Serious? Do men know the slightest about women

[Gothamgirl1970]

Posting here for traffic and opinions.

As it’s 3 am and I am posting it’s because I simply am perplexed and need the hive mind.
Dating apps: presumably a person joins up because they would like to meet someone for company, to find love, just a shag or probably 100 other reasons I can’t contemplate this late.
I’m not sure if this holds true for all age groups but what I’ve observed is in men 46-58. In the profile area you can post some photos if you wish. A lot of men do but write no bio which tells me nothing and essentially they are just a body.
Here’s my serious question. Approximately 60% of men with photos lead the opening photo of themselves In Lycra gear with a helmet and sunglasses on, a bit of mud displaying their bicycle with pride. In many cases all 3 photos will be man and bike. Mid flight, crossing some finish line etc.
I know lots of women who are also befuddled by why a man would think bike photos would interest any woman in him at all. Shouldn’t they put a photo that shows the face, and is in a friendly happy pose?
What is it these cycle mad men are trying to convey? I cycle most of the time so I won’t have any time to spend with you? I want a woman who will cycle with me ? Look at my bike it’s impressive? I look decent in Lycra?
Please help. My friends and I are dying to know why they do this and what they are trying to communicate and further who are they thinking they can attract with this?

AIBU to not have to look at literally hundreds of cycling photos?

It takes assort these men are not for you so just move on .As you can see by replies on here some women don't mind photos like that .
You will find OLD brutal people just don't want to waste time .So will be more direct hence the question out weight but as people have said women ask men about height and there no outcry about that.

My first thought was also communicating being fit, having a hobby and a life. However, if there’s no bio and photos that don’t show the person’s face, I’d wonder if they’re a cheater and don’t want to get recognised by friends who might use the app.

I am not on a dating app but would looking in that man bracket of 46-58 if I were. One of the things that would put me off a man was if he was very sedentary and not very active. So, if a man was up a mountain, on a bike, running across a finishing line and drinking a green smoothie then I would for that because a) I am the female equivalent of that and b) I want someone fit and healthy as if and wen I become single I certainly won't be looking after a man again in any way.

OMG, why can't you retrospectively edit stuff on here.

@rwalker direct is fine rude and pornographic is not

@OngoingOmnishambles I get that but 3 almost identical cycling photos with the face totally covered and no bio at all?

The lack of bio does sound annoying, but I guess I’d be interested in starting conversations with men who look fit and active and enjoy being outside, rather than photos of men posing in a pub holding a pint or just in their bedroom in front of a mirror.

[quote Gothamgirl1970]@OngoingOmnishambles I get that but 3 almost identical cycling photos with the face totally covered and no bio at all?[/quote]
It could be many things. Maybe he lacks confidence in his looks. He could be a cheater and not want to be seen. He could be embarrassed and not want to be spotted by people he knows in real life. He might just think he looks good like that.

Middle age men are actually a pretty awful bunch. DH and I went through a very rough patch last year and one of the things that made me decide to try again was I looked around me for a while and observed middle age men and decided that the one I had was the best of a bad bunch. At least he is nice to look at.

LOL! My son had his photo stolen and he was found on a dating app..{definitely not dating} and he said ''It was a pic taken showing me in my mountain bike helmet, with a stubbly face'' - He is in a committed relationship and was spotted by a single friend of his DP.

It caused a shock..But fortunately was a fake profile from a long way away...And reported by him and taken down.

Maybe men feel ''Ooh look...I ride...therefore I'm fit''?

But definitely..look at the bike. If it looks like he is ''at one'' with the bike, that is what he really loves. Riding with his mates. Be warned.

@Catsup my dining room and my work ladies room because it had a full length mirror which I don’t have at home. I also had face photos and also me riding my horse and one in casual clothes.
Of course there is a lid for every pot and if it wasn’t for me I moved on as I am sure people passed me over.
But just to correct your assumption that I am a heightist I’m not and it wasn’t on my list of things I cared about

@OngoingOmnishambles that was my conclusion as well which is why I deleted. It would have been nice to meet someone amazing but meeting someone who is at best just a person with a pulse is worse than being alone. I have a good life and if I meet someone organically in future years then I’ll consider it a gift, but as you yourself know what’s available is mostly pretty awful.

Men have no interest in pandering to women because most of them think they should be accepted just as they are.

Women feel they need to improve themselves, market themselves, lose weight, put on makeup, remove every hair from eyebrows down because they feel like they aren't enough.

Most men just go tada, here I am, fat, useless, ugly, sweaty, self obsessed, bike obsessed or whatever they are and some poor deluded woman will take them on anyway.

@DancingCatGif can we set up a GoFundMe and put this on every billboard In.The.World ?

sheer genius

Most men just go tada, here I am, fat, useless, ugly, sweaty, self obsessed, bike obsessed or whatever they are and some poor deluded woman will take them on anyway
This, unfortunately

I never mentioned height? That was actually another poster. But to be fair is a pic of you sitting on your horse that much different to a bloke sitting on his bike? Surely it's just people exhibiting they have a hobby?

[quote Gothamgirl1970]@DancingCatGif I couldn’t agree more and I have a theory that age appropriate men for me (between 50 and 60) are usually divorced and they want 35-40 year olds![/quote]
@Gothamgirl1970Sadly, I think you are right.

I know a 69 yr old man, short, fat, arrogant and rude....And he only dates 30 yr olds. I am astounded that he gets them, to be honest.
A colleague said ''He isn't known for his charm''......Maybe some 30 yr old women aren't fussy.

@juggyty

Most men just go tada, here I am, fat, useless, ugly, sweaty, self obsessed, bike obsessed or whatever they are and some poor deluded woman will take them on anyway This, unfortunately

This with bells on. 👍

@Catsup it’s a close up with no hat or sunglasses trying to hide my identity so yes it’s totally different and I had multiple other photos and a bio.

I could be wrong but you come across as a man. If that is the case I am quite sure that you wouldn’t be interested in a woman basically in disguise so I’m not really sure why you are fighting a corner that’s really awfully silly.

Middle aged men are actually a pretty awful bunch.

^ this

Sort of agree about middle-aged men,
Adore my own grumpy, golf-obsessed, tubby middle-aged man (bless him), but if anything happened to him I certainly wouldn't go shopping for another one.

Angelofdeath

Guess the lift buttons are to show that he can still get it up?

Well, you know which ones to avoid now as you find that weird and anointing?