To be considerably pissed off that somebody has just phoned me at midnight to ask for a telephone number..

[Carbonarawprawns]

Extended family member who isn't very tech savvy has just phoned me after midnight to ask me to send her - her mobile number - because she 'needs' it.

"Hiya sorry to call you so late I know you're sleeping but I really need my mobile number, can you text it to me by the morning"

I just hung up.

I already sent it to her last week at her request now she's lost it again and thinks midnight is an appropriate time to fuck about and ring my phone for trivial things such as this.

I co-sleep with my youngest (1 year) and for that reason have all notifications on silent except for calls because you know, emergencies.

I'm now awake and pissed off.

If you were me would you address this firmly tomorrow or just let it go? She has form for CFery..

Cheeky fucker. Yes I'd address it!

How old?

Do they have dementia?

I thin you lost the moral high ground by then going onto MN rather than back to sleep

I’d be teaching her how to scroll back up through messages or sending her a letter with the number on it saying “ since you woke me and x up last time”. Replacing x with your child’s name.

She's in her fifties and she doesn't have dementia no.

I have enough trouble sleeping as it is so I'm going to be awake for ages now

Yes, when you send it tell her not to ring so late again. She could have texted. Also though I would put everything on silent including calls. What emergency could there be?

@Polnm

I thin you lost the moral high ground by then going onto MN rather than back to sleep

Fair point! However the reason I came here is because I was on the verge of sending a very sweary message which I may or may not have regretted in the morning

@ButteryPuffin

Yes, when you send it tell her not to ring so late again. She could have texted. Also though I would put everything on silent including calls. What emergency could there be?

Elderly parents, accidents (them or my DP who works away)

Just send it FFS

I would be furious.
I would send send a text this is your mobile number. Now that me and dc are both wide awake at 12.30 and it’s going to take hours to get back to sleep why do you need your mobile number at this time? And why didn’t you find the text message I sent you last week with it on?

Can you set it so that it'll only ring for certain numbers, i.e. parents and partner?

If you have an iPhone, you can block all numbers except the ones on your favourite list who would still be able to call as normal.
It's on the do not disturb options

I’m awake and still working, but I’d be pretty hacked off if the phone went.

Calling after 10pm is unacceptable, unless it is because you need to rush to hospital to say goodbye to someone on their deathbed.

Next time you see her, set an alarm on her phone to go off at 3 am.

@TantricTwist

Just send it FFS

I refuse to.

Call me petulant but I match the respect I receive.

That's pretty lame, not to mention very inconsiderate.

Just call her at 5 and give her a wrong number.

Extended family member who isn't very tech savvy has just phoned me after midnight to ask me to send her - her mobile number - because she 'needs' it.

She doesn't know her own mobile number? Never mind being tech savvy or not, wtf hasn't she written it down somewhere if she doesn't want to memorise it?

YANBU OP. Phoning anyone late for anything other than a real emergency is incredibly inconsiderate. Doing it to someone who has a small child all the worse. I'd guess you awoke abruptly with an adrenaline rush because you'd automatically assume it was an emergency. Tell her in no uncertain terms never to do anything like that again.

I'd tell her to figure it out herself.

She's in her FIFTIES?!!! WTF??!!!

How the fuck is she THAT thick when it comes to tech?!

I'd message and tell her never to call your home again after 10pm unless it's an emergency. Make sure she realises that her call disturbed your child and that she was selfish.

What a knob!

And once she does, tell her to write it on a piece of tape and stick it on the fridge as well as her address book and on the phone itself.

If you are still awake in a few hours, phone her back and make sure she is wide awake before telling her to get a pen and paper and write the number down.

Give her time to get back to sleep then phone her and tell her how to find her own number on her phone and to write that down too.

You may not get much sleep but you won't be the only one.

Nah, fuck that. Some people think their uselessness is adorable - it really isn't.

If she goes to contacts on her phone, it should be listed there under My Phone number!

She's in her fifties and she doesn't have dementia no
How would you know though? If it's early signs? Several things in your post are flags. Does she have a closer relative you can discuss it with, get her checked out?