AIBU to not want to be called the version of ‘mum’ DH and family have in mind

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All the other kids in the family have a slight regional variant for mum or mummy but I don’t like it ... aibu to just want to be mum or mummy?

I really hate Mam. I think it sounds really rough. You should be called whatever you want.

DD calls me Mumma but she was born in a southern European country where Mama was the norm so she has just carried this on with her own variation when we moved back to the UK. I never actually told her what to call me. She just came up with that herself.

If she is talking about me to someone else she will talk about her mum.

Oh and I'm not on Instagram!

I should be a mammy ( Irish family) but we live in Scotland so kids call me mum x

'Mummy' makes me cringe with the tweeness of it all. DS calls me either by my first name or 'Mima', which I think is what the alien child in Shaun the Sheep: Farmageddon calls his mother.

My ILs almost called a summit with my parents as to who would be called what as grandparents (granny/grandma/grandad etc) but as soon as DS was toddling, he started calling them by abbreviations of their first names, anyway.

DD is 13. She calls me mum on a daily basis or, quite often, still goes with mummy especially if she's trying to butter me up for something. The more exaggerated the 'ee' sound at the end, the bigger the favour! (Similarly daddy, but she also tends to do a Daaaaad? with an inflection at the end when she wants something from him) I was mummy when she was little.

But, to be fair, she calls me quite a lot of other things too, mamma etc. I have a ton of names for her so we just call each other whatever at the time!

@Thisismytimetoshine

How does Mami differ from Mammy?

It doesn't - just the spelling. Mami being the phonetic Welsh spelling of 'Mammy'. I'm a Mami or Mam as they get older.

I'm Mam/Mammy. Regional norm. My Mam is Nanna. Regional again (outing) DP constantly uses Mum and Grandma. Drives us all crackers but its what he's used to.
Point being, we're all brought up differently but your kids, your choice.

@Fungster

It's not "mam" is it? Hideous. Makes me cringe...

Oh bore off dear. Mam is used by a wide area of the country and there's nothing wrong with it.

I live in a “mum” area but I’m very jealous of Northern Irish parents who get to be mammy and daddy. There’s a something about a fully grown man, with an Irish accent calling his dad “daddy” that makes me go all wobbly. It’s a very new attraction. I wonder what it means 🤔 Possibly just that I fancy Jack from Silent Witness

I'm loving Moon-Face! Nostalgic memories of the Faraway Tree.

Have to admit I had no idea the 'Mam' variant was so widely used as it's one I rarely hear. I thought it was a Welsh/Irish thing. 'Ma' did used to be our occasional jokey/affectionate name for our Mum who God love her took it in good part ❤️

It's for you to decide and no one else, OP. My MiL was the first to become irate when I referred to her as the Grandma of our then unborn DC. She informed me very tersely that she insisted on 'Nana'; a term my family has never used but hey, that's her choice. I easily found myself able to respect that; she still persists in addressing me as Mrs Hisname! 🤣🤮🤣

@AllTheUsernamesAreAlreadyTaken

I live in a “mum” area but I’m very jealous of Northern Irish parents who get to be mammy and daddy. There’s a something about a fully grown man, with an Irish accent calling his dad “daddy” that makes me go all wobbly. It’s a very new attraction. I wonder what it means 🤔 Possibly just that I fancy Jack from Silent Witness

I know exactly what you mean 🤣 - a big Belfast lad saying “Dawddday” is very endearing!

I live in the north-east and grew up here and I love Mam and Mammy. DC call me Mummy and Mammy.

I'm 'mum' and 'mummy' in a very very 'mam' area. My husband has finally confirmed but his family think I'm 'ever so posh'. They usually say mammy but my husband is good at squeezing the odd 'mummy' in. I just don't like 'man' to me it sounds so whiney.

My Mum always used to say that she wanted to be grandmere rather than granny or nanny - no idea why, not french.
Her parenting style put both me and my sister off of the idea of children, and although my brother had lots, I was NC with both of them as an adult, so no idea what the children called her.

I have always been mummy. Now growing up DD still calls me mummy DS calls me Ma. I answer to anything.

DMs family use mam/mammy. I grew up in a mum area, and she was mum and I'm pretty sure that's what she wanted. I now live in a different mum area. Ds calls me bum, the little swine that he is!

@Fungster

It's not "mam" is it? Hideous. Makes me cringe...

Why? It's just a regional variation.

Because its another way of sneering at the common northerners. 🤔🤔🤷🏻‍♀️

Bloody hell I can't believe the amount of negative comments about regional variations here!
Surely it's just a personal thing between you and your kids? Mum, mum, mummy, mammy, mom, ma, mam? Why on earth would anyone object to how other kids refer to their own mothers?

FWIW all my kids still call me mummy - not at my insistence, but because they choose to. They're 12,16 and 18. If they all decided to call me by my first name I wouldn't care. They're my kids. As long as they're not saying 'oi bitch' I don't understand the problem!

You choose your own name.

I call my mother Mam, she's a native Welsh speaker and I've only ever lived in England. I often refer to her as Mum to others (this started when I realised other kids at school called theirs Mum) but only Mam to her face.

I fully intend to be Mam and Mami to my DC!

Is it mam?

If it helps , I call mine mam. My dad calls his mom. And my brother calls ours Mum.

I grew up with a Mum, Mummy.
I was and am, a Mum, Mummy, and Mother, by my children.
"Mother" is decidedly jaded 😁

one calls me muuuuumimthirsty or sometimes muuuuummmimhungry

the other calls me mummy or mommy.

When I'm writing about my mum, I write 'mama' - like if I was texting my sister, "What should we get mama for her birthday" which, now I look at it, looks pretentious as fuck haha. But when I say it out loud, it comes out as 'mummer' or maybe 'mamma'. Mum's her Sunday name for serious conversations - I don't know why, she was definitely 'mum' when I was little, but as we got older we both defected to mama.

She really objected to 'mother' (when I went through an Enid Blyton phase) so I would say you get to choose - I learned quickly not to call her that or she would full name me!

I have gone through the iterations over the years from Mummummum to Mummy to Mum, to Mater, Mither, to ugh. He calls me Mama when mucking about, but it's Mum for the most part. He is almost 25. When he really wants to miss me off, he calls me his aged parent.