To have a birthday cake DD can’t eat?

[MummaW88]

I’m planning ahead for DD’s 1st birthday. She currently can’t have dairy or egg due to allergies. I’m hoping she outgrows them in time! It’s proving hard to find options for a vegan birthday cake; I’m not good at baking, and any bakeries nearby charge an extortionate amount for what I have in mind. I have a friend who makes beautiful cakes and has offered to make one, however she’s not confident with making a dairy and egg free one. My question, is it awful to have a birthday cake that she can’t eat? To clarify, I will get some little vegan cupcakes that she can have! she’d only be eating a small bit of the birthday cake so I thought cupcakes would be a good compromise. (I admit, the birthday cake would be more for me 😂) is that terrible?

I agree with the majority of pp that Yanbu and she prob wont eat any cake and in any case doesnt know its her birthday.

Just in case you have a 1 year old who loves cake and would get upset that she cant eat her own cake, why not make a large cupcake that is vegan and decorate it in a way she will like and stick the candle on that? Still have ur friends beautiful cake for yourself and guests...

@Wishimaywishimight I do agree in principle but isnt that kinda the point of mumsnet?

She is turning 1. This birthday is just for you. No need for cake nor cupcakes. No one cares and especially your dd wont. As she wont know it is her birthday. As she... is...turning...one. ..ffs

Well said MummaW88
Rudeness to such a gentle subject is just plain unkind. Not interested in people like that.
You sound lovely and the fact you’re having a hmm...what shall I do moment shows that. Your dc will just love 💕 being surrounded by you all. Massive salted caramel cake for the adults and cupcakes for the birthday girl. She may have to opt out of the G&T’s though. Have a great party.