anybody's standards, so perhaps that puts people off too

I have never met a single person that I considered ugly, and you definitely are not the first. Maybe being shy comes across as self contained or aloof unknowingly? Why not suggest a coffee to the woman you talk to at the gate? It sounds like you lack confidence.

Depends on what you count as friends. I'm never short of people to chat to or go out with. But people you could ring up at 3am out of the blue and say "help me!" and feel confident they will? Other than people I'm married to or related to, I only have one of those.

Probably in reality zero!!!

A few acquaintances for senseless chit chat when I see them but that's it

Yesterday was my bday and cos the kids where at their dads I saw noone...it sucks

I’m more of a group person I suppose? I have one close friend locally and a couple of quite people I hang out with because of our kids. I have a great group of friends from school and we tend to message the group chat several times a week but I don’t feel the need to communicate with them much individually. Likewise with the girls I shared a house with at uni. They were very close friends once upon a time but none of us really has the time to communicate that frequently and then it is usually to the group chat.

1 or 2 who i text a couple of times a week and we (very occasionally meet up).
I spend 99% of my days off work with my DP or my mum and sister. I used to have a lot of friends growing up but when I got to the age of 29 I went through 3 years of bad depression and I completely isolated myself. People were sympathetic to begin with but then the friendships just fizzled out after a couple of years of not speaking to any of them.

I have friends from all through life, 3 live nearby. Most of my friends date from earlier stages in my life and live all over the place. I've moved around quite a lot during my life.

One close friend who I could call any time. We have never lived near to each other though. We met years ago as she was my DH's best friend's wife.

6 good friends from various stages in life who I talk to regularly and meet up with from time to time, who don't live nearby.

7 close friends and another 12 or so who I see fairly regularly, most often in group social activities.

None, used to have a few but in my 50's I just don't see them as necessary now.

I have work colleagues and my husband, I don't need anything else.

I have quite a few - I work fairly hard to make and maintain friendships. I have a group of about six who I hang out with in my hometown - I'd call two of them good friends who I see probably twice a month. Then I have four good friends from uni that I'm still in regular touch with and meet up with whenever I can, and three of four others that don't live close but will keep in touch with and see maybe twice a year. Then I have bigger groups that I see at parties and days out, etc. So I guess 13-14 proper friends who know me well and who I share history with, and lots of acquaintances.

None that I would tell everything.
A couple I meet occasionally more casual friends no close ones though

Including friends I have at work (actual friends who I chat to often), around 10.

2? Even then 1 is a uni friend and the other a mum friend. Both of which are of high importance to me but not the other way round.

7 very close friends including my partner and my sibling. And maybe 15 people who I'd call friends but not especially close friends? I'm pretty happy with that- I'm too introverted to keep up with anyone else.

0 close friends, I have a few friends who I will catch up with sporadically, some work colleagues who I get on well with. I'm lucky I'm close to my sisters, mom and two f my cousins.

I have maybe 4 or 5 really close friends that I would tell everything too, 2 of those are friends from childhood that I've known since I was at playgroup.
I have a few different groups of friends, most made mainly through work or mum's of the kids school friends who I socialise with quite a bit and have a weekend away with at least once a year.
A rough count 15 friends locally who I see quite a bit of and socialise with.
Then there are the people who are friends or friends or good acquaintances that I might stop and chat to in the street or catch a quick coffee with every now and then.
I don't see as much of my friends as I'd like too though, we all seem to be so busy all the time.

My sister is my soul mate, best friend. I speak to her countless times a day. I then have two other good friends. I have several people who I’m pretty friendly with, would go out for dinner with etc but I wouldn’t say we’re good friends

Probably 7 or 8, but none of them close or speak with on a weekly basis or anything. I catch up with them on average every 6-12 weeks. A group of 3 ex-colleagues, and a few individual people I grew up with. I'm terrible at making friends. I'm very introverted and very shy (which I see as separate things). It's funny because I crave a close friendship, but whenever I make plans to meet up with someone I then absolutely dread it and would love nothing more than to spend that time by myself

I used to think I had loads of friends, when I was 21 I had dozens of people I thought were my close friends. - but then I got pregnant and these people melted away. Turns out alcohol was the thing our friendship was built on and when I was talking night feeds and cuddles, the friendships just didn’t work. I remember being so shocked in those early days, when no one came to visit or call.

3 best friends, who’ll be my bridesmaids. They did all live locally but one just moved away to be closer to family. We all talk regularly and I see the two who still live nearby every couple of weeks. I’m friendly with their husbands too.

7 friends from school who live at the other end of the country, see them once or twice a year (pre covid) and we have a group chat.

Then I have friendly acquaintances from my current uni course and other mum friends, who I’d go on a night out with/meet up for
coffee, but wouldn’t bare my soul to.

Three.

Both of which are of high importance to me but not the other way round

Can totally relate to this. All of my friends have much closer friends than me, I think I'm pretty low down on their list!

This thread has made me feel quite a bit better about my friend situation. I've always thought of myself as a loner compared to everyone else who seems to have loads of close friends.

Hmmm. I would say I've got 5 very close friends, then a wider group of women I'm friends with enough to go on holiday with. Also a big mixed sex group of mates for days out, pub trips etc. Also a group of 3 or 4 co-workers with whom I chat most days; they're not close friends but I really enjoy their company.

I'm really close to my mother and grandmother too.

Probably 2. I would like more sometimes but i also find it quite hard to mantain friendships at the same time so perhaps i should be happy with 2. I do feel lonely at times