Page 8 | Partner just pissed on the kitchen floor

fuckthisforabarrelofbiscuits · 2020-09-05T02:39:29+00:00

We have a downstairs toilet, it was less than 3 steps away. He's fucking pissed on the kitchen floor. Now he's trying to sleep on the sofa while I pacify his daughter (who ou love dearly!) because he put her to bed at 5. Keep getting "why you being mardy" "Babe what's up" "Why you being off with me?" Well perhaps it's because I'm parenting tour child while you claim exhaustion b the sofa. And to think this moron is begging me to have a baby with him 😂 give me strength!!!!!!!!!!

MarieIVanArkleStinks · 05/09/2020 10:28

Anyone else living with a toss pot?

No. But I did once. That was my father, and as a child I didn't have the choice to leave. He abused alcohol (although that was outside my frame of reference as a child) and was nasty and verbally abusive. By the time I was a teenager - a feisty, rebellious one with the cheek of a dozen - he couldn't take the least hint of insubordination and became violent towards me (never my mother and never in her hearing). This escalated to the point where he concussed me.

He pissed down the stairs once. And once in a wardrobe. And got verbally abusive when this was objected to, as any decent person would object. This has stayed with both my sibling and me, now in our 40s. I've been in therapy for cPTSD and my sibling is sadly now also an alcoholic.

OP, please don't let your DD end up like us.

Bluepolkadots42 · 05/09/2020 10:28

That's disgusting and he sounds like a disgusting, useless excuse of a dad. That child deserves way better. And so do you. Don't have another child for him to inflict his useless and selfish ways upon.

blanchmange50 · 05/09/2020 10:30

So its his DC your looking after as your own are at there grandparents. Really? He sounds like another one of those blokes who has latched on to a single mother and expects you to parent his DC. You need to have a long hard look at the type of man you have brought into your DC home....

Lovemusic33 · 05/09/2020 10:32

I feel sorry for the little girl I would be calling her mother and asking her to collect her as her father is unfit to care for her.

You sound amazing, looking after his child whilst he’s off his face, you shouldn’t have to do this. If you had a child with him it would be a whole lot worse. Get rid of him, he’s a useless partner and a useless father.

BBCONEANDTWO · 05/09/2020 10:33

@CandidaAlbicans2

Wow, I've just read your previous threads about him, OP, and I can't find any redeeming features at all! It's just a catalogue of awfulness, which you admit, yet you seem to not want to end things because you're worried he'll be upset and then upset your DD. This is a poor excuse. You've been given so much feedback here since March yet you've done sod all to protect yourself or your poor children! This relationship is awful...

You've never fancied him
You've always found him creepy
You have nothing in common
He moved into your home by stealth
He frequently gropes you despite knowing you hate it
He's literally ripped your clothes off multiple times (torn them off you FFS!)
He's set fire to your trousers whilst you've been wearing them
He's torn your nipple
Etc...

You want to end it, so what's your plan? Stay with him and continue being unhappy? Probably end up pregnant and stuck with him then for life? Is that all you think your life is worth? It is not! His behaviour is not normal (please believe me, I've been with plenty of twats unfortunately), this relationship is not normal, and you (and your children deserve better).

^^^^^

THIS THIS THIS

Please OP get out of their and don't look back.

ithinkiveseenthisfilmbefore · 05/09/2020 10:38

Dump him. Before his daughter becomes even more attached to you.

Tell his ex about his drinking, pissing himself, and that you do all the childcare because he can't in his state and she won't let him anyway.

Take a long hard look at yourself and try to figure out what you stayed so long in such an awful relationship so you don't repeat the mistake.

viques · 05/09/2020 10:38

I would be really interested to know OP what your breaking point about his foul behaviour would be?

I'm leaving you because you threw up over the roast dinner my mum cooked for your birthday.

Or

I'm leaving you because you shat on the sofa.

Or

I'm leaving you because you pissed Up the new curtains?

Or

I'm leaving you because.........

Please fill in the blanks OP, because I think you need to think ahead to what the next few years might bring if you are happy to put up with his current behaviour.

Do you want to be clearing up after him, both physically and emotionally, for the rest of your life?

OhCaptain · 05/09/2020 10:50

@Lovemusic33

I feel sorry for the little girl

I would be calling her mother and asking her to collect her as her father is unfit to care for her.

You sound amazing, looking after his child whilst he’s off his face, you shouldn’t have to do this. If you had a child with him it would be a whole lot worse. Get rid of him, he’s a useless partner and a useless father.

