Serious? Do men know the slightest about women

[Gothamgirl1970]

Posting here for traffic and opinions.

As it’s 3 am and I am posting it’s because I simply am perplexed and need the hive mind.
Dating apps: presumably a person joins up because they would like to meet someone for company, to find love, just a shag or probably 100 other reasons I can’t contemplate this late.
I’m not sure if this holds true for all age groups but what I’ve observed is in men 46-58. In the profile area you can post some photos if you wish. A lot of men do but write no bio which tells me nothing and essentially they are just a body.
Here’s my serious question. Approximately 60% of men with photos lead the opening photo of themselves In Lycra gear with a helmet and sunglasses on, a bit of mud displaying their bicycle with pride. In many cases all 3 photos will be man and bike. Mid flight, crossing some finish line etc.
I know lots of women who are also befuddled by why a man would think bike photos would interest any woman in him at all. Shouldn’t they put a photo that shows the face, and is in a friendly happy pose?
What is it these cycle mad men are trying to convey? I cycle most of the time so I won’t have any time to spend with you? I want a woman who will cycle with me ? Look at my bike it’s impressive? I look decent in Lycra?
Please help. My friends and I are dying to know why they do this and what they are trying to communicate and further who are they thinking they can attract with this?

AIBU to not have to look at literally hundreds of cycling photos?

ForestTrumpbut I'm pretty sure that if I were happy to date an unemployed man or one who worked in a low paid casual job, particularly one who wasn't physically particularly attractive, I could also find a much younger boyfriend quite easily. But I'm not - I only date people from a similar background to myself, on a similar level. I just find it impossible, in a romantic sense otherwise.

For instance, there's a 28 year old guy who comes into my work who is quite sweet and clearly fancies me. But he has a face like a potato, is as thick as two short planks, and gives me the ick, so I wouldn't go near him.

Or the work experience student is quite sweet and probably easily persuaded, but he's only 23 and you just wouldn't, would you? If you have proper boundaries and don't want to manipulate younger people who are easily influenced.

I am one or those plain women with a good looking partner. People probably wonder what's going on there, and to be sure if he'd been picking me out of a line up purely on looks I doubt I'd have been in the running! But we met in the innocent times before OLD when he was a shy galky young student and I was full of youthful vim and vigor, and we sort of grew up together. Which has its own drawbacks but has resulted in me almost accidentally punching well above my (considerable!) weight lookswise

Frankly OLD, especially if you're not in your 30s any more, sounds grim as fuck. I'd be investing heavily in group activities, hobbies etc, even talking to friends about their sane but single male friends - anything but putting yourself on a meat market populated almost exclusively by men who have been chucked by other women in middle age and are bitter, resentful and entitled, who you'll spend your life proving to them that you're "not like that bitch", or carefree fellows looking for an easy no strings shag at the younger/hotter end of the spectrum.

Seriously also what will a man really add to your life at 50 that can't be filled in much more simply by some good friends and a sex toy? If I was your age and child free I'd be buggered before I'd let some bloke move into the centre of my life.

@Gothamgirl1970

Or this/ and a kitchen shot just for you although I wouldn’t spend hours talking about it. I also didn’t attach my sub zero in case you thought I would want to discuss it

Someone posted this on OLD?

I've never tried it, I suppose I could put a picture of my most esteemed hair clip.

Don't let it put you off, carry on with your good self.

Seriously also what will a man really add to your life at 50 that can't be filled in much more simply by some good friends and a sex toy?

Ha ha! Love it. I do prefer a real live man for sex, but you are right. This thread is full of very interesting, capable, joyful women - all over 40 I guess - we have much to be happy about even if OLD is full of mid life crisis men on bikes looking for any woman as along as she’s half their age. My life doesn’t seem to bad really. I could definitely pick up a man half my age but he would probably not be my equal if he went for me. And what is love and relationships if someone is not a genuine match?!

Thinking about it, I do know many people around me who have married women much younger. None of those marriages are really great. They are okay, or mediocre, or a bit cringe, but none seem to have the sense that people nearer in age have of really choosing the other person for them, none seem to have a deep connection, it seems like much more of a transaction.

Gothamgirl1970

Ah yes! not quite the usual horse box lugger but very nice anyway Cayman is it not?. Seemed to more look a Suzuki badge on the front?.

AnTeallach

Five ten lovely height! DD1 is 6 foot in her bare feet gets it off her old dad 1998 mm at the last count;!

VeniceQueen2004 Yes i do know a few who have been chucked out or robbed as they see it. One was cheated on quite badley and 20 years on he still brings it up a lot and he's the only one i know who rides a bike!

Used to that is, had a bad stroke a few months ago, decent bloke otherwise..

@Justaboy I’m lucky enough to get either a fleet car or choose cash car allowance as part of my benefit package. My brother chose that from the list I got related to seniority. Here’s what I know about it. I put petrol in it and drive it through the Tesco car wash after buying petrol. I drove it less than 1000 miles last year because I’m a nervous driver in London and worse at parking. I prefer the tube.

@VeniceQueen2004 I laughed with recognition at your post. I am a professional career woman with some poise and resemble Elle from Legally Blonde ( but older). My late husband was a well known touring bass player covered in tattoos everywhere, bald etc. Many times people thought a mugger was following me or that I was his parole officer !

@TomPinch

You can question my qualifications all you wish (and I do not believe I have mentioned them specifically).
I invited you to cite sources, research, journals or any kind of data to support your labelling of professionals publications and cognitive mapping “pseudoscience” which is pejorative and back it up.

Your deflection of insulting me says it all.

Here’s what I know about it. I put petrol in it and drive it through the Tesco car wash after buying petrol. I drove it less than 1000 miles last year because I’m a nervous driver in London and worse at parking. I prefer the tube.

Waaah! what a way for a lovely motor to go! If you want i'd like to come down and see how it will perform and i expect very well indeed:)

Perhaps not with my hulking frame i may not even fit! used to have a Lotus Esprit turbo some years ago now lovely car could do some rather naughty things with it amazing roadholding and like the 165 odd MPH down a autobann:) really inpressed the then wife to be, seem to remeber her screaming stop or words to that effect in her native tounge!

Still these days a more practical German load lugger:! Suppose i must get a bike sometime! yep a Honda fireblade, will that impress???