To be considerably pissed off that somebody has just phoned me at midnight to ask for a telephone number..

[Carbonarawprawns]

Extended family member who isn't very tech savvy has just phoned me after midnight to ask me to send her - her mobile number - because she 'needs' it.

"Hiya sorry to call you so late I know you're sleeping but I really need my mobile number, can you text it to me by the morning"

I just hung up.

I already sent it to her last week at her request now she's lost it again and thinks midnight is an appropriate time to fuck about and ring my phone for trivial things such as this.

I co-sleep with my youngest (1 year) and for that reason have all notifications on silent except for calls because you know, emergencies.

I'm now awake and pissed off.

If you were me would you address this firmly tomorrow or just let it go? She has form for CFery..

Oh I cannot bear the whole "Oh I am just soooo ditzy" shit some people pull.

Just dont send it. If she mentions it again say you assumed it was a dream as you only vaguely remembered it when you woke the next morning. Keep ignoring and she will stop doing it eventually.

Print it out, frame it and send it to her so she can't lose it again.

I would be furious.

However my phone is set to "do not disturb" from 10.30pm - 6.30am so anybody trying to pull this stunt wouldn't get through. If I were you I'd do the same.

@giantangryrooster

Just call her at 5 and give her a wrong number.

If she mentions it to you Just say very firmly "do not call me at unsociable hours"

@AlwaysLatte

She's in her fifties and she doesn't have dementia no How would you know though? If it's early signs? Several things in your post are flags. Does she have a closer relative you can discuss it with, get her checked out?

this is a very good point. also it depends on who this is really, what is your relationship to her. if it's a distant relative, why does she ring you. is she isolated, does she have no one else closer, who could spend some time with her, helping her to organise, write things down in prominent places, several places etc... now that you are awake it does seem churlish not to text her the number. you may be in need one day/ have forgotten how to teleport...

If she goes to contacts on her phone, it should be listed there under My Phone number!

This! It's in your phone. I believe you can also find it somewhere in Settings in addition to this.

What does she even need it for at midnight?

Out of order.

You can also get it from "settings" by scrolling all the way down to where it says "about phone." Is she not familiar with Google at all? She could have found the answer easily that way.

I kind of like giantangryrooster’s response!

If she isn’t vulnerable I would read her the riot act tomorrow and probably not send her the information, depending on how much harm that was likely to cause.

"I refuse to.

Call me petulant but I match the respect I receive."

But the respect you received is a that you are a dependable person in a time of need.

Your response is to childishly go "no I am not!!" That's the opposite.

I would wait til the morning, send it, saying "please do not call after X time again" and the instructions for how to add herself as a contact in her own phone. On my phone you can stop particular numbers from calling you after a set time in your do not disturb settings. See if you have that and apply if so.

I'd probably ask if everything was ok, and provide, at a normal time the next day.

But going forwards wouldprob do a do not disturb with their number included, unless you are their emergency contact.

I would be angry too and would be letting her know in no uncertain terms tomorrow.

If you have a smartphone you can set it to Do Not Disturb though and that is very useful. Mine is on that front 10pm until 7am weekdays and until 10am at weekends. You can set it so that certain chosen and trusted contacts can always get through, but others that you have not marked out will not be able to.

I allow calls from very close family only in those hours as I know they won't call me for frivolous reasons.

This has given me the absolute rage! I think I'd have to just block her.

But the respect you received is a that you are a dependable person in a time of need.

You’ve confused “dependable person” and “doormat”.

It would be a bit annoying, but seriously - that's all you have to worry about? I would have just sent it to her and forgotten about it, it certainly doesn't warrant asking complete strangers on MN

You can also get it from "settings" by scrolling all the way down to where it says "about phone."

Not if you have ported your number. My 'about phone' gives me the number originally allocated to my sim, which has never been my phone number as I transferred my previous number to this sim as soon as I received it.

If she needs it ‘by morning’ why the fuck didn’t she wait until morning? Such weird behaviour for someone in their fifties!

Hope you’re having a lie in. I think I’d forget all about it and not help.

And when she rings back say "oh, I thought I was dreaming that, as nobody could possibly ring after midnight unless it was an emergency".

I'd respond with "I don't know your number either I can only see you by your nickname in my contact list. It's Dimwit, does that help?

I've got the rage for you! Why couldn't she call in the morning? Raise it and don't be kind.

Yes, when you send it tell her not to ring so late again. She could have texted. Also though I would put everything on silent including calls. What emergency could there be?

I wish I lived in a world where Indid not have to fear middle of the night emergency calls!

And the reality is that iPhone cannot be set to only allow certai. Calls at night since by definition, an emergency call is likely (in my case) to be from a hospital, OOO doctor, care worker etc

It must be exhausting to be so angry all of the time!