Sorry, no. She doesn’t sound amazing. She’s keeping this abuser around her own children constantly. She’s not amazing at all.

Beefcurtains79 · 05/09/2020 10:53

OP isn’t coming back, she’ll be cooking him a fry up and washing his piss soaked jeans for him.

thinkingaboutLangCleg · 05/09/2020 10:55

OP, he may have some loveable qualities now, eg being fun and good company when he’s in a good mood (I’m thinking of my own XP).

But that will wear off very quickly when you have a baby plus this drunken, selfish and irresponsible manchild to look after.

Run for your life.

WithTheJonses · 05/09/2020 10:57

I would call dsd mum and explain what the pig has done and that she's not safe in his care and get mum to come and collect dd

Then I'd leave or kick him out and have nothing more to do with the disgusting cunt

AndAnotherUsername · 05/09/2020 11:01

I don't understand how men become so pathetic, it angers me!

It’s not “men” it’s just your man.

I literally don’t know any man like this.

Have you had nasty men around you growing up as well?

fuandylp · 05/09/2020 11:01

He needs to go.
His drinking is out of control if he ends up pissing on the kitchen floor and he's also not taking care of his own child and expecting you to do so.
Bin.

LookAtTheCahhOlivahhhhh · 05/09/2020 11:02

@CandidaAlbicans2

Wow, I've just read your previous threads about him, OP, and I can't find any redeeming features at all! It's just a catalogue of awfulness, which you admit, yet you seem to not want to end things because you're worried he'll be upset and then upset your DD. This is a poor excuse. You've been given so much feedback here since March yet you've done sod all to protect yourself or your poor children! This relationship is awful...

You've never fancied him
You've always found him creepy
You have nothing in common
He moved into your home by stealth
He frequently gropes you despite knowing you hate it
He's literally ripped your clothes off multiple times (torn them off you FFS!)
He's set fire to your trousers whilst you've been wearing them
He's torn your nipple
Etc...

You want to end it, so what's your plan? Stay with him and continue being unhappy? Probably end up pregnant and stuck with him then for life? Is that all you think your life is worth? It is not! His behaviour is not normal (please believe me, I've been with plenty of twats unfortunately), this relationship is not normal, and you (and your children deserve better).

Oh god, is it that dickhead? Why on earth are you still with him OP? Bin the piece of shit.

Cissyandflora · 05/09/2020 11:07

This is really serious. Is the child’s mother a better and safer parent? You sound caring but this can’t and shouldn’t continue. The four year old needs to be with someone sober who can give her safety and stability.
And then perhaps you need to remove yourself from this situation.

RandomUser3049 · 05/09/2020 11:11

This reply has been withdrawn

This has been withdrawn by MNHQ at the poster's request.

VettiyaIruken · 05/09/2020 11:13

I cannot for the life of me understand why you are choosing, day after day after day, to remain in a relationship with this foul man.
I hope you decide to end things.

Medievalist · 05/09/2020 11:13

Sorry, no. She doesn’t sound amazing. She’s keeping this abuser around her own children constantly. She’s not amazing at all.

^^ This. I dread to think what those children have seen and heard.

FenellaVelour · 05/09/2020 11:14

Men! What are they like, eh? Haha!

That’s the tone of the OP’s post. I just don’t understand how anyone would tolerate or minimise behaviour like this.

Barryisland · 05/09/2020 11:15

Have some self respect.
Get the child collected by her mum.
Drag him out the front door and change the locks.
Dump all his stuff outside in a bin bag.
Never speak to him again.
Redeem yourself you are better than him.

Chewbecca · 05/09/2020 11:22

I hope you are ending this relationship, for good, today.

timetest · 05/09/2020 11:26

Take the child back to her mother and get the hell out.

CandyLeBonBon · 05/09/2020 11:27

Where are you that you can get a takeaway in the middle of the night and why can't I get that?

DopamineHits · 05/09/2020 11:27

If you leave this man - which would be a definite act of self care and a very good idea - please get in contact with the child's mother first so she knows what's going on.

dollypartonscoat · 05/09/2020 11:29

@timetest it's the OPs house. Why would she get out?

This man is dangerous. The OP should get rid of him immediately if only to protect her own daughters.

OP in the same thread that you detail all of his sexual abuse towards you, you talk about him getting angry about your 3 year old daughter climbing into bed with you both

Why are you putting your babies at risk?