Partner just pissed on the kitchen floor

[fuckthisforabarrelofbiscuits]

We have a downstairs toilet, it was less than 3 steps away. He's fucking pissed on the kitchen floor. Now he's trying to sleep on the sofa while I pacify his daughter (who ou love dearly!) because he put her to bed at 5.

Keep getting "why you being mardy"

"Babe what's up"

"Why you being off with me?"

Well perhaps it's because I'm parenting tour child while you claim exhaustion b the sofa. And to think this moron is begging me to have a baby with him 😂 give me strength!!!!!!!!!!

Why do you want to be with this man op? Genuine question. I don’t understand why you have t ended it with him already.

That's disgusting. That's not something that even most pissed people would do, it's beyond pissed and into complete low-life territory.

Read OP’s other thread. Serious abuse. Burning her, slapping her, tearing off her clothing....
This man is a sadist, yet @fuckthisforabarrelofbiscuits you feel sorry for him?
Oh the amount of abused women who say “ but it isn’t his fault” are making excuses.

You cannot rescue or save him. He is a very dangerous creepy individual.
Please get him out of your life.

this sounds very serious OP:(

Please kick him out, or leave him. He's disgusting - most people, even when pissed would not piss on the kitchen floor. No excuse.

Ring the child's mum asking her to come and pick her up. Tell her he's not fit. Then dump him.

[quote fuckthisforabarrelofbiscuits]@VodselForDinner

Absolutely NOTHING is happening to my little girl. She bed shared for a short while, with me in the middle, because she's very attached to me and it was a phase I was working through with her. [/quote]
You're very carefully not answering all the other points about why you're still with this abuser.

Please, please go to the police, report his abuse, tell them you’re afraid of his reaction & that you need support in getting him out as he’s violent. Get a locksmith. Let his ex know what’s going on as she’ll need to know for childcare reasons (it probably won’t be a surprise). Remove him from any joint accounts - Netflix etc. Change all passwords, to everything.

Your other thread is extremely worrying. The fact that you are so accepting of the abuse is as worrying as the abuse itself. Abusers always get worse, more violent, more frequent.

And please keep posting. You need support with this. So many of us on MN have been through difficult breakups with unpleasant & abusive men. You’re not alone.

Are you leaving him OP?

Please please say if you have told this little girls mother. I would be absolutely livid if someone had kept something like this from me! The children need protection in all this.

He's a sadistic sexually violent thug who is a shit, neglectful father. Is he the role model you want for your daughter, and other DC? Don't kid yourself that your DC aren't being exposed to his disgusting abuse, they understand more than are given credit for. Are you going to stay in this relationship? Please don't add another poor innocent child into this toxic environment, both your kids deserve better.

Since it appears that you are not getting rid of your DP...please, please, please never ever ever leave your DD or DSD alone with him. Put a child monitor in the rooms where they are sleeping...my first boyfriend was sexually abused by his SF for years....He would sneak into the child's room and sodomize him...child's mother never knew a thing about it.
Nobody ever thinks their DP would do such a thing to a little child...but of course it happens all the time...why doesn't the child say anything??? The molester threatens that he(she) will hurt the child's other parent or that no one will believe a child over an adult. Please , OP!

OP I've read your other threads and I am beyond shocked. Shocked at the abuse this horrible man is subjecting you to, and hence your children and his, since they are in the same house.
You MUST end this relationship - protect yourself, your children and his child. This is essential. The alternative is abuse, violence, sexual assault, child neglect, psychological abuse - AT BEST, as this is what is happening now. It would most likely get worse. Please OP, take the advice of wiser women than me, contact Women's Aid please xxx

Most of the time I read about relationships and I sort of understand why women find it hard to leave, generally around having nowhere to go, or being so madly attracted to someone when they are in the nice persona that they kid themselves into thinking things will be fine.

In this case, I can't see any reason why you wouldn't end this relationship. It's your house and you seem repulsed by him (unsurprisingly).The only reason I can think of is that it is too important for you to be seen to be part of a couple. Which is infuriating and tragic in equal measure.

Wow. He needs to be an ex. Then you can work on getting the child.
Found your other thread. Tearing your clothes off you and destroying them. Holding a lit lighter near your bits.

Children are very much aware what is going on around them even if they don't have the words to express it yet! My 12 month old nephew knows when his father turns on the camera in his nursery just by seeing the red light come on and hearing the tiny buzzing of the camera being adjusted...not long ago, he looked up at it and waved. Then another night he looked up and said "hi" ....so make no mistake about it...every one of those girls knows what's going on..
They think this is normal behaviour because they don't know any better.😭😭😭😭🥺🥺🥺😢😢😢

In one of you previous posts you say that you were never attracted him, but stayed with him out of loyalty, so you were never really into him. You are wasting your life being with him. And he rips clothes off of you? Sound a bit rapey no? Please learn to value yourself. Get your own place away from him and enjoy your life, safe in the knowledge that you are safe

Hi biscuits, I've your other thread now. If you take the dog and your dd out for a walk, phone the police while out, call his dd's mum at the same time, then it might all be over by the time you get back. The police will support you and they will remove him from your home if it's in your name and you need him out. They will almost certainly take his keys but you could ask them to do so.

You can also ask them to put a 'flag' on your address/phone number, so that they know to respond asap should you need their help again.

Please don't waste a moment worrying about how he'll cope, what he'll say. Experience has told all that men like this behave in a certain way and that when they realise one relationship is over they will find another victim very quickly.

Block him on your phone. Block him on all SM. Block him on email and every other way you can think he might try to contact you on.

Don't waste any more time on him - if you must worry about something then worry about his poor dd and her mum and thank goodness and the Lord that you don't have children with him.

Sounds like my ex

At least give the children a chance if you are so determined to stay with him. Tell his daughters mother to not allow any contact with him and ask your children's grandparents to take custody of them.

Jesus Christ. Why on earth are you risking the safety of all these little girls?

Why do women settle for such losers? And bring their kids up in dysfunctional families so they can pass on the misery? It's tragic.

A man who truly loves and respects his partner never slaps her about.
Never tears her clothes off her.
Never burns her genital areas
Never paws her intimate areas when she doesn't want it.
A man who respects his partner never pisses on the floor like an 8 week old puppy.
He is vile. Disrespectful. Grotesque.
Surely, OP, you can do better.
You sound afraid of this awful 'man'.
Imagine a life without him...
He won't be long without another 'victim'..People like this are practiced at seeking out their next victim to ''feel sorry'' for them.
Get out now...while you still can.

Please please tell his daughters mum what happens, please protect her and not him. Please prioritise getting this man out of your life, I’ve read your other threads and this is not healthy for any of the children.

@Morgan12

Jeezo OP drank a bottle of wine. Hardly shooting up was she.

It's fine to drink a bottle of wine whilst caring for a 5 year old.

Her partner is the one in the wrong here. Lets focus on that.

OP, leave him and tell DSD mother about his behaviour. He will never change.

Are you for real?

No it is not right to drink a bottle of wine whilst in sole charge of a 4 year old. Seriously major Safe Guarding issues here.

I can't even envisage hating myself so much that THIS is what I'd accept in a relationship.