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Partner just pissed on the kitchen floor

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fuckthisforabarrelofbiscuits · 05/09/2020 03:39

We have a downstairs toilet, it was less than 3 steps away. He's fucking pissed on the kitchen floor. Now he's trying to sleep on the sofa while I pacify his daughter (who ou love dearly!) because he put her to bed at 5.

Keep getting "why you being mardy"

"Babe what's up"

"Why you being off with me?"

Well perhaps it's because I'm parenting tour child while you claim exhaustion b the sofa. And to think this moron is begging me to have a baby with him 😂 give me strength!!!!!!!!!!

OP posts:
Candyfloss99 · 05/09/2020 09:25

I don't understand how women stay with men this pathetic.

Grannyspecsandslippers · 05/09/2020 09:26

You deserve better. I can’t imagine the world in which DW would do this to me. Don’t have a kid with this waster.

Shayisgreat · 05/09/2020 09:29

He put his daughter to bed at 5pm so he could go drinking. I'm sure he knew he would be in no fit state to look after her so expecting you to do it. That's disrespectful really and enough to be pissed off about. But then he pissed on the kitchen floor and shouted at you. Outrageous.

I don't think I could muster up any enthusiasm for a relationship with such a man.

EvilPea · 05/09/2020 09:30

I’d have been inclined to put her in the car and go to watch the sunrise at the seaside or something.
It’s not her fault her dads a twat.

rainbowunicorn · 05/09/2020 09:31

@frolicmum

Yeah, this used to happen loads in our house. He couldn't really control it seemed to think the floor was the toilet when pissed.

It's an accident, I didn't really mind and thought it's more funny than anything else and it's a brilliant story later on. We now have a DS and a second on the way - it hasn't happened ever since DS had arrived 💜

This is in no way normal. It is certainly not funny. I really can't imagine recalling that as a funny story to tell anyone.

It is disgusting and I would seriously question anyone that chose to bring children into a home like that. You say that it hasn't happened since your child was born but seem to think it would not be a problem if it did as you don't really mind.

How awful for any child to be brought up in a household where the parents think it is normal to be so drunk that they piss all over the floor.
Revolting.

OhCaptain · 05/09/2020 09:31

If you’re above board you either need to get this excuse for a man away from your children, or leave them with a responsible adult who will put their needs and safety first.

As for your stepdaughter, I wish to god her mother was on here. The only silver lining is that she’s getting older and will be able to ge her mother what’s going on in that abusive shit hole of a “home”.

Redwinestillfine · 05/09/2020 09:39

Phone her mum. If it was
my child I would want to know!

RednaxelasLunch · 05/09/2020 09:41

Jesus christ what did I just read.

Foul

Huglikeabear · 05/09/2020 09:46

How old is this poor child? You said she's five, then that's she's almost 4, which makes her 3 years old. How old are your children and do they witness this too?

ChippyDucks150 · 05/09/2020 09:47

I'm assuming by the language the OP used and the times, she's in Australia.

Anyways, that poor child.

billy1966 · 05/09/2020 09:49

So awful.

Waster.

Children in the middle of homes like this really don't get a look in.
Beyond me why any woman would want that in their lives and the lives of their children.🙄

Heischeatingisnthe · 05/09/2020 09:49

Get her home to her mother . What a disgrace he is

lunar1 · 05/09/2020 09:51

Please tell her mum what's going on, that little girl deserves better.

Iwantacookie · 05/09/2020 09:55

If it's a one off I could forgive and move on. If this is in an ongoing thing ltb you dont need a man child too.

LovingLola · 05/09/2020 09:56

Beyond me why any woman would want that in their lives and the lives of their children

For some women any man - no matter how abusive or dysfunctional - is better than no man.
And the children are much lower in the pecking order.

IdblowJonSnow · 05/09/2020 10:00

OP it's really not on for kids to be exposed to this.
If my friends in real life told me about this and the crotch/lighter thing I'd be calling social services... Sad

CandidaAlbicans2 · 05/09/2020 10:04

Wow, I've just read your previous threads about him, OP, and I can't find any redeeming features at all! It's just a catalogue of awfulness, which you admit, yet you seem to not want to end things because you're worried he'll be upset and then upset your DD. This is a poor excuse. You've been given so much feedback here since March yet you've done sod all to protect yourself or your poor children! This relationship is awful...

You've never fancied him
You've always found him creepy
You have nothing in common
He moved into your home by stealth
He frequently gropes you despite knowing you hate it
He's literally ripped your clothes off multiple times (torn them off you FFS!)
He's set fire to your trousers whilst you've been wearing them
He's torn your nipple
Etc...

You want to end it, so what's your plan? Stay with him and continue being unhappy? Probably end up pregnant and stuck with him then for life? Is that all you think your life is worth? It is not! His behaviour is not normal (please believe me, I've been with plenty of twats unfortunately), this relationship is not normal, and you (and your children deserve better).

Azerothi · 05/09/2020 10:07

I'm going to get flamed here but I think you're as much to blame as your boyfriend. You need to get your boyfriends daughter out of there. You are facilitating this abuse of your boyfriend's daughter. You might want your own children to see this disgraceful behaviour but your boyfriend's child's mother should be told.

TenDays · 05/09/2020 10:10

When you say he pissed on the floor, do you mean he wet himself spontaneously or did he take his thing out and treat the floor like a urinal? Was he sleepwalking?

Either might mean he is drunk/drugged (sorry, I don't know whether he does these things) or has some health issue.

If he just walked in there and pissed because he couldn't be bothered to use the bathroom then you should be rethinking your future with him.

nogoodsolution · 05/09/2020 10:10

@frolicmum

Yeah, this used to happen loads in our house. He couldn't really control it seemed to think the floor was the toilet when pissed.

It's an accident, I didn't really mind and thought it's more funny than anything else and it's a brilliant story later on. We now have a DS and a second on the way - it hasn't happened ever since DS had arrived 💜

Good God. I am lost for words.

OP, so far as your situation goes: why are you living like this?

AriesTheRam · 05/09/2020 10:12

My ex pissed on our mattress on Christmas day night once.I went nuclear

SuitedandBooted · 05/09/2020 10:13

Beyond me why any woman would want that in their lives and the lives of their children

As my Mum used to say "When you see what some women will marry, you realise how afraid they are of being single"

Envy not envy

LouiseTrees · 05/09/2020 10:19

@fuckthisforabarrelofbiscuits

In my annoyance I've just said "and to this you want me to have a child with you" and how he's calling me all the disgusting shits under the sun. Me and DSD have gone to bed. No doubt he will be up in a minute
When he’s sober, tell him you don’t intend to parent two of his children while he goes out and gets pissed. Where’s your chance to relax/get pissed? PS clearly don’t do this if he is physically abusive. But you do need to have a sit down so we conversation, sounds from your tone of messages that this happens often.
WhatWouldYouDoWhatWouldJesusDo · 05/09/2020 10:22

It does seem to be a drunken thing.........i pissed on my doorstep once. My legs just didn't know what direction to go in 😂😂😂

OhCaptain · 05/09/2020 10:24

@WhatWouldYouDoWhatWouldJesusDo

It does seem to be a drunken thing.........i pissed on my doorstep once. My legs just didn't know what direction to go in 😂😂😂
Did you also light fire to your partner’s clothes while he/she was wearing them?

Did you get “heavy handed” when he/she asked you to stop groping?

Did you tear his/her nipple?

Why don’t people bother to read bloody threads??

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