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Partner just pissed on the kitchen floor

613 replies

fuckthisforabarrelofbiscuits · 05/09/2020 03:39

We have a downstairs toilet, it was less than 3 steps away. He's fucking pissed on the kitchen floor. Now he's trying to sleep on the sofa while I pacify his daughter (who ou love dearly!) because he put her to bed at 5.

Keep getting "why you being mardy"

"Babe what's up"

"Why you being off with me?"

Well perhaps it's because I'm parenting tour child while you claim exhaustion b the sofa. And to think this moron is begging me to have a baby with him 😂 give me strength!!!!!!!!!!

OP posts:
Namechange8471 · 05/09/2020 14:29

Yup. This man physically and sexually assaults her, burns her with a lighter, she moved him into her children’s home despite feeling “creeped out” by him, and she allows her 3 year old to share a bed with him.

What the fuck?!

Figgygal · 05/09/2020 14:29

Give your head a bloody shake and get rid of him

honeygirlz · 05/09/2020 14:30

@VodselForDinner

I don't understand how men become so pathetic

Usually because an even more pathetic woman will enable then to do so.

Nice victim blaming there.
Namechange8471 · 05/09/2020 14:36

Op I’ve read your other threads. This ‘man’ has attempted to burn your genitals and ripped your underwear from your body.

For the love of fucking god get out.

VodselForDinner · 05/09/2020 14:37

Nice victim blaming there

The children in the middle of this mess are the victims. They’ve been failed by both adults in this situation.

Devlesko · 05/09/2020 14:38

Nice victim blaming there.

Ha Ha, victim, where?
You aren't a victim if you martyr yourself to a loser, you are a loser yourself in more ways than one.
Losing having a child with a proper man and father, losing having a proper husband who doesn't piss on the floor, losing freedom having to mind someone else's child.
Hardly a victim, more of a continuing with a shit man.

Soubriquet · 05/09/2020 14:43

@Namechange8471

Op I’ve read your other threads. This ‘man’ has attempted to burn your genitals and ripped your underwear from your body.

For the love of fucking god get out.

Ffs

OP the fact he has pissed on the floor is the least of your worries

Save yourself and more importantly, save your damn children and run!

Kick him out

Unsure33 · 05/09/2020 14:43

Why why why would you even think about having a child with this man ?

He sounds disgusting and he won't change .

Think if the children if you wont think of yourself.

Original poster
fuckthisforabarrelofbiscuits · 05/09/2020 14:55

Just to clarify a few points -

My children were out last night, I stayed up watching tv/films and having a bottle of wine since I myself was child free so to speak.

I'd been out after the school run yesterday, taking my children to the park. When I arrived home DSD was already in bed, she'd fallen asleep in the car on the way home. It's not my decision on when he puts her to bed. I agree that it's far too early and was fully expecting that she would wake very early. While trying to wake her dad we played games, watched tv etc, she was well cared for.

I agree that he could parent her better.

My post was not written in a lighthearted way, I most certainly do not find it amusing.

OP posts:
GabsAlot · 05/09/2020 14:58

so why are youstil with him-so he put her to bed then when u got in went out?

diddl · 05/09/2020 14:58

He's tried to burn you & you are still with him?

Dear lord!

Original poster
fuckthisforabarrelofbiscuits · 05/09/2020 14:58

@VodselForDinner

Absolutely NOTHING is happening to my little girl. She bed shared for a short while, with me in the middle, because she's very attached to me and it was a phase I was working through with her.

OP posts:
Intrepidintrovert · 05/09/2020 15:03

I really hope social services are aware. This is chaotic and horrible and OP is not the victim, the children are.

Mittens030869 · 05/09/2020 15:10

The children in the middle of this mess are the victims. They’ve been failed by both adults in this situation.

I agree with this, I'm afraid. The OP has enabled his behaviour by doing nothing.

You must tell your DSD's mum what's going on so that she can change the contact arrangements.

OhCaptain · 05/09/2020 15:11

@fuckthisforabarrelofbiscuits

Just to clarify a few points -

My children were out last night, I stayed up watching tv/films and having a bottle of wine since I myself was child free so to speak.

I'd been out after the school run yesterday, taking my children to the park. When I arrived home DSD was already in bed, she'd fallen asleep in the car on the way home. It's not my decision on when he puts her to bed. I agree that it's far too early and was fully expecting that she would wake very early. While trying to wake her dad we played games, watched tv etc, she was well cared for.

I agree that he could parent her better.

My post was not written in a lighthearted way, I most certainly do not find it amusing.

You drank a bottle of wine while you knew he was out (or in) getting pissed and neither of you thought to prioritise the welfare of a five year old?

Stay classy, OP.

Friendsoftheearth · 05/09/2020 15:12

Op it is time to cut your losses now, because you are all going to be dragged down by him, including your children. However I am most worried about the little girl who is stuck in that situation and too young to defend herself. I think you need to move heaven and earth to ensure she is protected, starting with informing her mother and potentially SS. She is in real danger, what you decide to do as far as he is concerned irrelevant you are a grown women, but you have a duty of care as far as the child is concerned.

Friendsoftheearth · 05/09/2020 15:13

You need to tell DSD's mother immediately.

LovingLola · 05/09/2020 15:14

Absolutely NOTHING is happening to my little girl.

Yes it is. Your children are being damaged by your relationship with this bastard. You may think they don’t notice or are not aware - you’re very wrong.
His own daughter is also being damaged
It’s within your control to keep your own children safe from further harm.
The very least you can do for his child is to tell her mother what went on last night.

ZooNaNa · 05/09/2020 15:17

Why are you allowing this awful man to live in your house, and to be part of your life and your children’s lives?

The right thing to do here is to take his DD back to her mum’s, explain what a useless drunken test of a father he is, then get him OUT of your house, with police back up if necessary. He sounds like a horrible, horrible person.

ZooNaNa · 05/09/2020 15:17

twat

Morgan12 · 05/09/2020 15:20

Jeezo OP drank a bottle of wine. Hardly shooting up was she.

It's fine to drink a bottle of wine whilst caring for a 5 year old.

Her partner is the one in the wrong here. Lets focus on that.

OP, leave him and tell DSD mother about his behaviour. He will never change.

KatySun · 05/09/2020 15:21

Oh goodness - please tell the mother in this scenario and get this man out of your house. What a mess. Certainly you should not have a baby with him.

borntohula · 05/09/2020 15:24

@OhCaptain I think you'll find a lot of parents drink wine when the kids have gone to bed...

TinkerPony · 05/09/2020 15:26

Please get him out of your home and for the sake of your daughters safety.
Report to her mother your stepdaughter situation. It is abuse.
He abused you in every way what to stop him do the same to your daughter and his own. He has no respect for you all females, woman, girl, mother, partner, daughter.
LTB

msflibble · 05/09/2020 15:32

OP, this isn't normal. LTB honestly. You can't be in love with a man you don't respect, and you can't respect a man who urinates on the kitchen floor. It's not possible.

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